Is your marriage unequally yoked?
Mine has been for most of my walk with the Lord. My husband and I were married as unbelievers and I came to know Jesus very radically.
He, on the other hand, was still on the worldly side.
He couldn’t understand why I had changed and why all of the sudden I was so different. Even though I was quite clear in my decision to follow Jesus, he just wasn’t sure.
My husband distanced himself from me because he grew tired of me preaching and exchanging sharp words over the issues he had firmly settled in his mind. It was here that I found myself unequally yoked.
For years I struggled with survival in the life God has called me.
To be honest, during this season of life, I was so jealous of my friend’s husbands. They are all married to Christian men, and for the life of me, I couldn’t understand why I was so alone in my marriage.
My friends seemed to have it all. All I wanted was to sit in church as a couple, do bible studies together and hold each other accountable.
I imagined my husband would encourage me to give our money to local ministries and want to serve alongside me. I had my own plan and God had His.
I somehow learned to thrive in my mismatched marriage. I also learned that in that moment, God gave me a choice.
He is such the gentleman.
In this season I learned to let go of my anger and frustration and simply love my husband.
Being in love with your husband is a choice. We need to make a choice each day to remain in the marriage we are in and pursue happiness through the transforming power of Jesus in our lives.
If you’re in an unequally yoked marriage, I want to offer you hope and I want you to know that you’re not alone.
I have shed many tears through this journey, yet the Lord has continually redeemed every lost moment and hurt.
It was in this desperate place that He taught me to be an overcomer and how to be utterly dependent upon Him. Here is the scripture I held on to for dear life:
“But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
Nevertheless, each person should live as a believer in whatever situation the Lord has assigned to them, just as God has called them.”
1 Cor. 7:15-17
As believing wives, we are encouraged to live in peace and make our marriages work (but not to endure abuse or deny our faith). God may have put you where you are to play a key factor in your husband’s salvation.
You may be the tool that our eternal Daddy chooses to use. In fact, I believe God may have called you to this exact place at this exact time.
Beloved, with God you can soar above the darkened waters of hopelessness. With God you can have wild hope.
How do I know?
I know because God saved my husband. Nothing about it was because of my will. It didn’t happen when I wanted it to or in the moment I thought it would occur. Our relationship is far from perfect, but we are living it out daily. I am having to TRUST God moment by moment.
In conclusion, the Lord stands ready to pour into us every single gift we need in order to walk on this rocky path of the unequally yoked.
I believe God is calling us to be intentional, working to keep communication open and to love our husband with purpose, without conditions or limitations.
Believe it or not, we are the aroma of Christ in our husband’s life.
Is your aroma stinky or sweet?
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