Many marriages are struggling in the area of intimacy. There are so many distractions available to take our focus away from it. In order for a marriage to thrive sex has to be factored into the equation. Sex needs to part of your weekly agenda. The same way that we clean the house and go grocery shopping each week we need to also make sure that preparations are made to include a roll in the hay at least once a week.
Sex is on my weekly to do list. I know that on Saturday, Sunday and Monday evenings my husband is home, so I plan to get the kids to bed and the house tidied up early. On these evenings I fix my hair, put on my flattering undergarments (no granny panties) and throw on something a little form fitting (in the house of course). This always sets the tone for the evening. When I do this my husband transforms from the ‘Super Provider Dude’ he’s been all week into ‘Mr. Romance’.
I make this a part of my week because I know that my husband needs physical interaction from me and I need attention from him. We meet one another’s intimacy needs. I need for him to listen to me talk and to hold me some nights without asking me for sex. And he does that for me. In return I know that he feels like a MAN when he can satisfy me in a way that only he can. It makes him walk with his chest a little farther out and his head a little higher. It gives him a pep in his step and a confidence that he can only get from knowing that his wife desires him.
What man would feel good about himself, thinking that his wife doesn’t desire him? Because Ladies, that’s what he thinks when you don’t have sex with him. How can you desire him and be repelled by him at the same time? He may not tell you, but you are hurting him and your marriage by withholding yourself from him. Open up the lines of communication and put on the table whatever it is that is keeping you from desiring intimacy with your husband.
Begin to pray and ask God to bring healing and oneness back into your marriage. Take your heart to God for repair so that you can get past the obstacles that are eating away at your marriage.