Are you happy in your marriage?
Several years ago, I made up my mind, I didn’t want to be in my marriage and not be happy.
If I’m going to spend the rest of my life with Germaine, I want that time together to be like heaven on earth.
Yep, I want what people like to call a fairytale marriage and what I simply call a happy marriage.
I don’t want to harbor bitterness, disappointment, or animosity toward my husband. So I make a choice not to. Instead, I show grace, mercy, patience, long-suffering and forgiveness. Sometimes even to the point where I allow my will, and my way to be sacrificed for the good of the marriage. For the health of the marriage. For the happiness of the marriage.
I have never, not one time, denied myself for my marriage and had God not repay me with happiness and joy. Sometimes it takes a while for it to come, but no matter what my husband and I go through, I always come back to loving him just as deeply as I did the day I married him. In fact, everytime I deny “me”…..”we” grow stronger.
When I let go of self preservation and took hold of “us preservation” I changed and my marriage changed. I began to choose contentment over discontentment. Joy over sorrow. Satisfaction over dissatisfaction. I stopped placing the responsibility of my happiness on the shoulders of my husband and I stopped attaching my happiness to his actions.
Germaine and I both realized around the same time, God didn’t create us to make each other happy, God created us to point one another to the source of happiness which is Christ Jesus.
When Christ is your point of happiness, there is less disappointment, dissatisfaction, bitterness and sorrow. Nehemiah 8:10 says, “don’t be sorry, because the joy of the Lord is our strong place.” Finding our joy and happiness in the Lord makes us stronger than if we try and find it in our spouses.
Our spouses can be swayed by sin, which results in them not always being the best spouses, but God is never swayed by sin. His joy is everlasting, unchangeable and immovable. When we find our joy or happiness in Him it will no longer be a fleeting emotion based on our current situation.
Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I lose focus and Germaine and I go through struggles, but nowadays, there is much more happiness in our marriage than unhappiness.
I wake up looking forward to sharing this life with Germaine and that’s the way it should be between Christian husbands and wives.
If you have strife in your marriage, that doesn’t make you any less of a Christian if you’ve accepted Christ as your Lord and savior and are actively obeying his commandments as best you can.
It just means God is not done working on your heart.
I’d love for your marriage to be one where you experience happiness. I challenge you to ask God to show you how to let Him become the source of your joy.
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