The Benefits of Family Prayer Time

Psalm 95:10-6

O come, let US sing unto the LORD: let US make a joyful noise to the rock of our salvation. Let US come before his presence with thanksgiving, and make a joyful noise unto him with psalms. For the LORD is a great God, and a great King above all gods. In his hand are the deep places of the earth: the strength of the hills is his also. The sea is his, and he made it: and his hands formed the dry land. O come, let US worship and bow down: let US kneel before the LORD our maker.

I have been told by a few that I am a good writer whether that’s true or not is yet to be determined. However I write to keep a record of things. I write down the things that I feel are important and worth remembering. I am hoping to one day gather all of my best post and bind them into a book for my children. The lessons I share under the homemaking and  family life categories have been a medium that has enabled me to record my growth as a Christian, wife and mother…it’s sort of like my personal book of Psalms. It’s my story and with each word I hope to share words of wisdom that will encourage not only you but my children as well.

Habakkuk 2:2

And the LORD answered me, and said, Write the vision, and make it plain upon tables, that he may run that reads it.

This week I have chosen Psalm 95:10-6 as the scripture I will meditate on. It came as a result of praying with my husband and children this past week. Praying together is not something we do everyday as a family and to be completely honest, it’s something that we’ve neglected for a few months.

In the four verses of Psalm 95:10-6 the word “US” is repeated four times which indicates to me that the “US” part is a very important point that David was trying to convey. There is a great blessing in one-on-one prayer with the Lord and I have found an equally beneficial blessing in praying together with my children and husband.

When my family and I pray together, we are able to say things to God on behalf of one another, that we may sometimes forget to say directly or refuse to say. When we pray together we are able to have a one on one conversation with God on each others behalf. Praying together is a way to convey to my husband and children how much I love them. When I pray and ask God to help me become a better wife and mother it speaks volumes to my family. They get to see that I am just a fragile human being trying to be perfected by God. It explains my flaws and restores their hope that God is continuing His work of perfecting me. When my husband and children hear me lift up their names to God and thank Him for blessing me with them, it gives them a strength and a hope that surpasses ordinary words of encouragement.

Praying to the Lord together as a family is a very joyful time for us and it touches every member of our family in a way that no other activity we do together can match. There are so many benefits and I would encourage you to begin to make family prayer an important part of your day or week.

Carving Out Family Devotion Time

Carving Out Time for God

I really thought that with the children being back in public school that our time with the Lord would suffer.

However, I have been surprised to see that with some planning we have been able to spend more time worshipping, praying, meditating and study Gods word.

Mornings

6:30 am~ The children rise, do their hygiene, make beds, tidy room, get dressed.
7:00 am~ Memory verses, Bible Quiz questions
7:15-7:20~ Put on shoes, head to the car
7:20-7:30~ On the drive to the elementary school we take turns praying each day. This is the time that we share praises and prayer requests.

7:25-7:40~ On the drive to the High School I share words of encouragement with oldest daughter, ask her about anything that is on her mind. If there are areas of concern we pray about them before she enters school.

Evenings

3:30 pm~ Elementary homework time and snack
4:30 pm~ Free/T.V. time, High School Homework time
5:00 pm~ Elementary showers / Free and T.V. time, High School Homework time
6:00 pm-7:00 pm~ Dinner time, kitchen clean-up
7:30 pm~ Bible Reading & Prayer time
8:00 pm~ Elementary bed-time, High School homework/study time
8:30 pm~ High School shower time
9:00 pm~ High School bed time

With a little bit of planning ahead we have been able to begin our day spending quality time as a family with the Lord. If you’d like to read more about how I we are able to carve out this time leave me a comment with a specific question of email me at scentrepernuer@aol.com

Have a blessed week.

Finding Time for the Bible | 11 Tips for Busy Women

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Here are some helpful hints for finding time to read the Bible daily.

1 – Read the Bible instead of watching television. In other words get rid of the distractions

2 – Listen to the Bible free online while on the computer of near the computer

3 – Get the Bible on CD

4 – Get up earlier in the mornings to spend time reading the Bible Study

5 -Read during children’s naptime.

6 – Set aside quiet time during the day. During this time the children must learn to play quietly or take a nap.

7 – Keep a Bible in every room possible (and use it)

8 – Write Bible verses somewhere. Write it in your daily journal, on your bathroom mirror or dinner plate with a dry erase marker. Keep it where you can see it easily and read it throughout the day. This is especially good for mothers of small children who don’t have a lot of free time to read or study the Bible.

