Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Becoming Perfected Women Versus Perfect Women

Today I want to share a few truths that you must grab hold of if you are going to walk in the authenticity of what God’s words says about you as a wife and mother.

Several women have talked to me about the guilt they feel about the shortcoming as a wife or mom and the common strand amongst each conversation has been to justify their weaknesses by saying, “I’m not perfect”.

Now, there is nothing wrong with not being perfect, but what there is something wrong with is the guilt we tend to carry around for not being perfect.

Becoming the Perfected Women Versus the Perfect WomenWe carry around this guilt as if God expects us to be perfect and He doesn’t.

There is therefore now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit. For the law of the Spirit of life in Christ Jesus hath made me free from the law of sin and death.

For what the law could not do, in that it was weak through the flesh, God sending his own Son in the likeness of sinful flesh, and for sin, condemned sin in the flesh:                                                                 Romans 8:1-3 KJV

So why do we feel guilty? Why does admitting we are not perfect make us feel sad, defeated and ashamed?

It’s because we are not walking in the truth of God’s word.

Again, I say….GOD DOES NOT EXPECT US TO BE PERFECT. Point blank and the period!

It’s not His standard. WE WILL NEVER BE PERFECT and that’s okay.

God’s goal is for us to be perfected. Being PERFECT is a finished work. Being PERFECTED is an ongoing work.

As long as we are on this earth and living in these earthly bodies, God will be working on us.

So if you are feeling guilty because even after your best scheduling efforts you are not able to keep your home spic and span, make three meals a day from scratch and be the perfect homemaker…

Stop it!! Just stop!!

God is not calling us to be perfect homemakers. His goal is not perfect homes. Its perfect hearts. He is working on our character. The job of managing a home and family is a tool He uses to help cultivate better character!!

Why does God give us kids and husbands who even after our best efforts to teach them to clean up after themselves fall short?

It’s to teach us grace and patience.

It’s not about the messes in our homes. It’s about the messes in our hearts!

So today when you feel like you are the worst wife or mother and that you’ll never be that perfect women, I want you to kick the devil in the teeth and say, “That’s right!! I’m not PERFECT and I never will be but I know my GOD is PERFECTING me!


If you are struggling in the area of feeling life a failure as a wife or mom let us know in the comments. There are 1,000’s of women in this community who have been where you are and want to come along side you, pray with you and lend a listening ear.

How to Stop Being an Angry Parent

How to Stop Being an Angry Parent

If you’re a mom of school age kids and you don’t homeschool you are either dreading the last day of school, looking forward to it, or are somewhere in between.

The thought of having your kids home with you for most of the day during the Summer may be intimidating if you are working on controlling your tongue.

Some of you are hopeful about the last day of school, have already accessed your instant download and plan to use the Summer to work through my ebook Remove from Me this Venomous Tongue — How to Stop Destroying Your Family with your Words.

I want this Summer to be a joy filled time for every mother reading this post today. I want your children’s days to be filled with joyful memories not days spent walking around on eggshells hoping mom doesn’t lose it.

When the Summer ends and your kids return to school I want them to be sure of two things:

1. God loves them.

2. Mom loves them.

You may be wondering how you are supposed to do this when you can barely make it from 3:00 when school let’s out until their bedtime without yelling.

Well I’m not going to provide you a simple and dismissive answer because there isn’t one.

The only way you are going to create joy filled days where you patiently mother your children is going to be by the grace of God, a willing and obedient spirit and complete surrender.

You are going to have to lay the women you are today on the altar as a living sacrifice and let the Holy Spirit guide every single solitary moment of your day.

You will have to surrender it all.

Your thoughts, will, actions, words and emotions to Him.

God and His word must become the filter through which you process everything you do.

If you are often frustrated, stressed, overwhelmed and at your wits end with your family that is a clear indication that God is not in control over that area of your life.

God is not the author of chaos and confusion, He is the author of peace.

I want you to win!!

