Friend #1: How often do you and your husband have sex?
Friend #2: SEX?….Oh no, we’re married.
Just a few weeks ago a survey was taken which posed this question to a panel of married women, “If given the option to go shopping spree at the mall or have sex which would you choose?” It was reported that 98% of the women chose the shopping spree.
I thought this was funny so I decided to turn the tables. When my husband came in from work I said to him in the most serious tone that I could muster.
“Honey, if you had the choice to go to a Super bowl game or have sex (with me of course) which would you choose?” He said “Are the tickets FREE?” I told him that they were. He grinned, then slightly shrugged his shoulders and said “I’d have to choose the Super bowl. We can have sex anytime. The Super bowl is a once in a lifetime opportunity.”
Many husbands and wives are, for whatever reason, denying themselves of a very significant benefit of marriage…SEX. There was a time when I would purposefully withhold myself from my husband.
I am not talking about a hectic week where I am so tired I fall asleep as soon as my head hits the pillow. I am referring to making a conscience decision not to allow him to touch me.
I would justify my actions by telling myself that I was angry, tired, or frustrated. Some days it would be a headache…others a stomachache or backache.
Regardless of the excuse I didn’t realize that it wasn’t just sex that I was denying myself.
Sex is a natural stress reliever. It provides the same deep, relaxed type of breathing that you achieve during Yoga or Pilates. This breathing relaxes your body, oxygenates your blood and reduces the stress you feel.
Massaging before or during sex can be a great stress reliever as well. We need touch for our emotional health. Studies show that babies who are not touched enough can fail to thrive, and touch continues to be important into adulthood. So if you find that you are unmotivated try incorporating more time for touching before and during sex.
Depending on your level of enthusiasm, you can burn a lot of calories during sex, and receive the weight management benefits of exercise as well. Most of us when we are under stress allow the sex life to fall by the wayside, when in fact it should be one of the first things that we do when plagued with stress.
So instead of denying myself the natural stress reliever that God has given me I am going to begin to incorporate more sex into my marriage this year.
Will you join me? Not in my bed of course! But challenge yourself to take full advantage of the wonderful gift that God provided for a husband and wife to enjoy.