How I Became The Woman of My Husbands Dreams
I love him.
No, I really love him and I love being around him. Faults and all.
For that reason I make it my business to be the women he desires and to fulfill his desires.
Now let’s get one thing straight from the outset. I am not telling you how to treat your man. What you do with yours is your business.
What I am doing is giving you a glimpse at why I esteem mine and I want to share the great benefits that can come from building up your man.
Is my husband the most wonderful and perfect man in the world who never does anything wrong?
Is he the kind of man that never gets on my nerves?
Has he never hurt my feeling and crushed my spirit knowingly and unknowingly with his words or actions?
Of course he has.
But you know what?
I love him.
And I adore him.
But I love God even more so instead of holding my husbands faults against him, I turn them over to God and allow Him to deal with my husband. I have seen my husband reap rebuke from God on my behalf which is why I don’t hold on to grudges against him.
Knowing that my husband has to answer to God makes it easier for me to overlook his faults. (Tweet This)
At the end of the day my husband is my soulmate and I would do anything for him that I can to meet his needs.
I am my husbands help meet and the only one he can lawfully lust after without offending God. (Tweet This)
Did you hear what I just said? I am the only woman that he can desire without offending God.
Of all the women on earth I am the one my husband has vowed to love, cherish, desire, provide for, protect and constrain his sexual desire for.
He is at my mercy for physical intimacy. That means he has decided to withhold his desire toward any women but me because of His love for the Lord.
For that reason I do my best to say ‘YES’ instead of ‘NO’ to his advances.
When he needs to be intimate, I’m not saying ‘NO’ if I can help it.
Several years ago, I locked my mind into what I’ll call call the ‘YES’ gear. Once I told my mind what we were doing, my body began to follow.
- I intentionally began laying aside some responsibilities so that I would have energy for him.
- I became more intentional about keeping myself physically fit and nicely dressed.
- I made a point to wear perfume and make up that he liked.
- I became mindful about what I wore when lounging around the house and at bedtime.
- I made an intentional decision to wear only the best for him and went as far as donating all of my frumpy sweats and t-shirts to Goodwill.
At the end of the day I am a Christian first and my husbands wife second. Everything else takes a backseat to those first two priorities. (Tweet This)
I am the only wife he will ever have and I refuse to be the cause if him ever regretting his decision to spend the rest of his life with me.
I believe that because of my hearts desire to please him any way I can he trusts me with his heart.
He is confident that I am here to build him up and not tear him down. For this reason there is nothing that he won’t do for me within the confines of Gods will.
My husband adores me because he knows that I am willing to put aside what would makes me comfortable to often make him comfortable. In return, he does the same for me.
It’s become almost like a game of who can love the other more. And what I love about this game is that we both end up the winners.
Again, please don’t think I’m telling you what you need to do in your marriage, because I’m not.
I don’t give advice. I just live my life in a way that moves me closer to God, closer to my husband and closer to my kids. If anything I do encourages others to do the same, so be it.
At the end of the day my goal in sharing this is to give you a glimpse into a portion of how Proverbs 31:10-13 is lived out in my home.
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
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