I Am My Husband’s “Good Thing”

Becoming Our Husband's "Good Thing"

We at times forget how much our husbands need us. Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in our children, our home, our blogs and life in general that we forget to get around to being his “help meet”.

We often have good intentions when we fill our days with this and that. We may even believe that if our calendars are filled with activities and our to-do lists are a mile long that we are being good wives.

However, it is just the opposite. A good wife is sensitive to her husbands needs above everyone else’s.She is concerned even to the point of clearing her schedule when he needs her, if possible. A wife who has a heart for her husband will purposely schedules time in her day for him.

She does not put her children’s desires, requests or agenda before her husbands. what your children want you to do shouldn’t come before what your husband needs you to do. Nor should where your children want to go come before where your husband needs for you to go. Fear not ladies —  your children will know that they are loved and cared for even if they don’t receive 100% of your energy, time and attention. Nor will a godly husband put any selfish needs before his children.

When we place our husbands as a major priority in our lives we are teaching our children biblical family order. A good wife seeks to please her husband and adhere to her husbands wishes above all other earthly beings.(Ephesians 5:22-24)

One of the major drawbacks of neglecting to make our husbands a priority, is withdrawal. How many times have we all mis-prioritized and found that our husbands had withdrawn from us? They sought us but we were too busy. (Song of Solomon 5:2-6) They needed us, yet we were not there.

Because they are so strong, we forget how much our husbands need us. Because they rarely, if ever cry, we forget that they are vulnerable.

In an effort to be that “good thing’’ referred to in Proverbs 18:22; let us make a conscience effort to make our spouses a priority this week.

The Benefits of Family Prayer Time

Psalm 95:10-6

O come, let US sing unto the LORD: let US make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let US come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms. For the LORD is a great God, and a great King above all gods. In his hand are the deep places of the earth: the strength of the hills is his also. The sea is his, and he made it: and his hands formed the dry land. O come, let US worship and bow down: let US kneel before the LORD our maker.

I have been told by a few that I am a good writer whether that’s true or not is yet to be determined. However I write to keep a record of things. I write down the things that I feel are important and worth remembering. I am hoping to one day gather all of my best post and bind them into a book for my children. The lessons I share under the homemaking and  family life categories have been a medium that has enabled me to record my growth as a Christian, wife and mother…it’s sort of like my personal book of Psalms. It’s my story and with each word I hope to share words of wisdom that will encourage not only you but my children as well.

Habakkuk 2:2

And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that reads it.

This week I have chosen Psalm 95:10-6 as the scripture I will meditate on. It came as a result of praying with my husband and children this past week. Praying together is not something we do everyday as a family and to be completely honest, it’s something that we’ve neglected for a few months.

In the four verses of Psalm 95:10-6 the word “US” is repeated four times which indicates to me that the “US” part is a very important point that David was trying to convey. There is a great blessing in one-on-one prayer with the Lord and I have found an equally beneficial blessing in praying together with my children and husband.

When my family and I pray together, we are able to say things to God on behalf of one another, that we may sometimes forget to say directly or refuse to say. When we pray together we are able to have a one on one conversation with God on each others behalf. Praying together is a way to convey to my husband and children how much I love them. When I pray and ask God to help me become a better wife and mother it speaks volumes to my family. They get to see that I am just a fragile human being trying to be perfected by God. It explains my flaws and restores their hope that God is continuing His work of perfecting me. When my husband and children hear me lift up their names to God and thank Him for blessing me with them, it gives them a strength and a hope that surpasses ordinary words of encouragement.

Praying to the Lord together as a family is a very joyful time for us and it touches every member of our family in a way that no other activity we do together can match. There are so many benefits and I would encourage you to begin to make family prayer an important part of your day or week.

How Should A Wife Disagree With Her Husband Respectfully?

How Should A Wife Disagree With Her Husband Respectfully - AProverbsWife.com

The more my husband and I study the character of God the less we’ve come to disagree with one another on major issues. With time, patience and a desire to understand one another we’ve learned a few things about one another. We come to understand the deep-seated reasons behind why we feel and think the way that we do.

In the earlier years of our marriage, I believed that if you trusted your husband with the finances you ran a greater risk of ending up in financial ruin. This method of thinking was a result of my upbringing and the cause of many of our arguments. Needless to say, he was raised just the same way and refused to give me control over the finances. This tug of war went on until one day I decided to release my grip on controlling the money and tighten my grip on God.

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Why Submission is God’s design for marriage

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What words come to mind when you hear the word, submit.

Is it doormat, servant or slave?

How about weak or passive?

Well what comes to mind for me is love and strength but this hasn’t always been the case.

For many years I looked at submission as something that weak women did but through growing in my relationship with Christ I have been given a different perspective, one that has changed my life and my marriage.

From the day that I gave my life to Christ I have desired to do what was pleasing to Him, but when I discovered that pleasing Him included submitting to my husband, I struggled.

I had to examine my self in the light of Gods word. What I learned is I refused to submit not because I feared my husband would abuse his power, nor was it genuinely because I thought that my husband was incapable of leading.

What it boiled down to at the core was that I was full of pride and selfishness.

I wanted to be in control.

I wanted to wear the proverbial pants in the relationship.

I believed the worlds lie that control means exerting my authority, rights and opinions. This was so far from the truth.

God has ordained my husband to be the leader of our family, and with that he has a great responsibility. He is responsible if our family succeeds or fails. I’m speaking regarding eternal success or failure. When I began to see the magnitude of the responsibility my husband held, coveting his role no longer looked so appealing.

In response, I began focusing on my role and what I’ve learned is that I am his helper.

In Genesis 2, when God provides a helper for Adam, He used a glorious Hebrew word for helper: azer. “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not a beneficial thing for the man to be alone. I will make for him an azer who is his complement or equal.”

“In Hebrew, azer is used 19 times; mostly it is used to denote humanity’s great helper (The Holy Spirit). The word means a “helper like unto God.”

God paid a compliment to women with this word. The same word is used in Psalms, where it says, “O Israel, trust in the Lord, for He is their Helper and shield” (Psalm 115:9).

The term is always used to describe someone who brings significant help... When the ancient Hebrew speaking Israelite heard the term used to describe Eve, he would have been impressed.

He would have thought of women, therefore, as a God-like gift from God.

 (source CBN.com)

I am his helper and I am suitable for him when, I submit to Him.

Will all of his decisions be the right decisions? No.

My obligation to God is to submit to my husband, trusting that God has my best interest at heart. So as long as my husband is not leading me to sin, I choose to submit.

My marriage has benefited so much from this decision and I’m sure yours can too.

Ladies, where are you in your journey? How can I pray for you or create more content that will help you? Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section. I read every comment and reply to most, so if you have a question or want to talk, leave your thoughts below.