Saving a Marriage That Is Falling Apart

Saving a Marriage That Is Falling Apart

Has anyone ever had a marriage that needed saving? I know that I most certainly did. We were maybe seven years into our marriage and were thinking of calling it quits. We were both tired of the arguing and disagreements.

Saving a Marriage That Is Falling Apart

We were tired of trying and felt like we weren’t cut out to be Christians. I didn’t know it then, but we were going through a refining process. Shortly before all of the arguing came to a head, we’d both decided to fight for our marriage or call it quits.

Looking back, I realize that’s when the devil really began attacking our marriage.

 

I know for certain that my marriage serves a purpose that not only touches my life in a positive way, but the lives of those who read this blog and who know my husband and I offline.

Every blog post I’ve written here on the web and every conversation we’ve had face to face with other couples, sows a seed of hope. Today I will hopefully do just that if you are in a marriage that’s falling apart.

We have been where you are and here’s how we saved our marriage.

1. Accept that you are not in control of others or the situation.

As soon as you accept that you are not in control of the outcome the better. Trying to control the outcome of your marriage oftentimes means you’re trying to control your spouse. In saving your marriage you must be willing to give it up and that starts with giving up control over what you can’t control.

What you can control is your self. When your marriage is failing, you must compare your actions and character in the marriage with those found throughout the Bible. If you have been doing anything that in these two areas that doesn’t mirror Christ, take responsibility and begin doing better.

While you can’t control situations, you can affect the outcome.

2. Fight the urge to live as roommates.

Christ followers living under the Biblical principles of marriage are commanded to dwell together as one according to the book of Genesis.

When pull away from one another due to difficulties in the marriage we become weaker. We are no longer allies who are working together against the enemy. Prayer becomes weaker and so so our plans for a successful marriage.

RoomatesInstead of pulling away, my husband and I decided to fight and remain as one. We prayed together even when it meant repenting together after arguing. We prayed together even when it meant admitting our weaknesses, fears and anger triggers before God and one another.

You must remember it’s not your husband you are fighting.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Wherefore take unto you the whole armour of God, that ye may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.

Ephesians 6:12-13

3. Press closer to God.

When we struggle in marriage we may feel like failures as believers. I know I did. I couldn’t understand how I loved God so much, but was failing so miserably at marriage.

I later realized that I wasn’t necessarily failing as much as I was going through a transformation. With each setback I’d be ashamed to talk to God, but that’s just what Satan wants us to do when we are caught in sin.

Press Into GodHe wants us to hide from God and the truth that can only be revealed in His presence. In Gods presence I could see clearly where my actions, thoughts or character was wrong. Pressing closer to God helps us heal and become better. We can not avoid this part of the process if we want to save our marriage.

 



4. Do what is right in the sight of God.

As God reveals your faults it’s up to you to accept them or not. Those of us truly walking with the King will sense conviction when we are in the wrong. It will be revealed to us in quiet time spent alone with God.

How we respond to that conviction will help determine the outcome of our marriage. When we are wrong and we ask forgiveness from our spouse, we open the door for reconciliation.

When we are right and don’t use it as a tool to attack our spouse, we create opportunities for trust and growth. When our spouses see that we don’t use our power to attack them, they have a space to become vulnerable which is what will ultimately save our marriages.

When we make ourselves vulnerable before God and our spouses, we can more clearly see the best action for very situation.

Watch the live video chat I recorded which shares more insight on this topic.

If you would like to receive prayer, please leave a comment below and we will pray over it. Also, please share your experiences or comments because we are all women of prayer and can encourage one another.

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  1. Thank you for this- don’t quit this blog! Many of us need it. Please pray with me for God to work on us, protect & restore us.

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  2. Please pray for my marriage. It was confirmed my husband was cheating with a co-worker back in August. Although we went to see a counselor, he refused to do anything the counselor suggested and quickly moved out of the home. He has not been living at home for over a month. I am at home with my two young boys. He has since recently taken the other woman out on a date.

    Please pray that God will change his heart and bring him back home. That he will have an overwhelming desire to work on our marriage, be with our family and a desire and passion to rebuild.

    Please pray for me as I try and parent through this alone. Pray for protection over my children. Pray for peace, joy, wisdom and clear guidance from God.

    Thank you!

