This list 21 Things a Stay at Home Wives Can Do for Their Husbands is not Biblical nor is it one that I feel is a good fit for all families.
I don’t do everything on this list, but I do use it as a guide or rather a checklist of things I can do. No checklist of tasks is going to make a marriage stronger if they are not done in love.
I hope you will use this list as a catalyst to help you determine how you can make your home a place of security, love and joy for your family.
21 Things Stay at Home Wives Can Do for Their Husbands and Vice Versa
1. Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready. This is a way of letting him know that you have been thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they come home and the prospect of a good meal (especially his favorite dish) is part of the warm welcome needed. This can be especially true for families where the wife works late.
2. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you’ll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, and hair. Be fresh looking and fresh smelling. This is true for husbands as well. Don’t be glued to the Xbox or television when your wife comes in. It makes her feel special to know that you were awaiting her arrival home.
3. Be happy and pleasant. Life is going to give you lemons… trust and believe that, but what are you going to do with them. Make the choice to be joyful when you’re with your spouse.
4. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Are there scattered shoes right at the front door? Are there a pile of laundry on the bed? Make a point to make your home as inviting and relaxing as possible.
5. Gather up schoolbooks, toys, paper, etc. Make sure the home is neat, clean and fresh smelling. I love keeping fresh smelling candles and scented plugins around the house. There’s just something about walking into a room that smells fresh. This one even piggyback off of point number one. The smell of dinner cooking after a long day of work is something anyone can be happy about upon arriving home.
6. Over the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for the family to unwind by. If you don’t have a fireplace, you can turn up the heat to warm the house and place throw blankets near the couch. This is a great way connect and create family traditions.
7. Doing these things can make your family feel they have reached a haven of rest and order, and can give you a lift too. Helping them achieve comfort at home will provide them with a sense of safety.
8. Prepare the children. Take a few minutes to wash the children’s hands and faces, comb their hair and, if necessary, change their clothes if they are small. If they are older, remind them to pick up any messes and finish up there homework and chores.
His children should be his treasures. This reassures him that he has chosen the best mother for his children.
9. Minimize noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer, or vacuum. Try to encourage the children to be quiet for a few minutes after he’s arrived home.
10. Be happy to see him. Treat him as if he were the most important person that could ever grace your presence.
11. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him.
12. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Give him a chance to wind down and switch from employee into husband and dad mode.
13. Make the evening relaxing. Try to understand the strain and pressure of working outside of the home and the very real need to be at home and relax.
Be sensitive to the pressure of being surrounded by the world for 8-12 hours a day. Provide time for unwinding.
14. Your goal: Try to make sure your home is a place of peace, order, and tranquility where your husband can renew himself in body and spirit.
15. Don’t greet with complaints or problems.
16. Don’t complain. Express your needs clearly, meekly and humbly.
17. Allow time for comfort. Most people have a comfortable place they like to sit or lie down at when they arrive home. Having a cool or warm drink ready is a great idea as well.
18. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes.
19. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice.
20. Speak as you want to be spoken to. Be respectfully, when you disagree. Don’t yell or raise your voice. Wives…trust God and submit to your husband as is right in the Lord.
If he is wrong God will deal with him.
21. A Godly husband and wife desires to please their spouse.
This list is adapted from and article written called The Good Wife’s Guide. from Housekeeping Monthly, 13 May, 1955.