Is a Happy Marriage Possible?

Is a Happy Marriage Possible?

Is a Happy Marriage Possible?

Are you happy in your marriage?

Several years ago, I made up my mind, I didn’t want to be in my marriage and not be happy.

If I’m going to spend the rest of my life with Germaine, I want that time together to be like heaven on earth.

Yep, I want what people like to call a fairytale marriage and what I simply call a happy marriage.

I don’t want to harbor bitterness, disappointment, or animosity toward my husband. So I make a choice not to. Instead, I show grace, mercy, patience, long-suffering and forgiveness. Sometimes even to the point where I allow my will, and my way to be sacrificed for the good of the marriage. For the health of the marriage.  For the happiness of the marriage.

I have never, not one time, denied myself for my marriage and had God not repay me with happiness and joy. Sometimes it takes a while for it to come, but no matter what my husband and I go through, I always come back to loving him just as deeply as I did the day I married him. In fact, everytime I deny “me”…..”we” grow stronger.

When I let go of self preservation and took hold of “us preservation” I changed and my marriage changed. I began to choose contentment over discontentment. Joy over sorrow. Satisfaction over dissatisfaction. I stopped placing the responsibility of my happiness on the shoulders of my husband and I stopped attaching my happiness to his actions.

Germaine and I both realized around the same time, God didn’t create us to make each other happy, God created us to point one another to the source of happiness which is Christ Jesus.

When Christ is your point of happiness, there is less disappointment, dissatisfaction, bitterness and sorrow. Nehemiah 8:10 says, “don’t be sorry, because the joy of the Lord is our strong place.” Finding our joy and happiness in the Lord makes us stronger than if we try and find it in our spouses.

Our spouses can be swayed by sin, which results in them not always being the best spouses, but God is never swayed by sin. His joy is everlasting, unchangeable and immovable.  When we find our joy or happiness in Him it will no longer be a fleeting emotion based on our current situation.

Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I lose focus and Germaine and I go through struggles, but nowadays, there is much more happiness in our marriage than unhappiness.

I wake up looking forward to sharing this life with Germaine and that’s the way it should be between Christian husbands and wives.

If you have strife in your marriage, that doesn’t make you any less of a Christian if you’ve accepted Christ as your Lord and savior and are actively obeying his commandments as best you can.

It just means God is not done working on your heart.

I’d love for your marriage to be one where you experience happiness. I challenge you to ask God to show you how to let Him become the source of your joy.

If you would like to receive prayer, please leave a comment below and we will pray over it. Also, please share your experiences or comments because we are all women of prayer and can encourage one another.

 

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Comments

  1. I’m struggling in my marriage and am currently working on extnding gracewhen I might otherwise throw a hissy fit. I would like advice on how to override my needsand remember who it is I’m trying to please in the long run. If I have an unaffectionate, difficult husband, how do I get there?

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    Hi @Angie. I am praying with you love. Focusing on Christ in the midst of each situation is your answer. It’s easier said than done, but not impossible. It’s something you should pray specifically about daily and ask God to show you ways to gain control of your emotions in the midst of difficulties. Pray and ask God to show you specifically through His word how to deal with your husband. Ask God to help you see your husband the way that God sees him.

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  2. This article was great and well needed . I was looking for what was needed to make my marriage better , heal the from the past and enjoy the future.

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  3. This is something I have been working on and used to have trouble with … not to say I don’t ever but its much less than before. I do not rely on Daniel for my happiness as I know he does not depend on me for his. That said I do not get angry or upset when things come up that change plans … I used to though. There are certain things I like to be in control of (well mostly everything) but having someone else be in this life with you, you don’t have to do everything. Your talk of putting us first instead of me … has been working out, when I remember to let it. There is no more I but we. Us. Please pray for us during this wedding planning process. I want a happy marriage too!

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Arelis Cintron, you have several women virtually around you who you can talk to about marriage at any time. Brandi although a newlywed, has her head screwed on straight and Janeane, is a wealth of information. A true Titus2 woman. I’ll say a prayer for you and Danny. <3

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  4. Thank you so much. This is exactly what I needed to read and put into my heart right now concerning my husband and my marriage. You are truly a blessing!

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @brittany, thanks lady. Let me know how I can pray for you. I’m here if you need me sweet friend.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @brittany, I’m praying for you. Let me know if you need to talk. I’m here for you friend.

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