“Every judicious parent will, indeed, try to gratify her children in their reasonable wishes. She will study to make them happy; but she will never allow them to gratify themselves in contradiction to her wishes.“
Page 37 of “The Mother at Home
Raising children has been one of the most gratifying duties of my life. Everything that is human about me wants to give my children everything that they desire that is good. I want to buy them the the newest game consoles, clothing and toys, not because they necessarily deserve it , but because I love them so much. John 3:16 says “For God so loved the world that He gave…”.
True love should generate a desire in you to give to those whom you claim to love. The quote from the book titled The Mother at Home says this “She (the mother) will study to make them (her children) happy; but she will never allow them to gratify themselves in contradiction to her wishes.” The same holds true for God. He will never allow (make provision for) us to do what is against His will.
Our children are born in iniquity and are surrounded by the temptation to sin just as we are. It is therefore our duty to withhold from them those things that are contradictory to a lifestyle of holiness.
Love at times means denying your children of their desires. This denial can result in an unhappy child but if we don’t begin to take the steps to stand strong in our convictions we will begin to see less and less believers in the next generation. The bible says that we are to leave an inheritance for our children’s children (our grandchildren)Proverbs 13:22.
I do not intend on just leaving them money. My desire is to establish an eternal legacy built upon Gods word. Yet, how can we leave them a eternal legacy if we are not able to stand against the emotions of our own children?
With prayerful (not emotional) consideration, we must begin to set up a standard of living for our children. We must become steadfast in our faith in Gods word and be willing to fight for it until it is manifested in the lives of our children. I fight for my children daily. I fight against principalities and every high thing that tries to exalt itself against the will of God being performed in my children’s lives. (Ephesians 6:11-13 & 2 Corinthians 10:4-6)
I will not back down. I have made a commitment that can only be fulfilled through the power of God and that commitment is that I am not going to heaven without my children.
I have faith in the Lord and in His promises for His word says “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”.Proverbs 22:6
Have you been trying to raise your children on your own without any help from the Lord? If so, repent right now and ask God to come in and take the reins. Ask him to show you how to be the parent that your children need. Admit that you need God’s help and that you cannot raise them without him. He made them and he loves them even more than you do. He has a plan for their lives that is far greater than anything that you could ever imagine. Trust the Lord with all of your heart and lean not to your own understanding.