7 Ways to Stay Committed to Your Marriage During Hard Times

7 Ways to Stay Committed to Your Marriage During Hard Times

1. Keep an ongoing list in a journal of what you love about your husband.

This will help when your marriage is going through a rough patch and even if you both have a disagreement.

The list of things you love about him will help you take your focus off a hopefully temporary situation and help you focus on why you love him.

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2. Step back a minute and think through the situation.

Ask yourself, is this worth fighting for or being upset about. Next pray and ask God to change your angry feelings about the situation.

3. Pray for God to lead your husbands heart and for you to accept that your husband is not yours to change.

He’s Gods!! No amount of nagging, obsessing and or angry words will bring about the kind of change God wants to see in your husband.

4. Love your man through it and face the problems together with God on your side.

It’s easy to see your husband as the enemy when your marriage is struggling. In fact, that’s exactly how Satan wants you thinking. Biblical love is a choice.

You have to choose to show and be the kind of love found in 1 Corinthians 13:4-13. It’s doesn’t just happen automatically.

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5. Take a break and date your husband.

When things get tense with my husband and we make plans to drop everything and spend some time away from the house together. Even if it’s just to drive to some of our favorite places in town or grab dessert.

6. Take a trip down memory lane.

I remember when things got rough for us and I was feeling terrible about myself, where I was in life and our marriage. My husband packed me and the kids up and drove around town for an hour.

I didn’t realize it until we were half way through the ride, but he had driven past all of the locations that held significance in our marriage.

Where we met, our old church, our first apartment, where we got married, etc. He reminded me how far we’d come together and it restored my strength to fight for our marriage.


You have to be willing to forgive even when your husband doesn’t deserve it. That’s the power that comes from being a child of the most high King!!

He will give you the strength to forgive when you have a right to hold a grudge.

When your husband sees that kind of mercy, he will also be able to experience the unconditional love of Christ through you.

Depending on where you are in your relationship with Christ, some of these may seem impossible to do. There was a time when they seemed impossible to me, but God has been faithful to me every step of the way in my marriage.

As I began to trust that He wanted what’s best for me, trusting His word in relation to my marriage became easier and easier.

Marriage between a man and woman is God’s idea. It’s his blueprint for the family and He wants your’s to be successful.

Your marriage may seem hard right now, but I promise it doesn’t have to remain that way.

God is more than able to restore the love you once had and make today’s struggles a distant memory.

If your marriage is in a rough spot right begin by repenting of anything you’ve done to contribute to the current situation.

Next, begin reading something from the Bible everyday regarding character and marriage. Examine yourself to see if you are conducting yourself within your marriage in a way that pleases God.

Continue reading and praying for Gods divine help so that you can be more like Him in your marriage.

I’d love to join you in praying for your marriage to be healed and whole. If you have a prayer need or even praise for what God has done in your marriage, please let me know in the comments below.


  1. MRS. G. says

    I would like to petition for prayer for my marriage, I am a believer in Christ Jesus and my husband was too.. but due to issues on his behalf, he feels that we are now unequally yoked and ok to divorce me. he filed last month. I am praying for God to intervene and give my husband eyes to truly see me in Gods way. he has been jealous of the works God is doin in me and after being with him 5 years now wants a divorce because its hard for him to bbe a step father to my kids, but its easy for me to be a mother figure to his daughter, whom has remained close to me even now that he is gone. he is in search of a true godly wife he says that god is allowing. we have been apart since early October. please help in prayer for the strong holds to be removed from him and reunite back with us in Gods way. he truly is a man who has a heart for God and seeks him in all his ways but has been deceived by influences by people who claim to be believers but don’t go to church…

  2. Donovan says

    Thank younfirst for your positive faith in marriage. My wife and I are on the rocks she has threatened me with divorce and does not talk to me. I keep my peace as not to argue for peace and our children I know this is not His will for my marriage and am praying for a miracle. Please pray for Antonia and I to have a renewed love and want to pleaese God.