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  3. Please pray for my husband and I. I confirmed in April of this year that my husband of almost 15 years we would have celebrated November 17 is cheating. When I confronted him about it here denied it but I found evidence. He has since moved out of the matrimonial home to live with the other woman leaving me and our two girls. It is hard to forgive as the hurt is too much. I told the Lord that the battle is His but I don’t feel as if I have totally surrendered. He was once a Christian I hope that the Lord will change his heart before it is too late.

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  4. My husband and I are separated. Neither of us want a divorce, but our issues before us appear overwhelming.
    Please pray that my husband will turn back to God.

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  5. Please pray for the restoration of my marriage. I had an affair, although he says he forgives me he still wants the divorce. We are currently separated. No papers filed but he has moved out. I so desperately want to save my marriage. We have been together 10 years and two beautiful children. I want to follow God’s will for my life and I know he has great plans for me. I’m just lost but pressing into Jesus.

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  6. Please pray for myself and my husband. He is a non believer but I have always leaned on God amd trusted in that. After 10 years of being together my anxiety and depression has taken a toll on my husband and he is at the point that he wants to give up. I am praying for myself and him daily but i am feeling so hopeless. We have 2 young kids one of which is special needs. God put us together and has blessed us with such a great love. Please pray that this will make our marriage and relationship stronger. Thabk you

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  7. Please pray for my relationship to heal. We have a wonderful relationship and now infidelity has entered the picture. Please pray my husband sees his wrongs and turns them into rights for us. I need prayer now more than ever.

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  8. Please pray for my husband and I for we are separated that this time and I would do anything to save our marriage I have no idea where he’s even a hat what he’s doing if he’s OK or not . I’m using prayer is a tool to help me through this and every day seems to get harder and harder for me please pray for Scott and Tiffany please pray to bring us back together

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  9. I am facing a very unwanted divorce. We live like roommates. Worse than roommates. My husband barely acknowledges me any more.
    I have repented, taken responsibility for my part in the breakdown of our marriage, participated in intense healing classes..continue to lie face down in front of Jesus asking for help. My husband is adamant that divorce is the best option. Our 23 anniversary is a week away.

    Please pray for the Holy Spirit to convict my husbands heart.

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  10. I will pray for you and your husband. Communicated with him as gently as possible if there is a much deeper , hurtful issue ( work, family, friend for example) within him that makes him do these things. Men do not like to admit when they are hurting and can easily turn that feeling into sexual sin. Stay strong and faithful. God Bless you.

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  11. Please pray for my husband and me that we will be able to set aside all hurts and anger , forgive each other, and let our love for each other resurface. May we be able to leave the past in the past and walk together to the glorious life God intended for us. Please pray we do not stray from the paths God has intended for us by giving in to temptation and evil ( especially those who wish to inflict harm on our marriage). Please pray we may strengthen our love as a family unit so we may be able to do God’s will together, as husband and wife, and as a family. I ask this in Jesus’ name, Amen

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  12. Good Morning everyone, I am not a woman but would like for you ladies and gentlemen if any on this blog to pray for my marriage. My wife and I have been together for almost 11 years and the past four years haven’t been the greatest. After four years of my wife trying to get over the fact that I was unfaithful she finally broke down and told me that she can’t do it anymore, she can’t stop thinking about what I did to her and that she will probably will never get over it. Although she’s told me that she’s forgave me I personally don’t believe she has completely done so. I always tell her, ” Someone that forgives doesn’t dwell in the past.” But I also understand were she’s coming from and how she feels, I just don’t agree that after four years she all of the sudden wants to get a divorce. So I am asking for as many prayers as possible. May God bless each and everyone and I hope that for those that are going through the same struggle your situations get better.

    V/R
    Jose

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  13. Please pray for my marriage and family. I am 18 weeks pregnant with our second child and after 11 years together, we are on the brink of falling apart. I need all the help I can get spiritually right now. Please pray that our actions follow Him and that we make all of our decisions with a clear head and heart.

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  14. Please help me pray for my husband and our marriage for restoration and so there can also be conviction in our lives.
    Husband is requesting divorce we have only been married for one year.

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  15. Prayers would be appreciated! Been together almost 4 years and the last 2 have been a big struggle. Lots of things we’ve overcome but we’re both personally and relationship-lg burnout. Constant arguments (some some flare up and get ugly and are random), boundaries are being crossed/not respected, responsibiliies are being neglected/given excuses, anger management needed, counseling suggested but don’t feel like it would be taken seriously. It’s getting harder and harder to find reasons to stay (we’re not actually married but we accept each other as our fiance). He is a divorcee, 2 wonderful kids from previous marriage, do we decided to take it slow and no I’m no longer certain if that I want to become the future Mrs.

