The Good Wife

 

The Good Wife’s Guide is a magazine article rumored to have been published in the May 13, 1955 issue of Housekeeping Monthly, describing how a “good wife” should act.

The article intends to represent antiquated (outdated or old fashioned) attitude towards sexual equality that is no longer accepted.

I came across this article while searching Wikipedia and apparently the author who wrote these rules has a twisted view of the true relationship shared between a husband and wife.

However, I think we can use some of these tips as a measuring stick to becoming a virtuous women such as the one found in Proverbs 31.

Let’s take a look at the original version:

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people.

3. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc and then run a dust cloth over the tables.

6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering for his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

7. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are little treasures and he would like to see them playing the part

8. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

9. Be happy to see him.

10. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

11. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first – remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours.

12. Make the evening his. Never complain if he comes home late or goes out to dinner, or other places of entertainment without you. Instead, try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax.

13. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

14. Don’t greet him with complaints or problems.

15. Β Don’t complain if he’s late home for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through that day.

16. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

17. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

18. Don’t ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him.

19. A good wife always knows her place.

Now let’s look at my revised version:

1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready, on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed.

2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, and hair. Be fresh looking and fresh smelling.

3. Be happy and pleasant.

4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives.

5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Make sure the home is neat, clean and fresh smelling.

6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for the family to unwind by.

7. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. Helping your husband achieve comfort at home will provide you with immense personal satisfaction.

8. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces (if they are small), comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes. They are his little treasures. This reassures him that he has chosen the best mother for his children.

9. Minimize noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet.

10. Be happy to see him. Treat him as if he were the most important person that could ever grace your presence.

11. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.

12. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first.

13. Make the evening his. Try to understand his world of strain and pressure and his very real need to be at home and relax. Understand the pressure it is to be surrounded by the world for 8-12 hours a day. Give him time to unwind.

14. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.

15. Don’t greet him with complaints or problems.

16. Don’t complain. Express your needs with a meekly and humbly.

17. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or have him lie down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him.

18. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.

19. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.

20. Speak to him as you want to be spoken to. Tell him respectfully, when you disagree with him. Don’t yell or raise your voice. Trust God and submit to your husband as is right in the Lord. If he is wrong God will deal with him.

21. A Godly wife desires to please her husband.

Comments

  1. Country Girl At Heart says

    Hey Brenda-

    I think that with a list like this, we as women can all find something on the list that we can begin doing today that will make our marraiges so much more joyous.Thanks Brenda for your comment.

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  2. Anonymous says

    I like this list, too. So many good, pithy little bits of advice. I know I don’t want to be just one more person to “deal with” of the many he’s seen & talked to that day. So, some of the more applicable points for me would be to let him unwind a bit first…before I throw at him every unpleasant thing that happened that day!

    thanks,
    Brenda

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  3. Country Girl At Heart says

    Oh when I started doing this my hubby’s eyes began to light up. He began to smile in his innocent boyish grin. He began to act as though he could leap over a mountain. He began to offer me the possible and the impossible. When we go out of our way to please our husbands it does something great in them. I want him to know that he is my king and I his queen. I’m going to title a post one day called “Are you Vashti or Ester?” It will be inspired by the book of Ester. Thanks for commenting Sallie.

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  4. Sallie says

    I like the list..”treat him as if he were the most important person that could ever grace your presence”.. gotta work on that one!

    God bless,
    Sallie

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