What do you do when homemaking is overwhelming?
But Martha was cumbered about much serving, and came to him, and said, Lord, dost thou not care that my sister hath left me to serve alone? bid her therefore that she help me.
And Jesus answered and said unto her, Martha, Martha, thou art careful and troubled about many things:
When I was a young wife and mom, I made the mistake of attaching my worth to how neat and tidy my home was.
I would get up everyday and make never ending to-do list. Just as soon as I checked everything off, I was adding a whole other set of tasks.
At the time I didn’t realize how draining that was and how much it was stealing my joy. Neverending to-do lists don’t allow you to feel a sense of accomplishment. Seeing the constant list of tasks to be checked often leads to discouragement.
It can also leave you feeling bitter toward those helping to create your neverending workload. One thing it took me years to realize it that managing my home never ends. Just as soon as I clean one thing, there are a handful more things that require cleaning.
I also realized that my home doesn’t define me. Unfolded laundry on the couch doesn’t mean I’m lazy. It just means there’s unfolded laundry on the couch.
Undone tasks aren’t always a reflection of your value. If you’ve made an effort to care for your home and not everything is perfect it’s okay. Unwashed dishes aren’t a sign of a bad wife or mom.
Is caring for your home a joy or a burden? When you look around do you see a place of relaxation or a source of anxiety?
Your home should be a sanctuary for the entire family. It should welcome you and inspire you to relax.
Sometimes that’s not the case when we are weighed down by the responsibilities caring for our home. If you find that your home and its responsibilities have become a source of burden something is out of whack.
If this is you, it’s time to reevaluate your goals for your home. Here are some questions to ask when homemaking is overwhelming.
1. Are the goals for your home in alignment with God’s purpose for you?
2. Are your tasks, keeping you from time in God’s word and in prayer?
3. Is your work, keeping you from sitting down with your husband and children when they are home?
4. Are you using the help available through your husband and children?
5. Are you communicating with God and your husband your sense of burden?
6. Are you seeking out the homemaking wisdom, experience and advice of other wives grounded in their faith?
God doesn’t want us to be burdened by the things He’s blessed us with especially not our homes. The home is designed to be a haven and a sanctuary.
Help us find joy in our homes. Realign our goals with Yours. Let us see things through Your eyes and help us to walk in the plan you have for us.