Do you find it difficult to find the good in your husband? Does he no longer resemble that awesome man you once loved so deeply? I can recall very clearly a time when Germaine and I were drifting apart. Some of it had to do with us being a young family with four children and lots of responsibilities. However, some of it had to do with us as individuals and how we communicated with one another. The Bible tells us that “life and death are in the power of the tongue” and what that simply means is that you can

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If there’s anything I’m good at besides being a wife it’s speaking my mind. If I’m asked for my thoughts I’m going to give them. Shoot, I’ll even give my $0.02 sometimes when I’m not asked. But the beauty of having this blog is that I get to freely dish out healthy doses of unsolicited advice about marriage. As you may know, I’ve been married to my sweet and wonderful husband going on 13 years and if I had it to do all over again I’d do it in a heart beat. Our marriage is just that amazing to me.

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I learned a valuable tip early in my marriage about building up my husband. My husband is already a confident man and was when I met him so I’m not talking about building up his esteem. I’m more so talking about building up his trust in me as one of his biggest supporters. As his wife I can either tear him down or build him up. There was a time when instead of encouraging him for where he was and where he had come from in terms if maturity in Christ, I would instead discourage him and focus on how

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Today I can truly say that I love my husband more and more each day I spend with him. Nowadays, we get along with hardly an argument. We do disagree on things like what I should cook for dinner but nothing more alarming than that. It’s taken us some time, self reflection and sacrifice to get to this point but in hindsight it was worth it. My husband and I often joke about how we even ended up married since from the  day we met we were rolling on a stormy sea. I was very argumentative and he was stubborn

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We all know that after any length of time in marriage, things come up.   Work.  Kids.  Church.  Family.  Chores.  Sickness.  Life. If we are not careful, we will lose focus on keeping our marriage relationship a priority.  It happens to everyone from time to time, but keeping “dating” a real thing can be challenging.  It’s something we gotta carve some time out for and just make it happen. “Dating” our husbands helps to keep things fresh and it helps us focus on just them for awhile. Not the kids, not our girlfriends, not church groups, not Bible study, JUST

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The hardest thing God ever asked me to do was submit to my husband. My marriage was at the end of it’s rope and I had done all I could do to make it work. We just weren’t as compatible as we’d thought. My husband and I sat down and had a talk and he pointed out that I was the boss of the house and it was causing problems. What?!? Excuse me?!? I explained that I wasn’t the boss of the house but was certainly the boss of ME. We ended up looking at Genesis 1 & 2 and

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Today I want to share a few truths that you must grab hold of if you are going to walk in the authenticity of what Gods words says about you as a wife and mother. Several of my sister girls have talked to me about the guilt they feel about the shortcoming as a wife or mom and the common strand amongst each conversation has been to justify their weaknesses as saying I’m not perfect. Now, there is nothing wrong with not being perfect but what there is something wrong with is the guilt we tend to carry around for

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So I’m still working on the process of taking clear photos with my iphone but I’m not going to let that stop me from sharing my Frumpy 2 Fab series with you. I came across some photos from the Spring and a video. I shared these photos on instagram so if you follow me there you’ve seen these. If not, check out what I wore below. Saturday – Church   Monday – Gym/Errands I wore this gray the Loft warmup suit, Under Armor shirt, Hurley purse and Asics tennis shoes to the gym. Sunday – Dinner w/ Friends    

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I’ve been with my fiancé since I was 16 and for a long time my world revolved around him. Whatever he liked I liked, and what he didn’t like, I didn’t like. One of the things he happened to like was going to church so of course I became interested. I’ve been attending church since I was around 8 years old but I wasn’t engaged in it like he was. After we were together for a few years he expressed to me that he wanted to marry me one day but my relationship with God was important to him. So

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I learned a lot about becoming my husband’s best friend from watching his relationship with his best friends. There was a point in time when I was actually jealous of the relationship that he had with his friends and so I set out to determine what it was about him that made him enjoy spending time with them versus spending time with me. Observing their relationship told me a lot of things about myself about my personality, my attitude, and my character that I may or may not have wanted to face in the past. The number one reason why

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Do you remember a time before you were married your husband could almost walk on water? Sweep you off your feet? Maybe whisper sweet nothings in your ear? Do things to make you smile ear to ear? He was just the best thing ever!! Then….you got married and things continued on this blissful journey for a period of time, but before you knew it unhappiness crept in. You started seeing the “not so good” things, like leaving his clothes on the floor, the way he snored, leaving his dirty dishes on the counter, maybe the way he talked, seeing the

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What if I told you that you no longer had to get upset with your husband when he doesn’t love you the way you want to be loved? This used to be a big issue for me. I’d have a head full of ideas about what my husband needed to do to make me feel loved. The list went on for days. In fact, when I’d complain about not feeling loved, he’d tell me to tell him what he needed to do to make me feel loved. I’d give him a list of whatever it was he needed to do

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Sharing 6 ways to protect your marriage from divorce is by far one of the most important pieces of advice I give to newlywed couples today. With such a high divorce rate in our country putting a plan in place to prevent it has to be part of the pre-marriage dialogue. How to protect your marriage from divorce is not a topic I hear talked about by married couples however it’s one that’s very important especially with the high rate of divorces in the church and also in the U.S. as a whole. Divorce proofing your Christian marriage will begin

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Topic: The Risks and Rewards of Biblical Submission Our next community marriage chat will be on March 29th from 1-2PM EST. RSVP HERE (must be a registered member to access this link) We will be chatting about The Risks and Rewards of Biblical Submission and focusing on what submission looks like in today’s marriage. Who is this chat for: Wives who want to submit but are afraid of being taken advantage of. Wives who want to know what biblical looks like according to the Bible. Women who are in unhappy marriages because of disagreements over leadership. Unmarried or engaged women

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I’ve heard this statement many, many times. I’ve read books, heard sermons, and read article after article. It’s somehow burned into my heart. The truth also ties into surrender and trust. In order for the truth to set you free, you must first trust God and then surrender whatever it is fully and completely. Have you ever experienced brokenheartedness? I have only twice in my life. It is in this deep place where you have to completely trust God. It goes bone deep, sometimes even soul wrenching deep. It is life changing. About 5 years ago, I had an abortion.

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I’m really enjoying the Frumpy 2 Fab video series and I hope you are too. If you want to be notified when I add new videos, be sure to subscribe to my Youtube channel. I upload all of the videos there and then a few days or so later I create a post here on the blog to share with you all. Take a look at what I wore recently.  

Want to know how to control your tongue? A better mouth begins with your heart. You have to get to the heart of your issues in order to control your words. A merry heart maketh a cheerful countenance: but by sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken. The heart of him that hath understanding seeketh knowledge: but the mouth of fools feedeth on foolishness. All the days of the afflicted are evil: but he that is of a merry heart hath a continual feast. (Proverbs 15:13, 15 KJV)