How to Have an Effective Prayer Life

Prayer of Provision

Once you accept Christ into your heart, there are often times when we wonder about prayer. 

Most of the time, our prayers are an endless array of words spun up to the Lord.  While that is true, prayer as described by Webster’s dictionary is a solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God

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I would go a step further and say that prayer is the practice of the presence of God. Prayer is our response to Him. 

In prayer, our character is molded and shaped. Think of prayer as preparation for the battle ahead. Communication with God is what aligns our hearts toward our eternal Father.

Prayer is worshipping and honoring God, and it is our incense offered up to Him. 

Here is a basic guide to prayer:

  • ADORATION: Open your prayer by adoring God.  Start by simply praising Him for all that He is.

  • CONFESSION: Confession of sins. Ask for a cleaning of your heart, mind, body & soul.

  • THANKSGIVING: Give God thanks for everything He has provided for you. Go throughout your home and lay your hands on things and thank him for richly blessing you.

  • SUPPLICATION: This is where you present your requests to God. Ask Him to provide for your needs.

Below is an example of prayer using your hand:

5 finger prayer

Now that you know more about prayer and have a basic model for it how do we maintain a healthy prayer life make our relationship with God flourish?

prayer for my weaknesses

Below are some examples:

  1. All relationships flourish on compliments. Compliment God. Psalm 100:4 Enter His gates with thanksgiving and with praise. Give thanks to Him and praise His name.

  2. All relationships thrive on active listening. Be still and listen for His voice. Set apart all distractions & quiet yourself before him.  Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.

  3. All relationships develop with consistent communication.  Be consistently devoted to God. Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way just as we are-yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Unless we are in constant communication we aren’t sure of who God is.)

  4. All relationships require honesty.  1 John 1: 7-9 If we walk in the light, as he is the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

We as believers of Jesus need to keep daily accounts with God through regular cleansing, which is why need to confess our sins and seek repentance.


Prayer is where the physical mirrors the spiritual.

  • Our breathing is equal to prayer with God.

  • Our drinking is equal to worshipping with God.

  • Our eating is equal to reading the word of God.

  • Our exercise is equal to acts of service.

Prayer changes the one praying because as you are in the presence of God, you lay before Him your complete self in total dependence.

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In total abandonment, our hearts are quieted and our pride is stripped bare. It’s in this intimate moment where we are face to face with our creator.

It is within this moment that we are looking inside of ourselves and seeking a relationship with God.

Prayer is communication with our true savior.

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Are you struggling in your prayer life right now? How can we help you?

Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Today I want to share a few truths that you must grab hold of if you are going to walk in the authenticity of what God’s words says about you as a wife and mother.

Several women have talked to me about the guilt they feel about the shortcoming as a wife or mom and the common strand amongst each conversation has been to justify their weaknesses by saying, “I’m not perfect”.

Now, there is nothing wrong with not being perfect, but what there is something wrong with is the guilt we tend to carry around for not being perfect.

Becoming the Perfected Women Versus the Perfect WomenWe carry around this guilt as if God expects us to be perfect and He doesn’t.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh:                                                                 Romans 8:1-3 KJV

So why do we feel guilty? Why does admitting we are not perfect make us feel sad, defeated and ashamed?

It’s because we are not walking in the truth of God’s word.

Again, I say….GOD DOES NOT EXPECT US TO BE PERFECT. Point blank and the period!

It’s not His standard. WE WILL NEVER BE PERFECT and that’s okay.

God’s goal is for us to be perfected. Being PERFECT is a finished work. Being PERFECTED is an ongoing work.

As long as we are on this earth and living in these earthly bodies, God will be working on us.

So if you are feeling guilty because even after your best scheduling efforts you are not able to keep your home spic and span, make three meals a day from scratch and be the perfect homemaker…

Stop it!! Just stop!!

God is not calling us to be perfect homemakers. His goal is not perfect homes. Its perfect hearts. He is working on our character. The job of managing a home and family is a tool He uses to help cultivate better character!!

Why does God give us kids and husbands who even after our best efforts to teach them to clean up after themselves fall short?

It’s to teach us grace and patience.

It’s not about the messes in our homes. It’s about the messes in our hearts!

So today when you feel like you are the worst wife or mother and that you’ll never be that perfect women, I want you to kick the devil in the teeth and say, “That’s right!! I’m not PERFECT and I never will be but I know my GOD is PERFECTING me!


If you are struggling in the area of feeling life a failure as a wife or mom let us know in the comments. There are 1,000’s of women in this community who have been where you are and want to come along side you, pray with you and lend a listening ear.

Prayer: Trust in God’s Plan


Today’s prayer prompt comes from Psalm 143:8

Call me to hear that I lovingkindness in the morning; for in thee do I trust: cause me to know the way wherein I should walk; for I lift up my soul unto thee.

Here’s are the key points to remember today.

Meditate on it

  • My trust is in you.
  • You have the best planned for me.


A Prayer of Trust in God’s Plan


Dear Lord,

Help me have an unwavering trust in you today.

Help me lay aside my own agenda and focus on the perfect plan you have for me.

I trust you and I am confident that you have the best plan for me today.

In your holy name Amen!

Prayer: Trust in God’s Protection


Today’s prayer prompt comes from Psalm 142:5

I cried unto the Lord I said thou are my refuge and my portion in the land of the living.

Here’s are the key points to remember today.

Meditate on it

  • He is my refuge.
  • He is my safe place.