    Prayers for open hearts and minds, wisdom to discern arguments (and how to nip them before they start), willingness to compromise and healing for both parties.

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  16. Married 9 years , my hubby has cystic fibrosis which kicked into hi gear right after we married . Then Dx with lung cancer 4 yrs ago , he is currently in the hospital for a CF tuneup this is the second one this year has cancer is under control. In the last two years I’ve had a nervous break down severe depression and my fibromyalgia has kicked in to a flare , I have been in bed most of the last few days , I have yet to go to the hospital ,I am beyond exhausted , , I don’t even know what to ask for , we love each other but there is no break no let up

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  17. Please pray for my marriage, my husband, and our whole family as a unit. We have only been married 6 months and he moved into a relative’s townhouse earlier this week. However, all hope is not gone. He has agreed that we will work on it, but it’s hard if he’s not even in the home right now (and he’s on a field exercise so there is no contact until he’s back.

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  18. I’m just asking for prayer in my marriage. My husband wants a divorce. We still live together and it is like we are roommates. I am trying everything I can to save our marriage. But he has already written our marriage off. I am afraid that we are just too far apart now. I just pray that the Lord can restore my marriage.

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  19. Please pray for my marriage! I can feel us falling apart. I want to help it before it is to late.

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  20. I need prayers for my husband and our marriage. We have been married 12 years and it has never really been good. I found out shortly after we married that he was routinely watching pornography and talking to other women via text and phone calls in a sexual manner and make plans to meet up for sex. I always found out before it happened and forbid him to go places alone. We split after our oldest was born and he promised me the world and that this would never happen again so we reconciled. Now we are back at square one after 5 years and 2 more children. He is slowly killing me with his lying and need to look at, talk to and send naked pictures of himself to women​. I’m beyond the crying, I just have a constant ache in my heart. I have one more than one occasion walked away from my family for him and he still doesn’t get it. We rarely have sex because of 2 reasons, 1 it makes me feel terrible that it isn’t something special just between us & 2 he is starting to have erectile dysfunction I believe due to pornography addiction and repetitive masterbation. I just want a normal husband and marriage. I’m not sure how much more disrespect and emotional neglect I can handle raising 3 small children as a single mother with a roommate.

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    Michelle Reply:

    My heart goes out to you, Jennifer! I know what your feeling and it’s total devastation – a broken heart!! I went through pretty much the same thing, along with an affair (on his part). I almost gave up! But by the grace and mercy of God, I didn’t give up! This all happened 11 years ago! I started to realize that I could not change my husband – only the Lord could do that. BUT, I knew I was not perfect either and never will be so I got on my knees and cried out to the Lord in my brokenness and gave it ALL to Him! He started a transformation process in my heart and in the way that I responded to my husband. I dug into His Word and read every book I could get my hands on with regards to becoming a godly wife. I learned that to become a godly wife, you have to first become a Woman After God’s Own Heart! You have to make the Lord your first love (let him have first place in your heart and life) and then He can begin to teach you how to love and respect your husband the way He intended you to and that way, your husband, in turn, can love YOU, the way that God intended a man to love his wife. My marriage didn’t miraculously change & get better overnight. It was very hard and it definitely was a refining process for me! It took a good two years for the Lord to heal my heart and restore our marriage, but it was SO worth it! Now, I do my very best to not get complacent and to daily continue to work on my marriage! We will celebrate 19 years next month! Not sure if you will even see my response to you as you posted this in April, but if you do (or if anyone else comes across this response and they are in the same or similiar situation) and if you have a FB account please come join my group of ladies and myself as we strive to be women after God’s own heart. That’s the name of the FB group “Women After God’s Own Heart.” It is a private and closed group so you will need to ask to join and I will approve your request. I’m praying for you Jennifer! God is faithful and He will honor those who honor Him! Much love and prayers sweet lady!❤️😊🙏

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  21. Prayers for my heart and mind. We’ve been married over 6 years, all of them difficult. Parts have been physically abusive though not the last couple years while all have been emotionally and mentally abusive/challenging. I feel worn out to my core. I know what the Bible says but am struggling in the practical application of it. It’s more than just disagreements. I see him putting some effort into working on us, I know that I need to show him love as well but I feel hollow and disconnected. We have 2 young boys.

