This idea is generally held, so far as regards the condition of woman, by all masculine writers… that all women are made to be married.
They believe, too, that woman’s noblest virtues of conduct are called forth, and her highest excellences of character perfected, in domestic life; in short, that her destiny is marriage, and her place of honor and happiness is her home.
From: Manners: Or, Happy Homes and Good Society All the Year by Sarah Joseph Hale
Why are so many women shouting the mantra “I don’t need a man!”. I listen to them and I hurt for them. I understand that I could have been them. In fact I was raised by the very same kind of women. None of my aunts were married nor did they ever have kind words to say about men.
Has the physical ability to have and bare children alone dismissed the need for a man? Has our access to job opprotunites and higher incomes clouded our judgement so much that we would deny the very thing that God wants for us?
1 Timothy 5:14
I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.
Women have been spewing out this self loathing phrase for some time now and I would like to take a moment to delve into the root of it all.
Why is it that women adamently procalim that they “don’t need a man”, when the Bible specifically commands her to marry? I believe that the women was decieved in the garden and she is being decieved even today.
Women are being seduced out of the very thing that God created them for. The man and women were created to be together. The marraige union is the physical representation of the relationship between Christ and the Church.
As the husband loves his wife, he demonstrates to her and to his children how Jesus loves His church. The husband through working and providing shows how he gives of himself for his wife. He shows how he puts his family above his own immediate needs in order to care for the needs of the family.
In return when the wife loves her husband as she demonsrates to her children a reverence, adoration and dependence (not independence) upon her husband. She shows obedience as she disciplines herself under the direction of her husband. She helps her husband to become a better man as she becomes the primary provider of emotional support and encouragement for him. Her submission to him demonstrates a faithfullnes to him that will motivate him to do anything for her.
When women stop believing that it’s all about independence and freedom or simply doing their own thing, then they will find a peace that can only come from above. They will be able to see things more clearly when they take thier selves out of the way and put God in front of them.
Women miss the mark by getting hung up on the “Independent Woman” band wagon. It must be taught and reinforcedt they have already been set free in Christ. We do not need to be afraid to surrender to a man a God, for fear of loosing our freedom, because we are already free.
Below I have listed some Biblical truths that dispell some of the worlds lies that women both married and single have been believing.
God wants you to:
*Depend on your husband
*Respect your husband
*Let your husband protect you
*Let your husband provide for you
*Let your husband make the final decision (He has to answer to God in regard to the his family)
*Help your husband by working with him not against him
If the Bible tells us that it is not good that a man be alone then it is equally not good that women should be alone.