9 -Don’t try to read too much at a time. I often read short portions of the Bible when I have a busy day planned. For instance, I am reading the book of Psalm and Proverbs. These chapters are usually short but if one is not, I will read half now and half later. Some days I read a verse and it affects me in such a way that I do not read past that point. A verse that influenced me recently was Psalm 108:1 “O GOD, my heart is fixed….” I literally did not want to go any further until I could say these words just as David had said them to God. Therefore, I meditated on this verse the entire day and fasted the next day in order to say with my whole heart “O GOD, my heart is fixed…”

10 -Listen to Christian music that actually sings verses from the Bible. For me, there is a difference between Gospel music and Inspirational music. Any music can inspire, but only Gospel music includes lyrics that are actual scripture.

11 – Finally, pray without ceasing that God will help to remove the busyness and distractions from your life that prevent you from having a deeper relationship with him. Ultimately, the adversary loves it when you are too busy and distracted. Also, pray to understand what season of life you are in. If you have young children reading the Bible alone will be difficult, therefore you will need to include your children many times. Even reading Bible stories to your children can benefit you. You would be surprised to know that God can speak to you through anything that He chooses.

I hope that this list can encourage you to get begin or continue trying to read your Bible consistently. Do not be discouraged, you are more than a conqueror through Christ Jesus.

I would love you all to share how you make time for Bible reading. Let us encourage one another in those things that are pleasing to the Lord.

Letting Him Lead

As a full time wife and mother at home you may handle a large part, if not all, of the scheduling of your families daily activities.

Planning and organizing are skills that may come naturally to you. They are skills that have probably allowed you to be a blessing and valuable asset to your husband and family.

At the same time the things that are a blessing can also become a curse if abused. In pursuit of keeping things organized you may be putting an unnecessary strain on yourself, your husband and your children.

You may have become so accustomed to scheduling that you have everyday of the week scheduled. You may have an set expectation of how each day should run and this works probably works fine for when just you and the children are home, but does it work well when husband is home?

If not, maybe hubby has a different expectation for the day than you do. If you have never given him the space to guide the day when he is home he may be feeling frustrated.

Our natural desire to lead can sometimes cause us to do more than what is necessary. When hubby is at home allow him to takeover the reins. Use this time to sit back, relax and follow his lead.

Learn from him. Observe how he handles discipline, bedtimes, sibling squabbles and stress. Watching him interact with and lead the family can be a source of relaxation and restoration for you. It can also equip you with alternative methods for caring for the home and the children when he is away at work.

We can easily be tempted to succumb to our desire to be in control. This lust for control can rob us of our joy and our peace.

Instead of allowing our husbands to lead the family when he is home we run around trying to attend to every matter as if he weren’t there. Let us humble ourselves as we watch in admiration as our husbands lead the family.

Rejoice and use this time to restore yourself and to enjoy watching him lead.

The Dangers of Exposing Children to Conflict

The Dangers of Exposing Children to ConflictI have chosen to refrain from arguing, disputing or the demonstration of conflict in the presence of my children. The primary reason why I have chosen this stance is as a result of the purposes which I have devoted my life to. My goal is to demonstrate to God, my children, friends, family and neighbors a lifestyle of Biblical womanhood.

As a woman attempting to live my life totally devoted to Christ, I endeavor daily to conform my ways to His ways. This endeavor includes shaping my own character according to the perfect will of God in order that I may demonstrate the very same character that I desire to instill in my children.

My goal regarding this post is to do what Paul says in Titus 2:1 “Speak thou the things which become sound doctrine.” I share my position regarding marital conflict not to condemn but to admonish wives to a holy standard.

Paul the Apostle lists for us the types of character that we should model to become qualified as women able to teach other women. The qualities that he speaks of are the qualities of wives who are modeling the character after that which is desirable to God. These are the qualities that I have accepted responsibility for teaching to the younger women. Paul states, that I must (like my husband) “ be sober, grave, temperate, sound in faith, in charity, in patience, meanwhile exhibiting behavior as demonstrating holiness….and a teacher of good things”.

Good things…like temperance, patience, humbleness and surrender. In all things I want to present myself as a pattern of good works: showing gravity (dignified behavior or lowness in pitch, as of sounds).

I want my children to observe me “demonstrating sound speech, which cannot be condemned; that he that is of the contrary part may be ashamed, having no evil thing to say of me.” My husband and I don’t always see eye to eye with one another’s opinions, but the one thing that we always agree on is the word of God. If we cannot disagree while still demonstrating the fruit of the Spirit which are love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness and temperance, (Galatians 5:21-23), then we are not living up to the standard that God has set for our lives.

