4 Choices Women Are Afraid to Make

4 Choices Women Are Afraid to Make

What would you do differently if you stopped giving so much power to what people thought of you and your choices?

Take a moment to give it some serious thought.

I think it’s a good thing to give thought to how a bad choice may affect your character and witness to others, but I’m talking about good choices you know you need to make, but maybe are afraid to make.

You know those choices that scare you to even think about how good life could be if you’d just get up the courage to do them.

I’m going to tell you about a few choices I’ve made in my life that you may be contemplating, but are too afraid to act on. These choices are ones that have been the most difficult because they are not the norm in our society and they’ve made me feel like I don’t quite fit in with everyone else.

 

What I’ve learned from these choices is that I’m not called to fit in, I’m called to leadership. Being a leader often means doing what isn’t popular in order to encourage others to action. It means being to first of my peers to act on good choices despite my reservations or fears.

 

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Saving a Marriage That Is Falling Apart

Has anyone ever had a marriage that needed saving? I know that I most certainly did. We were maybe seven years into our marriage and were thinking of calling it quits. We were both tired of the arguing and disagreements.

Saving a Marriage That Is Falling Apart

We were tired of trying and felt like we weren’t cut out to be Christians. I didn’t know it then, but we were going through a refining process. Shortly before all of the arguing came to a head, we’d both decided to fight for our marriage or call it quits.

Looking back, I realize that’s when the devil really began attacking our marriage.

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What Do You Do When Your Joy Is Gone?

What to Do When Your Joy Is Gone

I’m almost certain I suffer from a mild case of depression. I don’t think it’s clinical as much as it’s hormonal.

For a few days out of every month, usually when I’m ovulating, I get what I call the blues. Some call it PMS.

During that time, anything that goes wrong becomes a tragedy. Things that wouldn’t normally bother me bring me to the verge of tears.

I normally don’t want to be in public places and prefer to just lay around.

I’ve actively dealt with this at least the last ten years and while I feel like I have a good handle on the situation I hate going through it.

I truly wish God would just take this away from me but until He does or until I figure out how to overcome it I do the following.

What to Do When Your Joy is Gone

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Becoming Better Wives Through The Fruit of the Spirit

Fruit of the Spirit

The fruit of the spirit, I struggle with the most is patience. Another term for patience is self control.

The King James Bible uses the word temperance. I love that word because the first part of the word “temper” indicates what we often lose when we get upset.

When I get irritated, frustrated or overwhelmed, I’m more likely to lose my temper, and while I no longer yell and scream, I can get snarky.

I don’t intend to be snarky, but the words just come out that way since I’m already beginning to get frustrated inside.

“Luke 6:45 says, A good man out of the good treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is good; and an evil man out of the evil treasure of his heart bringeth forth that which is evil: for of the abundance of the heart his mouth speaketh.”

This is not to say that you or I are evil people, but I know I can certainly think some evil thoughts and those thoughts have an impact on the tone I use when I’m frustrated.

I’ve learned to lower the volume on my voice when speaking, but now I want to master the art of patience under stress.

This year I’m working on improving my communication by becoming a more patient person. While I no longer yell and argue, I still have areas that I need to work on.

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Cultivating Intimacy in Marriage

Wives, cultivating intimacy is so much more than a physical act and it begins way before we ever reach the bedroom.

Cultivating Imtimacy in Marriage - aproverbswife.comIf you are bumping heads and harboring resentment that’s affecting your intimate time together, talk it out. 

Intimacy is a precious gift from God for our enjoyment. It’s a vulnerable act of worship and no two couples will have the same expectations.

Talk to your spouse. Learn their likes and dislikes. Lovemaking is a healthy part of marriage, but just like anything else, it has to be cultivated.

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Is a Happy Marriage Possible?

Is a Happy Marriage Possible?

Are you happy in your marriage?

Several years ago, I made up my mind, I didn’t want to be in my marriage and not be happy.

If I’m going to spend the rest of my life with Germaine, I want that time together to be like heaven on earth.

Yep, I want what people like to call a fairytale marriage and what I simply call a happy marriage.

I don’t want to harbor bitterness, disappointment, or animosity toward my husband. So I make a choice not to. Instead, I show grace, mercy, patience, long-suffering and forgiveness. Sometimes even to the point where I allow my will, and my way to be sacrificed for the good of the marriage. For the health of the marriage.  For the happiness of the marriage.

I have never, not one time, denied myself for my marriage and had God not repay me with happiness and joy. Sometimes it takes a while for it to come, but no matter what my husband and I go through, I always come back to loving him just as deeply as I did the day I married him. In fact, everytime I deny “me”…..”we” grow stronger.

When I let go of self preservation and took hold of “us preservation” I changed and my marriage changed. I began to choose contentment over discontentment. Joy over sorrow. Satisfaction over dissatisfaction. I stopped placing the responsibility of my happiness on the shoulders of my husband and I stopped attaching my happiness to his actions.

Germaine and I both realized around the same time, God didn’t create us to make each other happy, God created us to point one another to the source of happiness which is Christ Jesus.

When Christ is your point of happiness, there is less disappointment, dissatisfaction, bitterness and sorrow. Nehemiah 8:10 says, “don’t be sorry, because the joy of the Lord is our strong place.” Finding our joy and happiness in the Lord makes us stronger than if we try and find it in our spouses.

Our spouses can be swayed by sin, which results in them not always being the best spouses, but God is never swayed by sin. His joy is everlasting, unchangeable and immovable.  When we find our joy or happiness in Him it will no longer be a fleeting emotion based on our current situation.

Don’t get me wrong, there are days when I lose focus and Germaine and I go through struggles, but nowadays, there is much more happiness in our marriage than unhappiness.

I wake up looking forward to sharing this life with Germaine and that’s the way it should be between Christian husbands and wives.

If you have strife in your marriage, that doesn’t make you any less of a Christian if you’ve accepted Christ as your Lord and savior and are actively obeying his commandments as best you can.

It just means God is not done working on your heart.

I’d love for your marriage to be one where you experience happiness. I challenge you to ask God to show you how to let Him become the source of your joy.

If you would like to receive prayer, please leave a comment below and we will pray over it. Also, please share your experiences or comments because we are all women of prayer and can encourage one another.

 

25 Secrets for a Happy Marriage

25 Secrets for a Happy Marriage via AProverbsWife.com

I absolutely love being married. There are few things I would do differently if I had the chance, but marrying my sweetheart isn’t one of them.

Our marriage wasn’t always blissful, but once we made a decision to cultivate happiness, things changed. Now just about every day is like a new opportunity to grow deeper in love. When we put away the distraction of arguments, bitterness and discontent, we opened up the door to a deeper love relationship.

Not only do I have a happy marriage, but many of you do too and you want to help other couples get there. So I asked a question to my friends, and within our A Proverbs Wife Facebook community, and the response was overwhelming.

After reading through every single response, here are the top 25 secrets for a happy marriage (tweet this).

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