Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her.
1 . Don’t yell at them. It destroys their self worth and after a while they will begin to tune you out. Yelling makes kids insecure and with time they will begin to resent you.
2. Thank them often. This may mean that you have to try a little harder to see the good they do. This is your chance to demonstrate grace.
3. Tell them what they do right twice as much as what they do wrong. Kids are going to mess up. A lot!! However, so do we and nothing builds our confidence more than when we know beyond a shadow of a doubt, that we did something right.
4. Be physically affectionate toward your kids for as long as they will allow (hugs, kisses, massages, rubbing their hair, back, etc.) In fact, even when they act like they are too old for something, find another way to continue being physically affectionate toward them. If they are too old for kisses, switch to hugs and back or hair rubs.
5. Make time to listen to their stories, dreams, goals and ideas. Allowing them to express themselves and share what’s in their heads keeps the lines of communication open. It gives them a sounding board for the things that have their attention.
6. Support their hobbies and talents. Do what you can to cultivate the things they naturally excel at. If you can’t afford music lessons for your little musician, consider buying music related gifts for the holidays. The same applies if they like geography, art or anything else.
7. Teach them about Christ and explain why you believe what you believe. This can be done in several ways including living your life in a way that shows you are following Gods commands to the best of your current ability and understanding. Parents should be the primary source of a child’s education on their faith.
We teach our children about their faith through family Bible reading and discussions. We also invest time in seeking out resources that will help our children understand why we believe what we believe. We love them therefore we equip them with the tools they’ll need to choose the God they will serve as adults.
8. Show them how to care for the home by assigning age appropriate chores. This will give them a foundation for managing their own homes one day. These lessons should include caring for the homes upkeep as well as budgeting and financial management.
9. Teach them the basic principles of finances through hands on experience. They should learn the three primary fundamentals of money as early as the first time they receive money. They should be taught from the very beginning to give, save and spend.
10. Pray with them and for them everyday. There’s no greater love than to ‘give’. And what better way to shows this love than by the giving of your time to conversation with God about your children and together with your children. Our children don’t wonder if we pray for them, they know it. They don’t wonder what we desire from God for them, they know it. They hear it when we pray with them. They know that when we pray we are asking God to equip them with eternal gifts such as wisdom, knowledge, understanding, favor, grace, mercy, courage, faithfulness, peace, joy and patience.
There are so many ways that we can show our children that we love them, many which are not listed here. It’s important that this task is done with careful consideration and done quickly and regularly. You may feel like yo have plenty of time and that you can begin next week or next month but the thing is that our children’s childhoods are a finite time period, that once gone, is gone forever.
Use the time you have with them at home to love on them as often and as hard as you can. If you’d like prayer for guidance in any of theses areas, please consider leaving your prayer request in the prayer forum.