Happily Married Is Possible

Happily Married Is Possible

Happily Married Is PossibleEver since I was a little girl I dreamed I’d be married, with a home, career and kids. In my daydreams there was no conflict between marriage, home, career and parenting.

In my dreams everything flowed together effortlessly for the most part and I was happily married. As I got older, I realized marriages don’t always work out, families don’t always stay together, husbands and wives don’t give their all and kids sometimes fall through the cracks.

This is not what I wanted for my family and it wasn’t what I was willing to except. After being married for six or so years, I felt like we were going in the wrong direction. We weren’t growing closer together…

..and we weren’t happy. After six years of marriage my husband and I decided (not together and not even at the same time) that we didn’t want to spend the rest of our marriage unhappy.

 

You can read through the countless articles I’ve written about giving up my own agenda for the agenda of my marriage and taking taking control of my mouth. These changes were extremely important to me because having the marriage I dreamed about was important to me.

 

I don’t know what kind of marriage you envisioned, but are you living it?

 

I wanted my dream marriage to be a reality so I put in the work. I changed those things about myself that didn’t match what the Bible describes as a Godly women.

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Truth be told, I stopped taking into consideration what unsaved people had to say about marriage. If they were not living to line their lives up with Gods word, I stopped using their opinions as a standard for my marriage. Whether friends, television shows, self-help books and family.

When I began setting up boundaries regarding who I was listening too on the subject of marriage, I was better able to hear what God had to say. What God had to say was vastly different from what I’d been listening to. Even church going people who meant well told me things about how my husband is supposed to treat me, or what he should’ve been doing that did not match what the Bible said.

In order to have a God centered, happy marriage, I had to go to the source. I became more intentional about studying the Bible for specific issues such as love, peace, joy, submission, family order, communication and disagreements.

In the last decade I’ve cultivated the marriage I dreamed of. One where I look forward to moments spent with my husband. We both schedule our lives so that we can spend most of our time together. It’s a joy to spend time with him talking about our family, our future and our faith.

No longer do we display happy couple to the world when we know we’re unhappy at home. Now the joy we share is a true outward expression of the sacrificial love we have for one another. We’ve given up a lot of our old ways to become the husband and wife we are today, but what God has given us in exchange has been a far greater reward.

I absolutely want to inspire you to do the work to create the marriage of your dreams. Marriage is designed to be forever and if that’s your goal, why not spend forever happily married?

If you would like to receive prayer, please leave a comment below and we will pray over it. Also, please share your experiences or comments because we are all women of prayer and can encourage one another.

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  1. Please pray for my husband and my marriage. I realize I have not been a godly wife and I am making the changes in me to become what God says a wife should be. I pray that my husband releases the anger that he has built inside of him and comes closer to our Heavenly Father so he can be the husband that God wants him to be in our marriage.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Deborah, I am praying with you!

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  2. Please pray for my marriage

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Christy, I sure will.

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  3. My marriage is seriously struggling. I had lots of things that I have never dealt with and now I am. However, my husband does not know if he wants this marriage or not. I want it so bad. I don’t want to loose my husband and family.

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  4. I am struggling with being in an unhappy marriage. I have tried to change some things yet it is still in a place of frustration, hurt and bitterness in my heart. I have never seen happy successful marriages and I don’t know how to get there. Please uplift me in prayer. Thank you

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Tasha, I sure will.

    Father God, would you meet Tasha where she is and give her the courage she needs to face the issues of her heart and get past them. We know God that you are able to restore and that you are able to heal. We ask Father that you help Tasha and her husband grow closer to you and ultimately have a marriage where You are at the center.

    In the Mighty name a Jesus we pray!! — Amen

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  5. This is SO good! This is why young women need godly older women in their lives teaching them to love and obey their husbands. I had to blindly try to figure it out on my own and it took over 20 years to do so. Thankfully, I now have the marriage of my dreams. We never argue since I want my husband to be the leader and we enjoy being together so much. God’s ways are so very good.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Lori Alexander, Women who love God and live that out are desperately needed. We must be that wherever and whenever we can.

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