When the Going Get’s Tough Should the Tough Always Get Going?

When I first came to salvation I had a pastor who would preach often regarding satan’s attitude towards the family. My former pastor showed me, through the use of scripture, how much satan hates the family structure and all that it represents.

With that being said, I have used this very same knowledge to aid me in the process of keeping my family together during trying times.

Many of us have or will experience rough spots in our marriage and parenting relationships. What I would like to focus in on is, how do we respond in these times of trouble?

The trouble that am specifically referring to is financial trouble. These are the troubles that most often lead to divorce. My husband and I have my share of financial challenges throughout my marriage some of which have led to discussions of divorce.

What is it that has kept my marriage together during the tough time of financial strain?

1. I don’t blame my husband for our financial troubles. Instead of blaming him I have conditioned myself to and encourage him. I tell him that we will make it through this. I remind him that we’ve been “here” before and God has provided then and He will provide now. This strengthens his faith in God and his love for me. We help each other believe through tough times, which avoids divorce and helps us to live in peace.

1 Corinthians 7:13-15

And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.

But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.

2. I pray for a surrendered mind. Instead of worrying about how we were going to meet each financial need. I would remind myself of Gods’ promises. These are just a few of the promises that I use to remind myself that God is in control.

Deuteronomy 4:31~For the LORD thy God is a merciful God; He will not forsake thee, neither destroy thee, nor forget the covenant of thy fathers which he sware unto them.

Deuteronomy 31:6~Be strong and of a good courage, fear not, nor be afraid of them: for the LORD thy God, He it is that doth go with thee; he will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Joshua 1:5…as I was with Moses, so I will be with thee: I will not fail thee, nor forsake thee.

Matthew 6:27-29 Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature? “So why do you worry about clothing? Consider the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.

Satan wants to destroy the family, so we must do all that we can to fight for the family. We must fortify our families by creating a plan of action for times of trouble. Satan has one mission and that is to destroy the people of God, especially by attacking the family unit. “The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy”.

Begin praying for direction from God to show you how to keep your family together in times of trouble whatever they may be.


  1. Hadias says

    Chayil, that is awesome. For you and your husband to make a conscience decision to take steps to keep the passion and desire in the relationship is great.

    Living apart for any period of time takes trust. It wouldn’t work for everyone, but I am so glad that it works for you guys.

    I think that it can be a good idea to take time to be apart if neccessary and also in oreder to prevent it from becoming neccessary.

    Sometimes when we get married, life get’s busy. So I plan a date nights about twice a month. We also plan a romantic getaway without the children in order to focus solely on each other as husband and wife.


  2. Chayil says

    Dh and I have had our share or problems but we both know that this is it! This is the choice we made this is our family there is no way out, this is a promise we made to each other and we both intend to keep that promise. That being said we do give each other space whenever one of of needs that. In the decade+ we have been together we made the choice to live apart for 2 short periods of time. In that time dh courts me, comes over for dinner and always eats with us and puts the boys to bed. It might sound strange to others but allowing ourselves to date and fall in love again and missing each other dearly has helped us solve all issues. Everything seems so trivial when you realize how life without your mate in the house would really be.


  3. HopewellMomSchool says

    Another great post! I’m not married, [had a very short marriage long, long ago] but I see so many folks rush to divorce or separate instead of pulling together. The one a day or so ago on sex was also exellent–how many stupid women out there try to “discipline” their husband for not helping or whatever by keeping themselves from him? What possible good can come of that. Keep writing the Truth!


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