How to Avoid Arguments in Marriage

How to Avoid Arguments in Marriage

We were in a bad place. Arguments in marriage is what was tearing us apart and with every new one came new cracks in our foundation.

My marriage was falling apart and I didn’t know how to fix it. We argued and yelled constantly and I was fed up. I knew I had to do something drastic or throw in the towel. I saw how arguments in marriage were hurting our relationship, but didn’t know how to stop. That’s when I gave up and gave it over to God and He showed me how to be a better communicator in my marriage.

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How to Find a Desire to Read the Bible

How to Find a Desire to Read the Bible

In today’s video, How to Find a Desire to Read the Bible, I’m tackling the “Why” behind the struggle and the struggle is real.

God would not give us something to do that serves absolutely no purpose. There is a HUGE purpose and benefit to reading the Bible which is why the enemy fights so hard for us not to.

This video will help shed some light on how to grow in this area, plus I’m opening up the Her Pleasant Words small (Facebook) group in September designed to help you dig into your Bible with me for 5 weeks.

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Morning Devotional Time Tour

Morning Devotional Time Tour

Today I’m taking you on a step-by-step tour of what I do during my morning devotional time.

Devotions for me is to spend time reading the Bible and then taking notes on what I read. I did this in a video format, because I think it’s the best way to really show you what I do from start to finish.

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Less Social Media. More Purpose.

I have just a few moments to write this as I wait for my husband to pop in for dinner and then head back out for work.

This morning I talked with some of you on Periscope about how I’ll be cutting back on some of my social media channels. I’m doing this in order to really focus on the platforms where I can make the most impact in the least amount of time. My goal is to provide resources that will encourage, inspire and ignite your passion for Biblical womanhood, but I want to do it in a way that you can access the resources at your leisure. I feel like with the growth of social media, we are being pulled in so many directions mentally and I don’t want to be a source that pulls you away from time with God, your family or offline connections.

Less Social Media. More Purpose.

The same is true in my life, I want to have a balance between what I create online and my relationships offline.  Coming up in a few days I will be sitting down to create a game plan or social media strategy where I will reduce the amount of time I spend online and increase the amount of impact I make with my online time. This will start with being more focused in the content I put on and on which platforms. While I love Periscope, it’s a bit of a hassle and isn’t the best use of my time. I’ve decided to refocus my vlogging efforts into my YouTube channels here and here. I will creating videos weekly if not daily on the two channels. All things faith and marriage will be uploaded here, while all things family and homemaking will be uploaded here.

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Hubby Journal Tour

Hubby Journal Tour #WriteLoveChallengeHi you guys! Did you watch my Hubby Journal video? Isn’t that just an amazing idea?

I’m so glad I decided to share it with you. It has truly been a blessing and inspiration in my marriage. If you follow me on Instagram under Saidah Washington or ApronsAndStilletos, you know I have a February Hubby Journal challenge going.

It’s called the #WriteLoveChallenge created by Monika from @Mon_Creates and is designed to inspire ideas for daily Hubby Journal entries.

When Monica saw my video it inspired her to put together the challenge.

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Marriage Tip #3: Give it All

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The hardest thing God ever asked me to do was submit to my husband.

My marriage was at the end of it’s rope and I had done all I could do to make it work.

We just weren’t as compatible as we’d thought.

My husband and I sat down and had a talk and he pointed out that I was the boss of the house and it was causing problems.

What?!?

Excuse me?!?

I explained that I wasn’t the boss of the house but was certainly the boss of ME.

We ended up looking at Genesis 1 & 2 and that very day I realized that God didn’t want me to be the boss of ME.

He wanted me to be like Jesus in the garden of Gethsemene and allow Him through my husband to be the boss.

That realization blew my mind and broke my heart.

I told God that my husband would surely ruin my life if I allowed him to make life altering decisions on my behalf. Of course I was LETTING him make small decisions that I could easily correct but this was different.

Full submission meant LETTING him make decisions about my financial future and my way of living.

That was one of the hardest things I’d ever done but you know what stands out the most?

I felt God there with me every step of the way. Whenever I had to surrender my will in place of what my husband thought was best I pressed into God all the more.

He felt my pain. He understood the agony I felt as the old me was crucified.

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He will be there with you too if you ask Him into your situation.

God will ask us to do hard things but He will always enable us to endure it.

Not only that, He will also bless us with a great reward for our obedience.

Mine is a wonderful marriage…even better than anything I ever dreamed of.

What is God asking you to do? Will you do it?

How to Have an Effective Prayer Life

Prayer of Provision

Once you accept Christ into your heart, there are often times when we wonder about prayer. 

Most of the time, our prayers are an endless array of words spun up to the Lord.  While that is true, prayer as described by Webster’s dictionary is a solemn request for help or expression of thanks addressed to God

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I would go a step further and say that prayer is the practice of the presence of God. Prayer is our response to Him. 

In prayer, our character is molded and shaped. Think of prayer as preparation for the battle ahead. Communication with God is what aligns our hearts toward our eternal Father.

Prayer is worshipping and honoring God, and it is our incense offered up to Him. 

Here is a basic guide to prayer:

  • ADORATION: Open your prayer by adoring God.  Start by simply praising Him for all that He is.

  • CONFESSION: Confession of sins. Ask for a cleaning of your heart, mind, body & soul.

  • THANKSGIVING: Give God thanks for everything He has provided for you. Go throughout your home and lay your hands on things and thank him for richly blessing you.

  • SUPPLICATION: This is where you present your requests to God. Ask Him to provide for your needs.

Below is an example of prayer using your hand:

5 finger prayer

Now that you know more about prayer and have a basic model for it how do we maintain a healthy prayer life make our relationship with God flourish?

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Below are some examples:

  1. All relationships flourish on compliments. Compliment God. Psalm 100:4 Enter His gates with thanksgiving and with praise. Give thanks to Him and praise His name.

  2. All relationships thrive on active listening. Be still and listen for His voice. Set apart all distractions & quiet yourself before him.  Psalm 46:10 Be still and know that I am God.

  3. All relationships develop with consistent communication.  Be consistently devoted to God. Hebrews 4:15-16 For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way just as we are-yet was without sin. Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Unless we are in constant communication we aren’t sure of who God is.)

  4. All relationships require honesty.  1 John 1: 7-9 If we walk in the light, as he is the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his son, purifies us from all sin. If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.

We as believers of Jesus need to keep daily accounts with God through regular cleansing, which is why need to confess our sins and seek repentance.

Prayer

Prayer is where the physical mirrors the spiritual.

  • Our breathing is equal to prayer with God.

  • Our drinking is equal to worshipping with God.

  • Our eating is equal to reading the word of God.

  • Our exercise is equal to acts of service.

Prayer changes the one praying because as you are in the presence of God, you lay before Him your complete self in total dependence.

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In total abandonment, our hearts are quieted and our pride is stripped bare. It’s in this intimate moment where we are face to face with our creator.

It is within this moment that we are looking inside of ourselves and seeking a relationship with God.

Prayer is communication with our true savior.

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Are you struggling in your prayer life right now? How can we help you?