I truly believe that we are either building our husbands up or tearing them down.
Encouraging or discouraging.
Tearing them down can come in the form of a snide remark and building them up can be something as simple as saying, “I trust you” when there’s a decision to be made.
It’s important for me to encourage my husband. It helps build his character, his faith and his confidence.
Now please don’t get it twisted…Germaine was going to be a great guy with or without me as long as he had Christ in his life. This I know, but he’s an amazing husband, father, and friend because of what I add to his life through encouragement.
Because I encourage him he can trust me with anything from his money, to our children, to his heart.
Because I encourage him, I‘m his second most valuable source of advice.
He trusts me with his heart because he knows I will always protect it and never hurt it.
Mine is the second loudest voice he hears cheering him on in life.
I’m his second biggest cheerleader and it’s a role I cherish. The influence of a wife can be used for good or evil. I choose to use mine for good.
Your encouragement may be just what he needs!!
Are you withholding encouragement from your husband out of bitterness or resentment? It’s time to stop. You’re only killing your marriage and hurting everyone involved.
Withholding encouragement from your husband is like shooting yourself in the foot.
Decide right now if your marriage is worth fighting for and fight for it, not against it.
I don’t have the perfect marriage. Nor am I a perfect wife, but I know a God who has been able to take imperfect people and use their marriage to inspire others.
I’d love to pray for you, answer questions or just be a listening friend.
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5 thoughts on “Your Encouragement May Be What He Needs”
My husband was verbally abused before we were married in a previous relationship. It is so sad and every day I encourage him and tell him how wonderful he is for our family! I feel like I am trying to fix all the damage she did. He is such a sweet man and I love being the woman who builds him up!
My husband is going through depression. While it does take a toll on me as well, I am trying my best to lift him up in Jesus name. I know that God is working on us through this depression because I can’t tell you where else we have
gotten the strength to deal with it so far. I’m even more determined to build him up since this is working against us. We will most definitely get through this!!!
I learned a very important lesson over Thanksgiving we went to my husbands twin brother ‘s in St. Louis.. Because of the protesting/violence ect.. I stayed at the house more this year.. And God opened my eyes big time!!!
I watched my sister in law cut down my brother in law horrible called him an idiot, stupid, talked down to him in front of their children and us.. Of course my husband was upset over this.
Since we have been home I have looked for ways to praise and uplift my husband.. Wow what a change!! I even apologized to him for my words and actions in the past..
Thanks you for this sight I get more incouragment from this sight..
My husband and I have been together for going on 12 years (6 years together, 6 years married) we have 2 small kids and just brought a house back in October 2013. My husband has never been one to talk much he’s mostly quiet when we argue he’s usually quiet until the next day that’s when he tells me how he feels. Since December of last year I’ve been feeling a disconnect he’d go out a lot more without me not really wanna do our usual dates not tell me I look nice etx so of course id complain to him about it and he’d say it’s nothing. That went on for months until recently he does tell me he has sorta fell out of love and doesn’t know if he wants to be with me. He says there is no one else and he doesn’t know y he feels like this and he’s so confused. We pray and still have our life but it’s different I feel the distance everyday we need lots of prayer. He is a good man and he looks very weak and now. I am trying to be patient with him and stay strong but it’s so hard. I just want god to soften his heart and give him clarity. And I want my home back my family back my husband back:(
GP I too am going through the same thing, we have been together 7 years and a small child. I am wife number 3, first marraiage 5 years and a child, now 14 and the 2nd ended within several months due to the wife cheating. My husband did the same as yours, but also added he doesn’t like being a full time parent. My heart breaks for my family and for him because he has no idea how selfish he is and how fortunate he is to have unconditional love and all the many, and there are many, blessings in our life. I too pray that God softens his heart and gives him peace. I will pray for you guys and please keep me in yours! Don’t give up on him, keep fighting!
My husband was verbally abused before we were married in a previous relationship. It is so sad and every day I encourage him and tell him how wonderful he is for our family! I feel like I am trying to fix all the damage she did. He is such a sweet man and I love being the woman who builds him up!
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My husband is going through depression. While it does take a toll on me as well, I am trying my best to lift him up in Jesus name. I know that God is working on us through this depression because I can’t tell you where else we have
gotten the strength to deal with it so far. I’m even more determined to build him up since this is working against us. We will most definitely get through this!!!
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I learned a very important lesson over Thanksgiving we went to my husbands twin brother ‘s in St. Louis.. Because of the protesting/violence ect.. I stayed at the house more this year.. And God opened my eyes big time!!!
I watched my sister in law cut down my brother in law horrible called him an idiot, stupid, talked down to him in front of their children and us.. Of course my husband was upset over this.
Since we have been home I have looked for ways to praise and uplift my husband.. Wow what a change!! I even apologized to him for my words and actions in the past..
Thanks you for this sight I get more incouragment from this sight..
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My husband and I have been together for going on 12 years (6 years together, 6 years married) we have 2 small kids and just brought a house back in October 2013. My husband has never been one to talk much he’s mostly quiet when we argue he’s usually quiet until the next day that’s when he tells me how he feels. Since December of last year I’ve been feeling a disconnect he’d go out a lot more without me not really wanna do our usual dates not tell me I look nice etx so of course id complain to him about it and he’d say it’s nothing. That went on for months until recently he does tell me he has sorta fell out of love and doesn’t know if he wants to be with me. He says there is no one else and he doesn’t know y he feels like this and he’s so confused. We pray and still have our life but it’s different I feel the distance everyday we need lots of prayer. He is a good man and he looks very weak and now. I am trying to be patient with him and stay strong but it’s so hard. I just want god to soften his heart and give him clarity. And I want my home back my family back my husband back:(
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Jennifer Reply:
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GP I too am going through the same thing, we have been together 7 years and a small child. I am wife number 3, first marraiage 5 years and a child, now 14 and the 2nd ended within several months due to the wife cheating. My husband did the same as yours, but also added he doesn’t like being a full time parent. My heart breaks for my family and for him because he has no idea how selfish he is and how fortunate he is to have unconditional love and all the many, and there are many, blessings in our life. I too pray that God softens his heart and gives him peace. I will pray for you guys and please keep me in yours! Don’t give up on him, keep fighting!
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