It’s only moms who lose their temper and fly off the handle who will understand what I’m about to describe.
Your kid(s) are in another room carrying on, doing something you’ve asked them not to do. You’ve already asked them several times, today and on other days, not to do whatever it is they are doing.
First you begin getting frustrated because you don’t have the time, energy or patience to ask them to comply yet again. Then you begin getting angry and meditating on ALL THE WAYS they disrespect you.
Finally, you’re fuming inside and you’ve had enough. You are going to give them a piece of your mind and let the chips fall where they may, but then after yelling at them, you see the fear in their eyes. Although you’re still angry, you walk away feeling defeated as a mom because you’ve scared and possibly scarred your children.
Can anyone relate to this scenario? When my adult daughter was still young, this is the kind of mom I would become when I was fed up. I would see the tears and sadness in my children’s eyes and realize I’d gone too far. I hated this about myself, but I didn’t know what to do about it. I was as a praying mom and wife, but that alone wasn’t helping me deal with the frustration of mothering, then one day this happened.
I literally got angry with God and asked why He wouldn’t just fix me and what I learned changed my life and provided the solution I needed to overcome this detrimental communication style.
Some of you may or may not be at your rock bottom. If you are and are ready to begin the process to control your anger when communicating, download my devotional Remove From Me This Venomous Tongue.
What you’ll need to work through it are:
1. Your Bible.
2. A pencil.
3. An open heart.
4. An open mind.
The devotional is my roadmap back from that ugly place inside where that anger wells up from. It’s practical and effective for helping you become a women who chooses pleasant words and speaks from a place of patience.
This is too important of an issue not to take action. Every time we use words out of anger in our homes we are:
1. Destroying trust.
2. Destroying innocence.
3. Cultivating and atmosphere of anxiety.
4. Creating an atmosphere of fear.
5. Causing physical stress to ourselves and loved ones.
6. Causing mental stress to ourselves and loved ones.
The list goes on and on. There is nothing positive about being a mom who flies off the handle and lacks self control.
I understand that our children may ignore our warnings, and not be the obedient little soldiers we’d love for them to be at time, but for us to yell is literally teaching them that adults throw tantrums and bully their kids.
That’s not what I want to teach my children and I’m sure neither do you.
We must remember that children are immature and it’s our responsibility to raise them to mature adults.
Proverbs 22:15King James Version (KJV)
Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
As parents we must use wisdom in managing our emotions so that we can discern whether their actions are sin or childishness and disciple them accordingly.
I don’t believe anything is Biblically wrong with raising your voice or speaking sternly from time to time as a method of correction, it’s this day in and day out unfettered angry yelling that will do more harm to our children than good.
I’ve absolutely been in your shoes. I walk in them everyday monitoring and discipling myself to be a better mother.
We are in this thing together so let’s do what we need to do to change the destiny of our families.
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