What we found to be the common thread in our lives even when we were at the brink of calling it quits, was our love for God.
We knew that we loved God deeply. We had a strong sense of what God was trying to do in us individually but we had to figure out how He planned to help us become more cohesive.
When we began to make scripture the crux of our character verses letting our actions be based on what the other was doing or not doing right we began to clearly see the value in why God had brought us together.
When we focused on changing ourselves rather than changing the other person the whole dynamic of our marriage changed.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
(Colossians 3:12-14 NIV)
If you focus on changing yourself versus changing your spouse the dynamic of your marriage will change. (Tweet this)
4 thoughts on “Weathering the Storms of Marriage”
This was a good post. Marriage is full of ups and downs but it is important for us to remember the commitment we made to our spouses and to our God. We can get through the cloudy days and enjoy the sunny ones even more.
The Proverbs Wife Reply:
October 6th, 2013 at
@Janeane Davis, that’s so true. I’ve learned to embrace cloudy days now that I’m more mature than I was 10+ years ago. I always looked at cloudy days as the possible end of my marriage. Now I realize those times challenge my husband and I to become better people. Iron sharpeneth iron. Proverbs 27:17