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Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Today I want to share a few truths that you must grab hold of if you are going to walk in the authenticity of what God’s words says about you as a wife and mother.

Several women have talked to me about the guilt they feel about the shortcoming as a wife or mom and the common strand amongst each conversation has been to justify their weaknesses by saying, “I’m not perfect”.

Now, there is nothing wrong with not being perfect, but what there is something wrong with is the guilt we tend to carry around for not being perfect.

Becoming the Perfected Women Versus the Perfect WomenWe carry around this guilt as if God expects us to be perfect and He doesn’t.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh:                                                                 Romans 8:1-3 KJV

So why do we feel guilty? Why does admitting we are not perfect make us feel sad, defeated and ashamed?

It’s because we are not walking in the truth of God’s word.

Again, I say….GOD DOES NOT EXPECT US TO BE PERFECT. Point blank and the period!

It’s not His standard. WE WILL NEVER BE PERFECT and that’s okay.

God’s goal is for us to be perfected. Being PERFECT is a finished work. Being PERFECTED is an ongoing work.

As long as we are on this earth and living in these earthly bodies, God will be working on us.

So if you are feeling guilty because even after your best scheduling efforts you are not able to keep your home spic and span, make three meals a day from scratch and be the perfect homemaker…

Stop it!! Just stop!!

God is not calling us to be perfect homemakers. His goal is not perfect homes. Its perfect hearts. He is working on our character. The job of managing a home and family is a tool He uses to help cultivate better character!!

Why does God give us kids and husbands who even after our best efforts to teach them to clean up after themselves fall short?

It’s to teach us grace and patience.

It’s not about the messes in our homes. It’s about the messes in our hearts!

So today when you feel like you are the worst wife or mother and that you’ll never be that perfect women, I want you to kick the devil in the teeth and say, “That’s right!! I’m not PERFECT and I never will be but I know my GOD is PERFECTING me!


If you are struggling in the area of feeling life a failure as a wife or mom let us know in the comments. There are 1,000’s of women in this community who have been where you are and want to come along side you, pray with you and lend a listening ear.

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5 thoughts on “Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

  1. Such a good reminder & well said. Thank you!!


  2. My head knows that I don’t have to be perfect, but my heart forgets so often.

    Thank you for the discount on your new book. I’m eager to read your wisdom on this important subject. I prayed many will purchase your book and allow God to use it to use their words to uplift and blesss.


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Pamela, Thanks so much. I am also praying that the words will be an encouragement to all who read it.


  3. This is so good, and right on time for me! I know that God doesn’t expect us to be perfect. I don’t know why I beat myself over it, though, even though I know better! Thanks for the reminder!


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Brandi, I have done the same. It’s so easy to play the victim and fall into the perfection trap. There are just so many influences around us that make it easy to look at our selves in an unsavory light. Let’s try our best to look at ourselves in God’s light this year.


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