A Proverbs Wife

Hospitality: Are You a Mary or a Martha?

You know the story right? Mary and Martha have Jesus into their home. Martha fusses around making food and cleaning while Mary sits with the guests. Pretty soon Martha is upset with Mary and tells Jesus to tell Mary she had better get up and help.

Do you tend to plan elaborate get togethers only to end up worn out and frustrated the day of the event?

I was the same way. There was a time when I stopped hosting get togethers all to avoid falling victim to the Martha syndrome. I would rather not host, than be a grumpy host.

Let me share with you a few tips that I’ve learned that have helped me to be a happier host.

1. Prepare simple dishes. Crock pot meals, roasts and casseroles will prepare themselves. Practice making these meals for your family on a regular basis and simply pull them out of your arsenal for get-together’s.

2. Cook as much in advance as possible. Don’t wait until the day of your event to cook items that can be cooked in advanced. Some this taste better and even require a setting or marinating time period. Creme pies are great the longer they are given to set. Casseroles can be assembled and placed in the fridge up toe 48 hours in advance.

3. Ask for help and accept it. When friends and family ask is there anything they can do…please, please, PLEASE…take them up on the offer. You will not get hostess of the year award just because you handle every aspect of every event. What you will do is burnout. People love to contribute to a successful event. Allow someone to bring a dish if they offer. If someone is not a great cook but would like to help, suggest that they bring fresh flowers or stay after to help tidy up.

4. Remember that the homes in magazines are just that….homes in magazines. Homes that are filled with families and love, have visible signs of life. In a real home, you may find a pair of shoes carelessly left by the doorway or a cup in the sink. Don’t be surprised if you spot a cobweb in an inconspicuous corner. Perfect homes are not what builds memories, it is time spent in fellowship that achieves that goal.

5. Use this time to connect with friends and family. God does not desire that we burden ourselves with formal entertaining, competitive cookery, and a closed circle of carefully chosen guests. As he welcomed us into HIS family, his desire is that we welcome others into ours.

“When you entertain, you bring honor and glory to yourself. Showing hospitality brings honor and glory to God.” Author Unknown

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3 thoughts on “Hospitality: Are You a Mary or a Martha?

  1. Counting Beans in GA says:

    What a perfect article to read this morning. I am/was definitely a Martha over these holidays. By the time my daughter's birthday party came around on Friday afternoon, I was so tired from cleaning and cooking. I need to remember all of your advice.

    By the way – I just love your website, especially all of your homemaking advice. Hopefully, one day I will be able to start my homemaking binder. (I already have a coupon binder – LOL). Thanks again for all of your hard work.


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