Continued Comments

Nina said… in response to my comment on the post A Servants Rantings

Well it’s good to hear about their attitude after church. I was ready to
comment that while I definitely agree with the other house rules, maybe making
their stay there conditional upon attending church might do more harm to their
spiritual lives than good, simply because people tend not to embrace what if
“forced” on them. But I totally understand your position, and maybe you’re right
— get them in church and let the Holy Spirit do the rest. Of course, we know
the Holy Spirit can and does convict everywhere, not just church.

Hello Nina,

I had considered the harm that could be done by making church attendance a condition. I thought that maybe it could build resentment. It might even cause them to dislike Christians, but what made the decision for me was this scripture “As for me and my house we shall serve the Lord.”

I can not be a hypocrite. If I don’t make it conditional for them, then when my adult children are living at home they can use this experience as a reason to say they shouldn’t be required to go to church. I am more concerned for what my children are exposed to, than with my brothers feelings. I have to be, because I am in part accountable for my children’s salvation at this point.

I have a 14 year old daughter whom I talk to about fornication and premarital sex. I tell her how it hurts Gods plans for family. She knows that we are against it, yet we are letting her unmarried uncle and girlfriend stay with us. This is one reason why we regret allowing them to come and stay. I don’t see scriptually where it would be helpful to them spirtually to compromise on anything more than I already have.

Thank you Nina for your comment.


  1. Lawanda says

    You can let you kids know that their uncle is sinning by living with his girlfriend, but also not helping those in need is a sin as well. Christians need to balance these things. Jesus, after all, hung out with sinners, not just his disciples…

    My Grandma took in several relatives who were not living a christian life. Her rules were: No bad mouth in the house, no smoking in the house, no being drunk in the house, and YOU MUST GO TO CHURCH WITH ME.

    Some of them ended up being preachers later in life 🙂 Not all of them, naturally. One of them is in prison right at this moment. He actually stole from Grandma.

    But, she still took him in, and she did her part. You are doing your part.

    There will be a time they will move out. Hopefully it will be on good terms. But if not, you still did your part. ♥


  2. Anonymous says

    I feel so bad for your circumstances right now, truly. You love your brother & feel an obligation to help him, but you also know that your priority has to be your immediate family.

    Your brother is privileged right now to be living in your home. I do not think that the housekeeping requirements you’ve laid before him & his girlfriend are excessive, or unfair! As to the church attendance, you’re not forcing them to believe. That’s the Holy Spirit’s job. But you are asking them to “go with the flow”, & on a Sunday, at your house, that means going to worship.

    I have 2 daughters, myself (ages 14 & 15), & I can certainly appreciate the tight spot you feel yourself in when it comes to the disclaimers you’ve already had to offer up, by way of explaining things.

    I thought about your family many times throughout my day yesterday, & I’ll continue to pray for you!



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