Can You Hear Me Now?

I get these emails from time to time that give me tips on just about everything. These tips listed below are to help build communication skills in children. I haven’t made any plans to use them but I thought I would pass them along.

“The best way to teach children anything is to make it fun and involve as many of their five senses as possible. Here is a list of ten games and activities that will foster effective communication skills in your children.”

  1. Play Telephone
    This is the classic game in which a message is given to the first person, who then whispers it to the next person, and so on. The more the merrier. This old elementary school game is a delightfully fun way to develop your child’s listening skills. This game is perfect for any age. Begin with a simpler message for the younger children and gradually increase the size and complexity as they get older.
  2. Directions to Fun
    Have your older child write out directions from your house to somewhere fun: for example, the ice cream shop. Preferably give the directions to a third party who is unfamiliar with the area, and have him follow the directions precisely. Did you get there? If so, have an ice cream cone! If not, talk about what went wrong in the communication. What could be changed that would help get you there the next time? This is a wonderful exercise to help children from 4th through 12th grade learn to give better directions. However, it also is a lesson about communication. In order to effectively communicate what you want, you must learn to say what you mean so that others can fully understand.
  3. Dress for Success
    Go to the store or any other public place dressed in your Sunday best. Notice how you are treated. Next go to the same store or a similar location dressed shabbily or inappropriately for the occasion (i.e., to a Mercedes dealership in old jeans and a worn out T-shirt). Notice how differently you are treated. This illustrates that nonverbal communication has consequences. You can also do some instruction by pointing out to your children how other people are dressed. Paint them a picture of the consequences of the communication that is sent when people wear skimpy clothes or dress like hoodlums. Tell them what their choice of clothes is saying to the average person–to a prospective employer, for instance. Give them the facts on how this will impact their lives a year, two years, or ten years down the line. Explain to them what could happen tomorrow if someone draws a conclusion based on those clothes that puts them in harm’s way.
  4. Talk ‘n Listen
    Have your child sing Yankee Doodle while another person recites the Pledge of Allegiance. See how long they can go without flubbing it up. If your child can do this too easily, have each one read from a different book. Tell them to take turns relating back what the other reads. This helps illustrate the old saying that God gave us two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we talk.
  5. The Um Contest
    Have your child talk about a familiar topic, for example, his or her favorite activity or book. See how long he or she can keep from uttering “um,” “er,” “uh,” “like,” or “ya’ know.” This develops the child’s confidence as well as eloquence. Eliminating these “words” in your child’s vocabulary will cause him to focus on becoming more articulate and increasing his vocabulary.
  6. Feed Me Applesauce
    Okay, this one is a bit messy, but fun. Blindfold someone and have that person feed applesauce to another blindfolded person. Have a third person who is not blindfolded give the directions to both parties. This teaches students to give directions more effectively. (Note: You will want to make sure that your children are not wearing good clothes, and that this activity takes place on a bare floor and not carpet.)
  7. Presentation
    Have your child give a presentation of sorts to a local retirement home. This can include giving a craft demonstration, giving a short musical recital, singing, or reciting a poem. This teaches your children how to present themselves. This can be done with children of all ages. The sooner you get your child comfortable with talking in public, the better. It will become like second nature to him and he may be able to avoid the biggest fear that most people have–public speaking. Studies show that people who enjoy speaking in public are more successful than those who do not. So get them out there using the talents God gave them!
  8. What’s Going on in the Picture
    This one is great for the little ones. Have your child tell you what he sees in a picture. Encourage him to describe the scenery, the people, the colors–anything at all that he sees. For older children, have them talk about what they think might have just happened before this scene and what they think will happen after. This gives them practice in formulating ideas in a logical manner that others can easily understand.
  9. Finish a Story
    This one is also very good for different age groups. Kids love stories! You start off a story and have your child finish it. For very young children, you can tell a nursery rhyme and have them make up an alternate ending or add on to the story. This exercise is great for teaching beginning verbal communication skills.
  10. Impromptu Speech
    This exercise is wonderful for children of all ages. Pick a topic that your child is familiar with or just loves and ask him or her to speak for about two minutes on that topic. After a while, have your student graduate to speaking on more difficult topics and/or for longer periods of time. You can start them off by talking about their favorite book or hobby, and eventually graduate them to more in-depth or controversial subjects, such as political issues or current events.

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  1. Anonymous says

    These are all great ideas, & we have used a couple of them in our family. I’ll have to try some of the other ones….like that applesauce one!!



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