A Prayer of Safety


Dear Lord,

Thank you for being a safe place for me. When the issues of this life become too much to bear I can run to you and you
will help me. Your remind me that I don’t have to fight life’s battles alone. Teach me that it is perfectly fine to retreat to your

In Your mighty name Amen!

Are Proverbs 31 Wives a Myth?

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Today I want to talk about the state of our men. What are they thinking in terms of the women in our society?

For those who are married, do they feel hopeless and regret marrying their wives? For those who are single, are they feeling hopeless about ever finding a Proverbs 31 wife?

I remember how my husband felt about me before I began this journey to becoming a Proverbs 31 wife. I can tell you that he felt hopeless and regretted marrying me.

I was argumentative, angry and defiant. When things didn’t go my way I was going to make them go my way by any means including but not limited to the silent treatment, withholding physical and emotional affection and not being his helpmeet.

So I know that even married men can be in marriages where they feel as though they’ll never have the women they may read about in the Bible, but it’s just not true.

God is able to take even the worst wife and make her the woman of your dreams.

She must only be willing and obedient.

The same is true for single men. Even if it looks like there are no honorable women left, it’s just not true. We have to rely on faith and hearing comes by the word of God. (Rom. 10:17)

But “faith is the substance of things hoped for an the evidence of things not seen”, (Heb. 11:1) and just because we can’t see it doesn’t mean it’s not there.

Back when I was a mess of a wife, my husband was a mess too. His behavior made it hard for me to change my behavior but when I started to look past his faults and see him as the man God wanted him to be, I was able to act like the wife God wanted me to be.

Sometimes husband don’t marry Proverbs 31 wives.


Sometimes Proverbs 31 wives don’t marry Ephesians 5 husbands


God is able to take those things that we look at as hopeless and make them into something amazing!!

So let’s take a look at the comment that sparked this post. It was from an APW Facebook friend Dantrell who replies in response to reading my post 5 Biblical Characteristics of A Proverbs Wife.

He felt that there were no more Proverbs 31 women in his generation. Is this a myth? I’d love for you to comment below this post or on the thread on Facebook using the link below.

Are Proverbs Wives a Myth?

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5 Ways to Find Balance

5 Ways to Find Balance

Have you ever had one of those tremendously draining weeks where there have been super emotional highs and then really low lows?

That’s been my week.

In fact that’s been my month.

I have been jumping from project to project on the blog and in my home since the start of the year and I am feeling exhausted and unbalanced.

Even the greatest achievements are wearing me out.

I have really trusted God for some A-M-A-Z-I-N-G things this year and He’s done nothing but deliver yet I find myself in  a place where I’m overwhelmed with it all and just need to take a breather.

And there’s nothing wrong with that. In fact, it’s the very example Jesus leaves for us throughout the New Testament Bible.

After the miracles in Capernaum and Galilee:

  • And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed. (Read in context —> Mark 1:14-35)

After the miraculous feeding of 5,000:

  • And straightway Jesus constrained his disciples to get into a ship, and to go before him unto the other side, while he sent the multitudes away. And when he had sent the multitudes away, he went up into a mountain apart to pray: and when the evening was come, he was there alone.  (Red in context —> Matthew 14:14-23)

 Before making a major decision:

  • And it came to pass in those days, that he went out into a mountain to pray, and continued all night in prayer to God.And when it was day, he called unto him his disciples: and of them he chose twelve, whom also he named apostles. (Read in context —> Luke 6:12-16)

After ministering to the needs of others:

  • And he said unto them, Come ye yourselves apart into a desert place, and rest a while: for there were many coming and going, and they had no leisure so much as to eat.And they departed into a desert place by ship privately. (Read in context —> Mark 6:20-37)

I know I’m not the only one who gets to  point where they’re overwhelmed and feeling unbalanced with their calling. So for those of you in a position where you are constantly pouring yourself out for the glory of the Lord, please know that it’s okay to rest.

If it was  good enough practice for Jesus, then it should be good enough for us. By redirecting our entire focus toward the Lord, we allow Him to recalibrate our lives and give us the perfect balance.

5 Ways to Find Balance

1. Pray – Block out time to pray daily. This is different from your time praying as you go about your normal day. Intentional time in conversation with God allows you to release all issues to the only one who can truly do anything about them. Talking to and listening to God either by thinking on His word or allowing His spirit to speak to your heart should be bring peace and direction. This step is important because it gives God permission to organize your life one day and one moment at a time.

2. Meditate – Spend time thinking about or writing scripture related to resting, order, peace and balance. Keep  a journal of the verses so that you are able to easily find them. Time spent reflecting on Gods promises brings rest and a peace to your soul.

3. Limit Your Availability – Block out times for you and your family when you cannot be reached. Despite what our culture says, it is not rude, it is necessary. Also, block out time alone for just you and the Lord.

4. Be Purposeful With Your Time – Understanding that your time is really God’s times will help you be purposeful with it. Pray about everything you are asked to do before you say “yes”. Make sure that it lines up with God’s plan for you.

5. Rest – Plan days of NOTHING! This step goes hand in hand with numbers 1-4. It’s alright to NOT BE DOING SOMETHING ALL OF THE TIME. Time resting means time with the Lord and also getting enough sleep. The fastest way to become unbalanced is from lack of sleep. It’s okay to take a nap or go to bed early. Schedule rest time just as you’d schedule any other activity.

If  anyone besides me woke up this morning feeling unbalanced and overwhelmed please know that God doesn’t want us to be in that position. He knows all about the busyness virus that Satan tries to infect us with which is why He’s supplied a remedy for us when we find ourselves there.

If you have a been struggling this morning, this week or this month leave your prayer request below. I want to pray for you.