What is it that hinders me from arguing with my husband in front of my children? It is the knowing that I have the power through Christ Jesus to live a life that is positioned above the standards of this world. I know that I can live a lifestyle that far exceeds the standards of this world, because I have accepted the belief that “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me”. Because Christ is living and operating in me, I have been empowered to aggressively pursue the destruction of any character traits that are of a hindrance to my walk of faith. Col. 3:5

I have decided to take of wrath, malice, strife, contentions, pride, arrogance, and self righteousness and to put on “as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness and longsuffering”. So rather than arguing and debating over temporal things I’d much rather demonstrate to my children the character “forbearance of one another and the forgiving of one another”. And on the days when I fail to exhibit self control or attempt to hold a grudge against my husband God reminds me that, “If any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do you forgive.”

Do you want to be perfect example of the Lord? If so, then the next time that you feel yourself getting frustrated or angry during a disagreement, conflict or argument then set your mind on the following scripture “Put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness and let the peace of God rule in your hearts, to which also ye are called in one body; and be thankful.”

So instead of focusing on teaching my children how to have civilized disputes I want to teach them to have the right thoughts in their minds and emotions in their hearts which will in turn motivate their character.

Finally, I would like to share the resource that helped me gain the self control and greatly reduce disagreements. Using that devotional and studying the character of  Godly women in the Bible, I was able to bring my self in line with God’s perfect will. Once my husband and I began to make discussing, studying and praying that God’s perfect vision for the family be made possible for us, we began to agree on more issues. Now whenever we don’t agree we look to God’s word and prayer to help us gain the resolution.

For more references see 1 Corinthians 1 and the verses listed below.

Genesis 13:8 So Abram said to Lot, “Let’s not have any quarreling between you and me, or between your herdsmen and mine, for we are brothers

Exodus 17:2 So they quarreled with Moses and said, “Give us water to drink.” Moses replied, “Why do you quarrel with me? Why do you put the LORD to the test?”

Exodus 17:7 And he called the place Massah and Meribah because the Israelites quarreled and because they tested the LORD saying, “Is the LORD among us or not?”

Are you are a wife or mom who is struggling in this area? You can learn more conflict resolution strategies in my posts How to Stop Being an Angry Wife and Mom. If you have questions or a comment you may leave for me in the comment section.

Why Submission is God’s design for marriage

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What words come to mind when you hear the word, submit.

Is it doormat, servant or slave?

How about weak or passive?

Well what comes to mind for me is love and strength but this hasn’t always been the case.

For many years I looked at submission as something that weak women did but through growing in my relationship with Christ I have been given a different perspective, one that has changed my life and my marriage.

From the day that I gave my life to Christ I have desired to do what was pleasing to Him, but when I discovered that pleasing Him included submitting to my husband, I struggled.

I had to examine my self in the light of Gods word. What I learned is I refused to submit not because I feared my husband would abuse his power, nor was it genuinely because I thought that my husband was incapable of leading.

What it boiled down to at the core was that I was full of pride and selfishness.

I wanted to be in control.

I wanted to wear the proverbial pants in the relationship.

I believed the worlds lie that control means exerting my authority, rights and opinions. This was so far from the truth.

God has ordained my husband to be the leader of our family, and with that he has a great responsibility. He is responsible if our family succeeds or fails. I’m speaking regarding eternal success or failure. When I began to see the magnitude of the responsibility my husband held, coveting his role no longer looked so appealing.

In response, I began focusing on my role and what I’ve learned is that I am his helper.

In Genesis 2, when God provides a helper for Adam, He used a glorious Hebrew word for helper: azer. “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not a beneficial thing for the man to be alone. I will make for him an azer who is his complement or equal.”

“In Hebrew, azer is used 19 times; mostly it is used to denote humanity’s great helper (The Holy Spirit). The word means a “helper like unto God.”

God paid a compliment to women with this word. The same word is used in Psalms, where it says, “O Israel, trust in the Lord, for He is their Helper and shield” (Psalm 115:9).

The term is always used to describe someone who brings significant help... When the ancient Hebrew speaking Israelite heard the term used to describe Eve, he would have been impressed.

He would have thought of women, therefore, as a God-like gift from God.

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I am his helper and I am suitable for him when, I submit to Him.

Will all of his decisions be the right decisions? No.

My obligation to God is to submit to my husband, trusting that God has my best interest at heart. So as long as my husband is not leading me to sin, I choose to submit.

My marriage has benefited so much from this decision and I’m sure yours can too.

Ladies, where are you in your journey? How can I pray for you or create more content that will help you? Let’s continue the conversation in the comment section. I read every comment and reply to most, so if you have a question or want to talk, leave your thoughts below.

Mean Mommy

I received this is my inbox a few weeks ago.

