One thing I can say beyond a shadow of a doubt is that I LOVE MY MAN and according to me, he’s the next best thing to being married to JESUS CHRIST!!
My husband takes good care of me and treats me well. He does these things first, because of his relationship with Christ, secondly, because he loves me so much and thirdly, because I treat him like a king.
I honor my man with love, respect, service and affection. I am able to do this because I honor God. My commitment to God is what allows me to be all of these things to my husband. I am able to do all of the things I’m about to share with you because I realized something early on in my marriage.
Would you like to know what it was?
I realized that my loving, respecting, being of service and affectionate toward my husband could not be tied to my husbands behavior. It had to be tied to something eternal.
That never changing foundation which I tied my behavior as a Christian wife to is my relationship with the Savior. It is that relationship with Christ, (not the one with my husband although he is so sweet), that allows me to move beyond myself and demonstrate the characteristics you’ll read about below.
So here are three things I want every Christian Wife should be doing.
1 – Honor your husbands authority above all others. Your husbands thoughts, goals and opinions should be more valuable than those of any other. His word should have the final say. If you are struggling as to who you should believe or follow, as a Christian wife, you should always default back to your husband for the final word. The bible calls for us to be submitted to our husbands.
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Ephesians 5:22-23
2 – Be honest with your husband at all times and treat him good. The quickest way to lose your husbands trust is to lie to him. It can be a lie as little as sneaking ingredients into his meal that he does not like and then saying that you didn’t. A lie is a lie and when he finds out that you are willing to lie to him, you will slowly if not immediately lose his trust. Hold on to that trust by being honest in you dealings with your husband.
That he can let down his guard. Make your marriage one where your husband knows that you are his ally and not his adversary.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:11-12
3 – Use your words to build your husband up not tear him down. Wives should refrain from telling friends, children, in-laws, co-workers and others about small misunderstandings or petty disagreements she has with her husband. She should also do her best to speak to her husband without nagging. In other-words, make your point and leave the issue alone. Here’s why these two tips are important, first…when you place your husband in a negative light you give people an opening to judge him or gossip about him.
When you place your husband in a negative light you give people an opening to judge him or gossip about him. —-> (Tweet This)
Well after you and he has gotten past the disagreement, you have already created a negative perception in peoples minds about your husbands character. When disagreements are small wives usually end up forgiving their husband of the offense.
Most important of all, you must sincerely love each other, because love wipes away many sins. I Peter 4:8
Secondly, nagging is a result of a lack of faith and it brings about no good result in a husband.When we nag our husbands what we are essentially saying is, “I don’t trust that God is in control of every situation that concerns me”. If God is in control and we believe it, then we can make our desires known and wait for our husbands to respond or wait on God to move in the situation.
The steady dripping of rain and the nagging of a wife are one and the same. Proverbs 27:15
As Christian wives, we should also be looking to the Bible and our personal relationships with God a mirror for our lives. When we read the Bible and talk with God, our lives should begin to mirror what we are reading and what God is calling us to do. If you are a wife and you haven’t been doing all that you should to honor God in your marriage, stop right now and repent. Nothing is too great for God to forgive. He will help you restore what has been lost in your marriage and give you the tools to become whole again.
What area do you struggle with most as a wife out of these 3?