I remember thinking it was weird the things God would ask me to do in my marriage. By ask, I’m referring to how he would lead me to Bible versus about forgiveness when my husband made me mad.
It’s no coincidence that I’d end up reading about grace instead of revenge when I’d felt my husband had done me wrong.
God seemed to always lead me to scripture that instructed me to do the very opposite of what I wanted.
The same can be said about strengthening a struggling marriage. In my experience, I’ve found that repaying evil with good can oftentimes work as a catalyst to rebuild a broken marriage.
Repaying evil words with kind words takes strength and a vulnerability that can only be achieved as a result of a close relationship with Father God.
How else, and why would someone treat someone good, when they’ve been wronged, except they understand Gods love, grace and mercy?
I’m in the business of building strong marriages for the work of the Kingdom, so what I write is always going to point in that direction. Each of us are at different stages in our marriages, but no matter where you are, what I tell you today can only sow seeds of healing. Healing for you, for your husband and your marriage.
Whether your marriage is hurting or thriving, I believe words have power and when I began using them to build my marriage up instead of tear it down, I began to see God work in my husband and I like never before.
When I’d made up my mind to nurture my husband instead of battle him, here are some of the things I made sure he knew. Some of them had not come to maturity in him at the time, but I was confident, God wanted them to and my husband did as well.
I began speaking these words over him, praying them over him and treating him as if they were already who he was.
10 Things Your Husband Needs to Hear From You
1. I respect you.
2. I need you.
3. I believe in you.
4. I’ll never leave you.
5. I trust you and I trust your leadership
6. I apologize.
7. You’re on of the best things that ever happened to me.
8. I am still attracted you.
9. You’re an awesome man of God.
10. I’m your biggest supporter and ally.
Beginning to speak life over my husband was one of the biggest steps I took in healing my marriage. It was tough because we were in a rough place, but the vulnerability it took to take that step, repaid me a thousand times over.
If you are in a place where your marriage is struggling, are you asking God what you need to do? Are you doing it? If you’re having a hard time in this area, come talk to me one on one.
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