A Letter: To Whom It May Concern | By: Kara Murphy

Dear Mean Mommy,

I am writing, once again, to protest your visit to our house yesterday. I would have thought that my last litany of complaints would have given you pause before you returned, but no. You seem to come and go at will. Well, I have had enough.

First, you never give me any warning that you are coming. If I knew you were coming, I would be able to prepare for you as I do all my other guests. Why must you always arrive when the house is in such disrepair? In general, we do a fair job of keeping things picked up, but without fail, when the house is at its messiest, you show up. Not only that, but you time your arrivals when I feel my worst. Your last visit was after a sleepless night with our newborn. Before that, it was during a stressful time when the bills were late. No one should feel free to visit at tax time, especially when I have put off important record-keeping until the last minute. I suppose you would not think twice of arriving at our door immediately after we have just had back-to-back company. These are not the times to make unannounced appearances at our house!Even if we were aware of when you were coming, I would still not appreciate your attitude. Must you whisper those words to me all day long? You can’t do this. You are failing. Another woman would do a better job than you. What are you doing to your children? It isn’t enough that you pick on me, but must you also be so grumpy toward my children?

All day long, you nag and complain about them. Do this. Do that. Hurry up. Get back to your work. You are a broken record and you need to be replaced! Don’t you realize that children are not finished products, yet? They are adults-in-training, but they’re not there yet. And must you be so impatient with them? Sometimes, you are like a steamroller, plowing through the house. I would hate to get in your way! You are running us all over.But the worst of it is your appearance…you look so much like me, my children may not realize the difference between us. They might actually think that you are me! I have had to apologize repeatedly for your troublesome ways.

This is it. Your reign of terror must stop. Please leave and never return.And should you be tempted to come back, just remember that I am onto your tricks. Your wiles will not fool me any longer. I am going to fight to keep you away. And I know the best way to do that, too.

God’s word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against Him. —Psalm 119:11

First, I have determined in everything, to give thanks seeing that this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning me. (1 Thessalonians 5:18) I will rejoice in the Lord always (Philippians 4:4) for I am learning, in whatsoever state I am, therewith to be content. I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me. (Philippians 4:11, 13) When those doubts begin to creep in I will be confident of this very thing, that He which hath begun a good work in me will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ. (Philippians 1:6)

If you could just stop blustering and ordering everyone around long enough you might see an eternal perspective. You would realize that there is so much more to life in Christ than the day-in-and-day-out ups and downs. Step back for a moment from the immediate stressors. Why, there isn’t a hair that falls from my head that the Father is unaware of. He cares for birds and flowers in the field. How much more does He care for me and my family? (Matthew 6:25ff)

Not only that, but He is working every circumstance in my life for my good and for the good of my children who love Him. (Romans 8:28)

Since I know that I must be sober, to love my husband, to love my children (Titus 2:4), I will be gentle among my little flock, even as a nursing mother cherishes her children: So being affectionately desirous of them, I will be willing to have imparted unto them, not the gospel of God only, but also my own soul, because they are dear unto me…even when I must labor night and day. (1 Thessalonians 2:7-9a)

And most of all I will remember that charity—an antiquated term for our word love—suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil; rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth; beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things. Charity—or love—never faileth. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

If I have to, I will get really radical. When you show up, I intend to meet you at the door intent on bodily harm. For I see who you really are. You are the old (wo)man that Scripture speaks of so clearly. But I know this, that my old woman is crucified with Christ, that the body of sin might be destroyed, that henceforth I should not serve sin. (Romans 6:6) I will likewise reckon myself to be dead indeed unto sin, but alive unto God through Jesus Christ our Lord. So I will let not sin therefore reign in my mortal body, that I should obey it in the lusts thereof. Neither yield my members as instruments of unrighteousness unto sin: but yield myself unto God, as those that are alive from the dead, and my members as instruments of righteousness unto God. (Romans 6:11-13) Because I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me. (Galatians 2:20)

Prepared to do battle,

A Loving Mama.

My Response:

I am determined to keep this women out of my house. When I first began this battle I sat my oldest children down and told them about her. I taught them to be on the lookout for her. I told them that they needed to assist in guarding our home against her.

Long ago I realized that there is war that rages within me. It is a war against good and evil, joy and depression, peace and chaos. I have chosen God as my ally, and in doing so He gives me the strength each day to thwart the efforts of the mean mother. But she is persistent and crafty. I can never let my guard down. I know now that her goal is to destroy my children and my husband.
She has come to provoke my children to anger and chase my husband to a roof top with her wicked words. But each day I run to the Lord and surrender to him so that he can kill the mean mother that eagerly tries to destroy me.

I have since written “5 Ways To Discipline Your Children Without Losing It“, where I share how I learned to parent without becoming angry.