  3. Christy says

    I need help!!! I need to know what I am supposed to do, what God wants me to do…my husband is battling addiction & has been for years… He won’t come home & we barely communicate at all & when we do, it is only through text messages, he will not answer his phone & talk to me…Everyone says our children & I deserve better… I stay depressed & I don’t know what I’m supposed to do…please pray for me & my family… We are hurting & struggling!!!

  4. Robyn says

    Right now my husband and I are struggling big time, I don’t think it is something that the average couple struggles with. My husband is very emotional and deep and loves talking things through and me I am the opposite… it is almost like the stereotype of men and women is switched with us. I can not find the words to express anything much less have deep conversations. When we were dating he was crazy about me .. his love went far beyond that of an 18 year old .. and I think I took that for granted and did not treat him with respect. Now 7 years married he is not crazy about me because of who I am and how I treated him.. my eyes have been opened the last 2 years but now that I know my issues I feel like I am unable to take his heart again and have his complete trust. Sex has never been easy for us because like I said I am not a deep person and have never had emotion or even an orgasm when having sex and he hates having sex with someone who is not into it, and I don’t blame him. I don’t ever with hold myself from him but of course he can always feel that things are not reciprocal. I want to change so bad… and I know that it is only the Holy Spirit that can change my heart and to work healing in our marriage. Things are so delicate right now we have such a mountain to climb and I don’t know how to get through to him. I could use your prayers and any advice you might have for me.

    • says

      @Robyn, you are in a hard place right now. A lack of intimacy in marriage can destroy it simply because men are creating in such a way to desire their wives physically and be desired in that same way. It sounds like there are some things in your past that keep you from being intimate. My suggestion is to open up to your husband about what is and has caused you to be guarded. If you two are not able to talk one on one, I suggest a reputable Christian counsellor or pastor. It’s not Christlike to withhold and not communicate or reciprocate intimacy. Only the enemy would get victory out of that so I want to encourage you to find out what as caused you to feel this way and figure out how to redeem that part of you that is or was hurt. I am praying deeply for you because I’ve been where you are with my husband. You guys can get through this.

  5. Kimm says

    My husband just quit his job to start up his own business. Please pray that his company will prosper, and for me to trust The Lord to meet our needs and for me to trust and build up my husband as he reaches for his dreams. Thank you and I pray The Lord continues to bless you.

  6. Brenda Rogers says

    Pray for me and my husband. He told me he had an affair. We have been married 22 years. Im shattered. We have been trying to make it work through Christ and what God put together. Pray for a job for him and our finances because he lost his church because of it. He was a Pastor. Thanks for your prayers

  7. Sarah says

    Please pray for me and my husband we are going thru a rough spot in our relationship! We are both really depressed and he wants us to be apart to try to get over our depression and when I think things are getting better it’s like he just wants to give up! I don’t want to give up cause I know if we can get thru this our marriage will be whole again! because we love and care for one another so much that’s why I believe our marriage can be saved! We just need prayer for our marriage!

  8. Laura says

    Please pray that I will obey God and do what’s right regardless of what my husband does. I know where God wants me to be, I just don’t know how to get there. There is too much hurt over 21 years, too many lies, and no apparent willingness to change on his part. But I am only responsible for me. I need God’s help badly!

  9. Jackie says

    Please prayfor my marriage and family. My husbnad just moved back home May 30th after being gone 6 months and then said this past weekend he wasn’t sure how much longer he could stay, he just didn’t feel the same about me. Please pray for the Holy Spirit to intercede and for God to soften his heart towards me. We have a 1 year old son.

  10. Heather hardie says

    Please pray for my marriage. I received this after have a low time. I know God loved me and wants what is best. My husband doesn’t see that. He is focusing on the hurt. He says that he does not love me and our time to be intimate is being affected. Please pray that he see that we need to heal togethet.

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