If it wasn’t true I wouldn’t have wrote such a transparent ebook about my struggle with anger. I’m on your side and I’m advocating for you and your children.

I’m petitioning God for this to be the Summer where everything changes for your family. I don’t want you to live like you’ve been living anymore. I’ve been there and it’s like hell on earth.

I want you to be free from the bondage of defeat.

I want to help you get there. I am here to pray with you. If you leave a comment below with just your name, I’ll pray for you.

Do you want this Summer to be different?

Let’s do this.

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Lord you know our needs before we even ask. That’s how amazing You are.

I am so glad that you are a God who is not afar off but You are able to relate to our infirmities.

I am so glad that You went to the cross for us and gave us an example of what it means to die to the flesh so that we can live at liberty in the Spirit.

Right now these women who struggle with patiently mothering are not at liberty and if they’ve read this far they so desperately want to be made new.

I petition You Most High God to do a miraculous work in them to where they know that it was nobody but You.

Thanks you so much again Lord for changing me. You’ve made me a better wife and mother. Thank you Father so much for forcing I mean encouraging me to write this book and helping so many.

I am truly humbled and honored to be your daughter.

Are You Wearing the Full Armor of God?

Are You Wearing the Full Armor of God? -






All emotions many of us have or are currently enduring. Life has so many unexpected twists. Many are filled with tears and sadness.

On the other hand, countless days are filled with joy, laughter, and love. The good days do not need a blueprint.

How do we deal with the not so good days?

The days you have prayed and prayed and prayed again but your anger towards the situation will not diminish. Those days where the tears flow without ceasing. Those days where your resources are tapped out and you are out of solutions.

This is when our trust in God is put to the test. When scripture is not just theory or words on a page. This is when we put on The Full Armor of God.

Ephesian 6:10-18

Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then, with the belt of truth buckled around your waist, with the breastplate of righteousness in placeand with your feet fitted with the readiness that comes from the gospel of peace. In addition to all this, take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the evil one. Take the helmet of salvation and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God.

As followers of Jesus we know that the battle is won. We also know, that although weeping may last through the night, joy WILL come in the morning. We have to stand firm. We have to push through with the assurance that God is in control even if we cannot see the way.

Be encouraged.

Stay strong.

God is in control.

Miracles happen.

Healing will occur.

Doors will open.

Comfort will arrive.

Our needs will be met.

Matthew 7:7

Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you.

Are you struggling with something so heavy right now it feels like you won’t make it? I’d love to pray for you. Leave your name in the comments below and I will add it to my prayer list.

How Does God Use Bad Situations?

How Does God Use Bad Situations?

Below you will find a video devotional taking you a step into the heart of God.  The video outlines the life of Joseph and gives you some insight on how God can turn the ugliest of messes into something beautiful.  The key scriptures used in the video are Genesis 50:20 and James 1:12.  The life of Joseph is found in Genesis 37-50.

The video is meant as a tool to help you apply the scriptures and examples to your own life, and to give you a key for overcoming bad situations.  God can use your disappointments and victories in life for the greater good!

Please comment below if you would like to receive prayer, as we are all here to encourage and build each other up.

 We will be creating more video devotionals on the YouTube channel. They are FREE to watch and you can even be notified when we post new videos. Be sure to subscribe to the A Proverbs Wife You Tube channel.

Your Husband is Not God

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I don’t place the burden of my provision on my husband’s shoulders. Nor do I expect him to meet all of my needs.

I depend on GOD and GOD alone to meet my needs.

This is what has helped me to encourage my husband rather than criticize him when we were faced with hard times.

The only thing I expect my husband to do is follow God.

If God sees fit for us to have an abundance, He will provide it. If He sees fit for us to experience struggles we will endure it.

God is my provider, my strength and my joy. Situations don’t determine my character. I’m going to love my husband through good and bad.

All my trust is in the LORD!

Phillipians 4:19 But my God shall supply all your need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus.