For those of you on the journey toward learning more about being a Biblical wife today’s topic is going to be a special treat.
Keep in mind that I am by no means an expert on the Bible but I am convinced that it is true and what is written are infallible instructions for Christian living.
The bible gives us instruction on every situation we’ll ever face and it includes clear instruction on the Christian wife’s vocation.
Titus 2:3-5 gives us some very beneficial instruction on what we as Christian wives should be doing with our time and it also shows us where we should be spending our time.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behavior as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. Titus 2:3-5
It says that wives should be keepers at home.
What does that mean to you?
Here’s what it means to me.
The word keep is a verb (or action word) meaning to to hold in a given place, to maintain, especially in accordance with specific requirements, to cause to continue in a given position, state, course, or action.
So scripture is telling me that my job as a wife is to manage my home environment in accordance to Gods principles on an on-going basis with the goal of keeping it in line with Gods principles.
In the Greek the word for keep is oikourgos (oy-koo-ros’) meaning working at home.
When I first read Titus 2:5 and contemplated the idea of being an at home wife, I felt as though God was playing some cruel joke on me.
I felt like it was impossible for me to leave my job, be at home full time and still meet our monthly financial obligations.
You might be thinking the same thing but it is possible because “nothing is impossible with God”. Luke 1:37
1. How can Christians can fulfill the call to be keepers at home in today’s society?
Many of us have been taught that debt is normal and necessary in today’s society but the truth is as Christians we live in this world but are not to conform to the ways of the world. Romans 12:2
We are called to conform to the word of God about all things including our finances.
If we have debt we are in bondage.
Debt takes away our freedom thus taking away our right to choose. When families debt, husbands have to work long hours and often times more than one job.
If the debt is great husband often require and encourage their wives to work therefore placing on her a burden that is Biblically not hers to bear. Her focus is then drawn away from her primary role of caring for the home.
Being able to live on one income will start with getting your finances in order. Getting into debt is easy but getting out is hard. It’s hard but not impossible so don’t give up. If you decide to embark on the journey your going to want to keep this list of verses for Christians concerned about finances handy.
Everything is going to come at you trying to discourage you, but Gods word hidden in your heart will shine a light in any dark situation that comes your way.
2. What should wives be doing at home?
The end game of being a keeper at home is to build a Godly heritage through our service to our families. In Proverbs 31:10-31 there is example after example of the biblical character of a Proverbs Wife.
She is a women who has submitted the cultivation of her character to the will of God. She is a women that her husband can trust with everything.
Wives who are keepers at home are free to be primarily concerned with the spiritual, emotional and physical well being of her husband and children. They don’t have to balance the demands of her job with the responsibilities as a homemaker.
They are not burden down with deadlines, commutes and office politics. Instead of building a business for someone they are cultivating a Godly family for the Kingdom of Heaven.
If a wife does decide to work, it will be in a vocation where she is not inhibited by the constrains of a traditional job. It will be a career that she is able to bring under the subjection of Gods order for the family.
The job she does will not come before her responsibility as a wife, mother and homemaker. Proverbs 31:24
3. Encouragement for those who plan to pursue this lifestyle.
If you are already working outside of the home but want to be at home it will take some intentional effort on you and your husbands part. You both have to be on board with the decision.
It will take a sound financial plan for reducing debt and transitioning to one income. When we decided to get out of debt we used The Total Money Makeover: A Proven Plan for Financial Fitness and The Financial Peace Planner: A Step-by-Step Guide to Restoring Your Family’s Financial Health because it was created around biblical principles.
We also prayed a lot and studied scripture on Biblical womanhood, manhood and finances. We searched out every scripture we could find a slowly began to ask God to make our lives mirror what He was revealing to us.
It’s been a journey seven years in the making. Even with the opposition we faced from friends, family and even believers, it’s one that I would do all over again if I had too.
I see a marked difference in our lives from when we were not mirroring Gods instructions for wives. Myself, husband and children are more peaceful and we are seeing God do so many miracles in our lives.
If you plan to embark on this journey I want to pray for you today.
Father in Heaven,
Your thoughts are not our thoughts and your ways not our ways so when You reveal things to us through the study of your word and the revelation of the Holy Spirit we look at the standard as impossible.
You know the pressures of our society and You understand our fears, but despite what the world tells we want to trust You. For the husbands and wives who have read this article and desire to follow Your will, I pray that you would bless them with a peace that surpasses all understanding.
I pray You’d embolden them with Your courage as you did for David, Joshua and many of our Christian forefathers. Give them the faith to take what they’ve read here today and apply it to their lives to glorify and honor You.
Your sister in Christ Saidah — CEO of AProverbsWife.com