How to Help Your Husband Be A Great Leader

Husband, Ephesians 5, Manhood, Leader, Marriage, Biblical Marriage

Sometimes we have to let go and let God especially when it comes to our husband’s. When we allow God to work on our men, He is able to transform their heart and renew their minds better than nagging could ever do.

Put your trust in God and believe that He is able to make your husband the man He so desires.

The best way to help your man mature into the man that God desires os to do the following.


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17 Characteristics of a Godly Husband

17 Characteristics of a Godly Husband

I didn’t grow up in a Christian home nor did I take the righteous route when it comes to my husband and I’s courtship story.

Being married to such a wonderful man of God was completely Gods favor in both our lives.

When we met we were both two wretched souls lost without Jesus. We both accepted Christ together and was later baptized together.

I know how blessed I am to be my husbands wife and how God made him the man he is today because of His grace and our willingness to follow him.

In spite of Gods favor we had to atone for past choices. Our iniquities wreaked havoc on our marriage for the first 7 years until we had come full circle. I write a lot about how I’ve grown as a wife and how my obedience to God has helped my husband become the man he is today.

Today I want to share the end result of my husband’s faithfulness to God. I don’t want you to spend the first 7 years of marriage trying to make your husband the man God wants him to be.

Instead, search the scripture to see what kind of man God desires for His daughters and begin to seek out those character traits as you wait on, prepare for and seek out the man God has for you.

Below you’ll find 17 Characteristics of a Godly Husband all based on Gods word.

1. He’s Faithful

Heb 11:6; Hab 2:4

2. He Humble

1 Peter 5:6; Matt 18:4

3. His Motives Are Pure

Matt 5:8; 1 John 3:1-3; John 1:12-13

4. He Content

1 Tim 6:6

5. He Loves Gods Word

He diligently read it every day, studies it, delights in it, meditates on it, prefers it, loves its reproof and counsel, talks about it, hides it, defends it and prefers it above other things most precious, whether written or preached and its promises are all sweetness and marrow to him.

Jer 1:8; Ps 119:11, Ps 119: 97; Job 23:12; Acts 17:11, Col 3:16; 2 Tim. 4:7, Rom 7:9;

6. He’s Honest

Matt 5:33-7

7. He Pursues Truth

Psalm 85:10-11; Titus 1:1; Psalm 119:104

8. He’s Graceful

He lets the person of God transform him by the glorious truths God has revealed in this world, and brings God’s goodness into the life of the undeserving.

9. He Reveres God Alone
Romans 13:7; 1Peter 2:17; 1John 4:17-19; Rom 8:15

10. He Pursues Righteousness (or right living)
Righteous living is 100% obedience. God does not ask us to be perfect, but He does ask us not to sin. The last 5% is the hardest to give up. Look at Adam. Prov 15:9, Prov 21:21, 1 Tim 6:11, 2 Tim 2:22, 1 John 1:8-10

11. He’s Patient
Isaiah 40:31; James 1:2-4;

12. He’s God Focused
Col 3:1-3; 1 Pet 2:11-12; Heb 12:14

13. He’s Disciplined
Matt 5:27-28; 1 Cor 16:13-14

14. He Lives for God Alone

Gal 2:20 – I am crucified with Christ: nevertheless I live; yet not I, but Christ liveth in me: and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by the faith of the Son of God, who loved me, and gave himself for me.

Matt 7:21 – Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven.

15. He Lives God Word

James 1:22 – But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves

1 Peter 4:10 – As every man hath received the gift, even so minister the same one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

1 Timothy 4:12 – …but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.

16. He is Gentle.

Matt 5:21-22

17. He Forgives

Matt 5:38-39

The #1 Thing to Look for in a Christian Husband | Plus Top 6 Character Traits

The #1 Thing To Look for in a Christian Husband |

I’m going to get right to the point of this topic because it’s too important for me to waste time coming up with some catchy opening paragraph to get you reeled in.

You read the title of this post and apparently it sparked your interest. Since you’ve already clicked on the link leading to my site, I suppose you’d like to see the #1 thing to look for in a Christian husband right away.

Well here it is.

The number one thing Christian women should look for in a husband is that he’s a Christian. (Tweet This)

Here’s the kicker though. In order to know what to look for, we must know what a Christian looks like and the simplest way to know what a Christian looks like is to read the Bible.

The simplest way to know what a Christian looks like is to read the Bible. (Tweet This)

The Bible has pages upon pages full of Godly men.

Here are some of the more basic ones that you should be able to identify during the time you spend getting to know a guy before marriage.

1. He must be Faithful.

Is he a man who seeks God’s direction and follows it? He should be consistently consulting God on his present and future decisions. This will determine whether or not you’ll be able to trust his decisions concerning your marriage and children.

Hebrews 11:8-10 “By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whither he went. By faith he sojourned in the land of promise, as in a strange country, dwelling in tabernacles with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise: For he looked for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God.”

2. He must be Courageous.

He should be a man who is not willing to compromise his faith in God. How does he act when people mock God or dismiss the deity of God? Does he shirk back in fear of offending others by his faith in God? A Godly man is willing to walk and speak boldly regarding what he believes.

Joshua 24:15 “And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”

3. He must be Honest.

Does he ask you to cover (lie) for him? Does he lie to you or others?

Lying is a character trait that never leads to anything good. We see in the life of faithful Abraham that his lie brought a curse on King Abimilech (Genesis 12) and in the case of Ananias and his wife Sapphira, they both experienced an untimely death when they realized they’d been caught in a lie (Acts 5).

4. He must be Prayerful.

Is he a man who prays? Not just at meals but about all things? A mans prayer life is a direct reflection of their relationship with God. It demonstrates that he realizes the limitations of his humanness and the deity of God. This is going to be very important because in marriage when things get tough your husband will not be able to fix everything but God can. You must know that when neither of you can fix whats broken that your husband will turn to one who can fix all things.

Daniel 6:10 “Now when Daniel knew that the writing was signed, he went into his house; and his windows being open in his chamber toward Jerusalem, he kneeled upon his knees three times a day, and prayed, and gave thanks before his God, as he did aforetime”.

5. He must be Committed.

Does he stick with the things he committed to until they are finished? If he is not able to stick with the little things how then will he remain committed to a life long marriage commitment. Does he change friends, churches or jobs often? You want a man who will finish what he’s started and honor his commitments.

II Timothy 4:7 “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:”

6. He must be Compassionate.

How does he treat those who are weaker than him? Does he take advantage of them or show compassion? How he treats those who are weaker than him while you are dating is a peek into how he will treat you, his future wife.

Ephesians 5:7-8 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous”.

Unmarried Christian women, I admonish you to use this list a guide to help give you an idea of the eternal characteristics to look for in a husband rather than just superficial things like financial status, looks and possessions.

If you are an unmarried women who’d like me to pray for you, leave your comment or prayer request below.

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If you are a Christian wife married to an unsaved man and have questions or would like me to pray for you, leave your question or prayer request below.