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  22. Please pray for my marriage. It seems like it’s been going down hill for a while now and I can’t seem to let go of the past. My husband used to abuse me and I forgave him and it has not happened again. However, my mind keeps going back to that dark time and now I’m just really angry that he treated me that way. We have a 17 month old daughter and I want the best for her but I also want her to have a happy home to grow up in, not one with constant fighting.

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  23. I am walking in faith because there is nowhere else I can feel loved and protected. Satan does use my insecurities against me and I am weak. My husband lost his way and cannot see that when you commit to working on your marriage you cannot keep contact with the 3rd party. He doesn’t see that he needs to commit to God and me alone. I pray that all contact will be broken instantly and that he will WANT to persue me, that he will find his way back to God and his commandments. That he will have a thirst for God’s word.

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  24. I sincerely hope you do not quit this blog. I came across it on an internet search for advice about my 5 year marriage that has had more downs than ups. Looking forward to future posts about Biblical womanhood. Your blog is helpful and refreshing to read in a world that idolizes all things secular.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    Welcome to my blog @MrsVBB! I’m so glad you found it and have enjoyed what I’ve shared so far. Have a wonderful week!

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  25. Please pray that God will save my marriage and help my husband to draw near to Him as well as myself.

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  26. @MrsV, thanks for your encouraging words. They made my day. I’ve been feeling like quitting this blog, thinking women don’t want to here about Biblical womanhood anymore. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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  27. Please say a prayer for my marriage. The devil is working overtime on us. I thank you for your wifely wisdom. It is a life preserver. I thank God that my friend shared your blog with me. My burdens are eased everytime I read your words that guide me to The Word❤️

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  28. I am at my end in this marriage. My husband sold drugs behind my back before admitting it 10 years later. Earlier this year he attacked my children and I and we had a protective order against him. Against my church and my family I trusted him and we moved back home. Now he’s using in my home, he doesn’t talk about Christ or go to church with us and when i confront him he basically admits all of his promises (rehab, couseling, pastoral discipling) were all lies and he never intends to do any of them. He told me this week he plans to leave and I honestly am feeling like he should. I believe I followed my heart by trusting him and was deceived. Lord Jesus give me strength and clear thought to know what to do.

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  29. Please pray for my marriage, for me, my husband and my two boys. We’ve been married for only 4 years and yesterday I left to stay away for a while with my brother. I didn’t want to leave. I asked my husband to go with me to counseling (we had an appointment that day) and he said he was done after an argument. I feel like I’ve had more fight in me than him to try and save our marriage. It seemed so easy for him to give up and he even took his wedding band off. There’s so much more to this but I’m deeply grieved. We’ve been in christian marriage counseling for a while. I have also been going on my own seeing another trainrd christian counselor to help me with my post partum depression and myself for the benefit of our marriage. I don’t feel like this separation thing for a while is what God would want but Im conflicted.

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  30. Please pray for my husband and I. He is not a believer and is very self consumed. I just wish he would love me unconditionally without materialistic or superficial ideas in his mind for us. I pray he becomes true to himself and to our family. We have three young children. Please pray for our marriage and family. Thank you and God bless

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Katherine, praying!

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  31. Please pray for our marriage. Married 16 years, 3 beautiful children. Not sure if he ever was my soulmate…too afraid what people would think if I broke off the engagement…we don’t communicate. We haven’t been intimate in over 4 years. We essentially live as roommates. I see on your blog that we are not alone….thank you for your message and your prayers. I know now that I need to pray like I have never prayed before…

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Stephanie, praying. Have you ever read Martha Peace’s book the Excellent Wife. I think it can be a great asset in getting you through this tough time in your marriage.

    Many Blessings!

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  32. We really need prayer. My husband cheated on me with a man, and tried to leave me and my daughter last week’s. His reasoning was not to hurt me anymore and fear of cheating again. He agreed to counseling, one last shot. I feel he has one foot out the door…its extremely hard feeling like I’m the only one fighting, on top of trying to heal and get my confidence back. I love my husband. I believe there is some deeper stuff going on. I’m hoping counseling helps with that. Im just craving to feel content in my marriage again. Please pray for my strength and faith. Please pray for my husbands healing and relationship with the Lord. Please pray for my husbands outlook on marriage me and life. Thanks you.

