Today I can truly say that I love my husband more and more each day I spend with him.
Nowadays, we get along with hardly an argument. We do disagree on things like what I should cook for dinner but nothing more alarming than that.
It’s taken us some time, self reflection and sacrifice to get to this point but in hindsight it was worth it.
My husband and I often joke about how we even ended up married since from the day we met we were rolling on a stormy sea.
I was very argumentative and he was stubborn
What we found to be the common thread in our lives even when we were at the brink of calling it quits, was our love for God.
We knew that we loved God deeply. We had a strong sense of what God was trying to do in us individually but we had to figure out how He planned to help us become more cohesive.
When we began to make scripture the crux of our character verses letting our actions be based on what the other was doing or not doing right we began to clearly see the value in why God had brought us together.
When we focused on changing ourselves rather than changing the other person the whole dynamic of our marriage changed.
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
(Colossians 3:12-14 NIV)
If you focus on changing yourself versus changing your spouse the dynamic of your marriage will change. (Tweet this)