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How to Stop Losing Your Temper with Your Kids

How to Stop Losing Your Temper with Your Kids

How to Stop Losing Your Temper with Your Kids

It’s only moms who lose their temper and fly off the handle who will understand what I’m about to describe.

Your kid(s) are in another room carrying on, doing something you’ve asked them not to do. You’ve already asked them several times, today and on other days, not to do whatever it is they are doing.

First you begin getting frustrated because you don’t have the time, energy or patience to ask them to comply yet again. Then you begin getting angry and meditating on ALL THE WAYS they disrespect you.

Finally, you’re fuming inside and you’ve had enough. You are going to give them a piece of your mind and let the chips fall where they may, but then after yelling at them, you see the fear in their eyes. Although you’re still angry, you walk away feeling defeated as a mom because you’ve scared and possibly scarred your children.

Can anyone relate to this scenario? When my adult daughter was still young, this is the kind of mom I would become when I was fed up. I would see the tears and sadness in my children’s eyes and realize I’d gone too far. I hated this about myself, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I was as a praying mom and wife, but that alone wasn’t helping me deal with the frustration of mothering, then one day this happened.

I literally got angry with God and asked why He wouldn’t just fix me and what I learned changed my life and provided the solution I needed to overcome this detrimental communication style.

Some of you may or may not be at your rock bottom. If you are and are ready to begin the process to control your anger when communicating, download my devotional Remove From Me This Venomous Tongue.


What you’ll need to work through it are:

      1. Your Bible.

      2. A pencil.

      3. An open heart.

      4. An open mind.

The devotional is my roadmap back from that ugly place inside where that anger wells up from. It’s practical and effective for helping you become a women who chooses pleasant words and speaks from a place of patience.


This is too important of an issue not to take action. Every time we use words out of anger in our homes we are:

1. Destroying trust.

2. Destroying innocence.

3. Cultivating and atmosphere of anxiety.

4. Creating an atmosphere of fear.

5. Causing physical stress to ourselves and loved ones.

6. Causing mental stress to ourselves and loved ones.

Awesome Mothers

The list goes on and on. There is nothing positive about being a mom who flies off the handle and lacks self control.

I understand that our children may ignore our warnings, and not be the obedient little soldiers we’d love for them to be at time, but for us to yell is literally teaching them that adults throw tantrums and bully their kids.

That’s not what I want to teach my children and I’m sure neither do you.

We must remember that children are immature and it’s our responsibility to raise them to mature adults.

Proverbs 22:15King James Version (KJV)


Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.


As parents we must use wisdom in managing our emotions so that we can discern whether their actions are sin or childishness and disciple them accordingly.

I don’t believe anything is Biblically wrong with raising your voice or speaking sternly from time to time as a method of correction, it’s this day in and day out unfettered angry yelling that will do more harm to our children than good.

I’ve absolutely been in your shoes. I walk in them everyday monitoring and discipling myself to be a better mother.

We are in this thing together so let’s do what we need to do to change the destiny of our families.

Patient women

If you would like to receive prayer, please leave a comment below and we will pray over it. Also, please share your experiences or comments because we are all women of prayer and can encourage one another.

Read More: How to Stop Being An Angry Wife and Mom

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11 thoughts on “How to Stop Losing Your Temper with Your Kids

  1. Katrinia Arnold says:

    Thank you for this article. I am a 53 year old grandmother helping to raise my 10 year old granddaughter. I’ve given up ALL I have to be here for her so that she can be “safe” in her own home and environment; however, this child is SO UNGRATEFUL, DISRESPECTFUL, and DISOBEDIENT. I’ve tried what I thought was every positive approach (speaking in a calm manner, trying to work on communicating with her, taking her out for walks on the beach, movies, etc.) But it’s like the enemy still finds a way to rear its ugly head and before you know it things go sour. She does and says manipulating and annoying things. She thinks I’m “old and dumb”. I’ve tried to talk to my daughter about it, but she doesn’t take it seriously. She laughs it off like “You two just can’t get along”. I actually spend more time with my granddaughter than her mother does. I don’t think my grandaughter’s behavior is “cute” or “funny” at all and often find myself VERY ANGRY and EXPLOSIVE with her. This morning I tried having a conversation with her by asking her about what she learned in school the day before, her response was “We just did stuff”. I asked her what kind of stuff. Long story short, it turned out to be a disaster. I exploded and yelled at her. She started crying and became withdrawn. Of course afterwards I felt REALLY bad about the whole incident. I started researching how to control my anger and how to “deal” with difficult situations. I came across your article and found it very helpful and spiritually supportive. I do believe that this child is destined to be GREAT and that what I’m experiencing with her are strongholds trying to block her blessings. I will take heed to steps you have provided and focus on “working ” on me and how I react to her. I love my granddaughter and I truly want the BEST for her. I don’t feel like I’m providing that “safe” place for her. Thanks again and God bless.


  2. Thank you for this post. I have been needed much of prayers especially the last couple days and I am so glad to pass by this webpage where I find many posts just what I need at the time. I am struggle with yelling and being angry at my daughter and husband most of the time. In busy daily life, I find myself getting frustrated when things don’t go my ways, when I have to over and over clean and fix things. I then find every reasons to go off on my daughter when she suddenly being so hard headed and not listening, then turn around I feel guilty for yelling at her. Please pray for me for God’s transformation in my heart. Thank you!


    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Bi, that was totally me. I strugggled for years to stop. God is able to remove that habit from your life. I pray, you’ll get the ebook I wrote and work through the steps to bring about healing in your heart and with your husband and daughter. You can find the ebook here http://k3e.618.mywebsitetransfer.com/2013/04/instant-download-remove-from-me-this-venomous-tongue-how-to-stop-destroying-your-family-with-your-words.html

    Praying for you. Be blessed!


  3. I’m standing in the need of prayer that god gives me the strength that I need to take care of my 4children to give me peace of mind and a up lifting spirt and to help me delvoploe the patient that I need for my children I’m asking that he pours his wisdom on all of us Mother’s in today’s world we Mother’s need him ….the Father’s too.in Jesus name I pray Amen


  4. Please pray for me! I grew up with a Screamer and I married a screamer. My husband has overcome his screaming through tons pf prayer and by seeing what it does to me and my emotions. Pray that I can use self control in situations that don’t seem to go my way. I don’t want my family to be scared or scarred from these outbursts in anyway. I still carry scars from being screamed at my entire life. I am seeing it way more often than I use to and apologizing the second it happens. So I just know I am on the right track and just need prayer to break this off my life for good, in Jesus precious name!!


    A Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Heather, Amen on your husbands victory. You will get there too. I highly recommend my book Remove From Me This Venomous Tongue. I’ve never found a book that explained how to break the yoke of bondage yelling can have on us, so I wrote a devotional. I’m prayerful you will have victory in this area.


  5. I struggle with this quite often. I grew up with a “yeller” and I pray daily that God will help me to become a better mother through my own past. I know Is God is working in me, yet I still have a long way to go. Thank you for this post.


  6. Please pray for me that I can draw near to God everyday. That God will remove my anger problem which is not helping in raising my three kids.
    Please pray for me on raising my special needs child that God will give me patience and wisdom for this journey.


  7. Very good article and guidance for all moms and the importance of this matter. Thank you


  8. Please be in prayer for me. I am in the middle of this struggle now. Thank you for praying.


  9. I too struggle with this. I have been getting better because I did hit rock bottom. One night I screamed at my daughter for disobeying me and her having fear in her eyes and crying made me start to cry and then I held her and asked God to change me too. Please pray that he continues to help me be a more patient and calm mother. Thank you for this. I now know I’m not alone.


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