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  33. Just wanted to thank you so much for your godly wisdom and the things that you share here on your blog. I have a question for you if you have the time to answer… In your video “saving a marriage thats falling apart” you had mentioned that the communication tactics of you were argumentative , forceful and your husbands was pulling away and shut down. I have to admit that this is exactly like us in our marriage except I tend to do what your husband does and my husband does what you do. Here is my question… If you were to ask your husband what really helped him when dealing with your radically different personalities and communication differences what would he say?

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  34. I have been married for 11 years this year almost 2 years ago I began ramping up the issues that were always present in our marriage by speaking & threatening divorce. I was pregnant with our 3rd child my husband was still selfish, still not stepping up(to my expectations), devoted to work more than me & kids, still lying about everything, still letting his family be rude or dismissive to me, still addicted to pornography (but hid it now),still not committed to church as I wish we could’ve been. He never said anything about his feelings or explained why just said watch your mouth. Well 7 days after I gave birth I discovered 20+ pages of nonstop text messages to a number I never saw. And phone calls both ways. I checked months and saw for at least 3 months at that time he had been involved in communication with another woman. I called she said they were just friends and he told her he was unhappily married. He later told me when I confronted him that he never loved me, was wrong to marry me he felt sorry because we had a child etc. I said mean stuff too but mostly cried went into deep depression and anxiety. He ended up threatening to leave and because I hated the ignoring nonstop hate he showed me. I packed his bags. He eventually left came back (no belongings) and then picked physical fights with me which I fell for told his family it was good he left because it has always been violent. I pray everyday now but at times was in despair I mostly cried asking God why me??? I raise 3 children primarily alone closest relative outside of him is 3 hours away. Financial debt abounds. He helps very little sporadically with finances and with the kids. His brother & his rental home is only 20 mins away. I feel so alone, betrayed and cheated. We had issues but he NEVER wanted to talk and address them and as hormonal as I was and sick why did he walk out and choose to not forgive me of every word at my lowest point? I need prayer for patience, peace, and provision. I’d love for God to heal my husband and marriage so please pray for his heart to soften & turn back to the wife of his youth and our children!!! Most of my family & friends say give it up ,let go and move on he DON’T WANT YOU and he ( my husband) gets to choose. We talk sometimes and although I think at times about disease, I pray and still have sex with him once every 3 months or so. I feel like it is a glimmer of hope, and the purpose is for us to become closer in an intimate way so I hope that happens each time & even when we don’t. He’s said he will never come back it’s over. We have tried divorce court but out case got thrown out because he tried to skip mediation, child support, and all marital bills besides 1.

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  35. We really need prayer!! Throughout our 10 year marriage, we have suffered through pornography addiction, infidelity, infertility issues and are still fighting with his loss of job. We know God is stronger than all of these things, but being weak, I fall into self pity. Please lift us up!! God Bless!

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  36. Thank you for your encouraging words. After 23 years of marriage, mine is falling apart. Pray for patience and guidance. I pray daily that my husband will receive the holy spirit and that God make him feel whole again. This isn’t something that will go away overnight, no matter how much I want it to. God is working in his life, whether he sees it or not. Pray that God remove the deadness from his heart and help him to feel again. The hardest part is feeling miles apart. I pray daily that we will work through this no matter how long it takes and that neither of us has the urge to give up. Unfortunately with parents that have each been married 3 time, he know no other way to fix marital issues than to walk away.Pray that we do not leave a legacy of divorce for our children.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @A, I am praying with you!

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  37. We could use every prayer anyone can spare. It’s been a hard fewer years and were now in a spot finically that is horrible. We’ve two blessings to care for but our marriage is falling apart, and has been for a while now. We don’t talk, everything is a battle and a fight. We’re both too proud and too stubburn. Today is Easter and my birthday I’ve most of it crying because my husband all but forgot it. I got a nasty happy birthday and have felt so unloved. I miss my husband and best friend. I want nothing more then to wake and see his face smiling at me again

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Meg, I am praying with you!

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    Lacey Reply:

    @Meg, lifted you up today!

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  38. My husband left me and our 3 children 7 months ago and has filed for divorce. I believe he is in the midst of a midlife crisis and I was not very nice at times. I have given my marriage to God and pray every day for reconciliation but it’s not looking likely as my husband is determined to divorce and convinced that I’m the source of his unhappiness. Please pray for us.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Mrs JW, I am praying with you!

