Dear Anonymous,

I received the following comments from an anonymous commenter. Don’tcha just love judgmental anonymous commentators?

These three comments were in this order and all from the same person.

comment #1

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post “The Benefits of Coupons“:


comment #2

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post “The Benefits of Coupons“:

What are you going to do with ALL that cereal? It seems a little wasteful. Hope you’re donating it.

comment #3

Anonymous has left a new comment on your post “Smart Shoppers Want to Know…“:

Like your stockpile idea but think that, while there is certainly nothing wrong with being prepared, there is also something to be said about sharing our wealth. My husband and I made the decision to pass along much of what I gain from frugality and couponing to our church food pantry and to other feeding programs. This way, I can “play the coupon game,” save us tons of money, fill up our pantry, eat well AND help to take care of the “least of my brothers and sisters.” Thought you might like to pass this idea on to your readers – the what to do with all the stuff


I had to chuckle when I read these comments. And those who know me would understand why. I can understand why someone would have the audacity to visit my webpage, see how God has abundantly blessed my family and assume that we are wasteful.

In fact if anonymous were my friend or a frequent reader of “A Proverbs Wife” they would already know that giving is a major part of the ministry that God has laid on my life.

They would know that I have a calling on my life by God that obligates me to “assist anyone in need and to reach out my hands to help the poor. Prov. 31:20”.

They would have known that I consider that my reasonable service…in fact the least of what I can do. They would know that I initiated the “Covenant Class Big Give” at my church where my entire Sunday School class has agreed to collect items throughout the month to be donated the first of every month in 2009.

My family is by no means wasteful in fact we are just the opposite. In addition to giving food to the church pantry, we go through our home every month looking to what God is leading us to give away. This voluntary purging we do is not limited to just what we gain from shopping wisely. It includes, clothes, vehicles, electronics and more.

None of what we have belongs to us it all belongs to God. We give to the Salvation Army, Good Will, The National Kidney Foundation of S.C., Freecycle and have recently added to that list Sister Care. We do all of this, plus tithe every week and care for our family of 6. All on my husband $35,000 a year income.

There is no other way that we would be able to do this if we were wasteful. There is no way we could do it without God and by the grace of God we plan to do even more in the years to come.

Now that I have enlightened you, let me give you a quick lesson on judging.

Matthew 7:1-5 says, 1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. 3“Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye”.

Here is a bit of advice that I’d like to leave you with. Strive to be a women who “When she speaks she has something worthwhile to say, and she always says it kindly. Prov. 31:26“. Let us not forget what it says in Titus 2 that, “The aged women likewise…be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things.”

In closing I believe that Anonymous intended well. I believe that she (oh, I’m sorry did I say she) thinks giving to the needy is the noble and responsible thing to do.

I agree.

She may have even intended to encourage me to give to the needy with her comments. However, their is one saying that my husband loves to remind me of that I’ll leave with you.

“The road to hell is paved with good intentions”

Meaning: 1) People who may believe they are doing good can end up doing bad (the law of unintended consequences)

Be less judgmental of others please.


  1. Melinda says

    Hadias, I really admired your response to these comments. I thought you handled it in a very kind and Christ-like manner and I truly respect that. I hope that your annonymous commenters will get the chance to read and hopefully be touched by your response. Blessings!

    I am leaving an award for you at my blog.


  2. Marie says

    I’m sorry someone gave you such a hard time. The person must not know you very well. I don’t either and have only been to your site a few times, but you’re an inspiration to everyone and a good role model.


  3. GritsGirl says

    Wow its horrible that people comment like that. Dont let the hurtful comments discourage you! i love folloing your blog and will continue to do so! 🙂


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