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  39. My husband and I have been married for16 years and we have 7 children. My husband has told me that he wants a divorce and I don’t. I’ve been reading the Word and praying for reconciliation and healing in my marriage. I’m trusting GOD my Heavenly Father to come in and turn it all around. I’m praying GOD will anoint my Husband and my children…I want my Family to be whole again. I don’t want my Family to be broken.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Melinda, I am praying with you!

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    Monica Jenner Reply:

    @Melinda, I hope you will be fine now, I am praying with you too, everything will be alright.

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  40. Thank you for your encouraging words. I have been married to my husband for 14 yrs now and we have five beautiful children. Our marriage has never been what I call great. To be completely honest I’m not sure God wanted us together in the first place but I didn’t have the courage to break off the engagement cause I was more worried about what people would say. This past year was the hardest year of my life when my husband said he was done. He couldn’t afford a place of his own so we lived as roommates for months with him sleeping on the couch and us barely speaking. This was hard on our kids and they could tell something was wrong. He even told me one day he wanted a divorce but he didn’t want to the one to file the papers. We tried counselling for a while but he complained every time and had snide comments whenever we did the homework. I think we had three sessions and then one day after a fight he said he won’t go back cause its not working anyway. He never wanted to go in the first place. Over the holidays we did have some good times but whenever I get discontented or want more from him it starts an argument and we end up right back to where we were and he ends up back on the couch. I don’t really know how much more of this up and down I can take. My marriage consumes me and not in a good way. My question is what do you in a marriage where one person wants to try and the other person has given up completely? I have been in counselling for a year on and off with my pastor and pastors wife but I don’t want to run to them every time things fall apart. I feel like I needy. I will admit to that I’m angry for this whole situation even though it not right but this is not at all how I thought my life would be!!! I just don’t k ow where to go from here.

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  41. I have been praying daily for my relationship… My husband had an emotional affair and is so cold towards me. I am praying that the Lord opens his heart to love for me…. Trying to stand strong in faith.

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  42. Thank you for writing and video on youtube. I need this right now. I am hurting right now with my husband work schedule and not being help with kids because he is not home. Thank you again

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  43. This is exactly what I needed to hear. My husband left me and our daughter 3 months ago. There a lot of mental and emotional battles going on in him, but sees our marriage as the source of his hurt. I’m praying diligently and waiting. It’s so hard.

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Laura, I know it’s hard, but continue praying for your husband. Sometimes we can’t fight the battles in the flesh. Some battles must be fought in the spirit. Lift him ups to God daily and pray for you to be a catalyst for reconciliation. I’m praying Gods will over your marriage.

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  44. I’ve been married for over 20 years but after having someone I depended on with 3 children 19 to 2. I have now become the guardian of him. He is an alcoholic. Who has completely quit life. Not to mention the anger he causes in this family.
    After my toddler was born with a rare disease my tolerance for my husband is gone.
    I now have him in forced treatment but it is outpatient so the trouble is still there. I’m trying to fix it. Right now I am depending on others because He has drank himself out of work. I can’t leave the kids to goto work with a chance he comes home that way.
    I am trying to see the light at the end of the tunnel but it’s hard to.

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  45. Thank you for your sharing your life. I’m fighting the battle as we speak with the arguments and room mate mentality. I love my husband. Your advice and experience in this matter is eye awakening. I wish there was a list of places to visit in the bible to help carry me with the examples of other relationships…

    Hugs, Ana

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Ana c, have you tried Googling verses on marriage? Google is super helpful because there are many websites and blogs where lists of Bible references related to marriage have been written. I would start there and really dive into what Gods idea of marriage is and trying to conform to that. A lot of examples can be found in transparent relationships with other believers, but that’s often hard because people don’t like to share the ugly parts of their lives. They want us to only see the good, but that leaves other believers feeling isolated in their own problems. Start praying that God would bring couples into your life that can come beside you and support your marriage in prayer and wisdom. Be blessed. God will supply all of your need according to his riches in glory.

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  46. Does this process look the same when you are unequally yoked?

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    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Mrs. B, the principles still apply when you are unequally yoked. You can only do what is in your power whether married to a believer or unbeliever. The rest is in the hands of the other spouse and God.

    Be Blessed XOXO

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