The Prodigal Child At Home: Part 2

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This post is for parents that are struggling with minor children who have been or are beginning to become rebellious and distant. In this two part series I’ll address a typical Christian family that has done all that they could to raise their child properly yet the child decides to turn away from God and everything the family believes in. This post is an accumulation of events and experiences that have affected not only myself but also close family friends of mine. You can read part one of Raising a Prodigal Child here.

Once the eyes have devoured pornography, it will be a permanent fixture in the memory and seared it will never be from the conscience. In addition, once the innocent gift of sexual purity until marriage has been unwrapped, it can never be again as new.  Author Unknown

When children go beyond the reparable sin of ignorance into the sins of willfulness Christian families have a great opportunity to be vessels of holiness.

When a child commits an irreparable sin, we may want to lash out. It’s hard to watch a child go down a path leading to a destructive lifestyle.

It’s perfectly okay to tell your child that they have hurt you with their choices. You  should tell them if  that you are disappointed that they have made choices in opposition to Gods word and your family rules. However, the most important thing you should do is continue to love them.

As parents we are to mirror ourselves after God.  Throughout the Bible no matter what the children of Israel did, God never stopped loving them.

If we are to be vessels of holiness, we must allow the Holy Spirit of God step in and guide us through the  rough patch of parenting a prodigal child. Their behavior today does not have to define who they’ll become.

We have all sinned and fallen short of Gods glory. While we did receive punishment, because of our sin, God never stopped loving us and we should not stop loving our children.

Here’s what we should do:

–    Take away the temptation from your child. If it is music, internet, friends, girlfriends, boyfriends, whatever…. TAKE IT AWAY!

–    Do not withhold your love from your child.

–    Go back to teaching biblical basics pertaining to their sin. Tell them specifically what the biblical consequences of sin are. Also, tell them what the carnal or worldly consequences of their sin are. Do this daily for 2-3 weeks.

–    Do not withhold your love from your child.

–    Be prayerful, praying with your spouse, by yourself and with/over your child.

–    Do not withhold your love from your child.

–    Allow them to see that you are hurt initially. It is okay if they see that their choice has hurt your family. However, do not carry on this way for long. It will only demonstrate that you believe there is no hope for them. Our Christian faith – being able to believe in the God that we cannot see based upon his word and action in our life – should be what gives us hope. Therefore, even though we cannot see our child as redeemed yet, we had better envision it and believe that it is possible.

Not every child will be rebellious, nor will everyone stray away from his or her Christian upbringing. Nevertheless, for those that do, it will take parents strong in faith to rally the troops, close ranks and create an environment where the child is not condemned.

We as parents can detest their unrighteousness but always love them as our children. If they never decide to follow God, that choice will ultimately be theirs.

We have a responsibility to show grace, mercy, forgiveness and hope for them in addition to instruction, discipline and guidance. They are our children and our brothers and sisters in Christ so let us comfort them and become a barrier for them when they are being tempted.

Raising a Prodigal Child: Part 1

Raising a Prodigal Child - AProverbsWife.com

This post is for parents that are struggling with minor children who have been or are beginning to become rebellious and distant. In this two part series I’ll address a typical Christian family that has done all that they could to raise their child properly yet the child decides to turn away from God and everything the family believes in. This post is an accumulation of events and experiences that have affected not only myself but also close family friends of mine.

Raising children will probably be one of the most important things we will do as parents. We have a great responsibility in influencing the lives of our children for the positive or the negative.

Raising children will probably be one of the most important things we will do as parents. (TWEET THIS)

Moreover, as Christian parents we have an even greater role in that we understand how great a responsibility we have in affecting our children’s souls as well. This is why we take the necessary steps to teach them and expose them the Gods word early in life.

We are sure to read the Bible to them and have devotions. We make Sunday school and church attendance a priority. We discipline, train and guide them all the while pointing them back to the Holy Scripture.

Nevertheless, after all of that sometimes your child decides to turn away from God.

You have raised this young person doing everything that you knew to do yet as they enter into adolescence, they began to pull away and head in a dangerous direction toward sin and desolation.

You have prayed and you have admonished them yet they continued on their course of action until they have finally done something irreparable.

You raised the child in the church.

You knelt and prayed with this child before bed.

You believe that you’ve done all that was possible to put him or her on the right track yet they’ve gone and done something that changes the course of their future and places their soul in great jeopardy of eternal damnation.

Their actions have isolated them from God and their families. What they have done has hurt the family so deeply that they may fear the wounds will never mend.

This is the child we call the prodigal child.

Not all prodigals physically leave the home, however in their hearts they have already run far away from you and from God.

You can have a prodigal child living within the walls of your home wreaking havoc. This child is rebellious and despondent. They may not be outwardly aggressive and hostile because not all rebelliousness shows its self in the same manner. Some rebelliousness is quiet and sinister. The child is quiet and seemingly compliant. They smile and say, “Yes mom and dad” to your rules but on the inside they are shouting “NO I WILL NOT”. Then the day comes. You have told them all of the dangers of sin yet instead of saying “NO I WILL NOT” to the sin, they say “YES I WILL”.

That single statement, YES I WILL – has opened a door that will remain open forever. The sin can never be forgotten. As the memory of the sin remains for Adam and Eve – having eaten from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil – the sin(s) that prodigal children have said yes to will remain with them in this life.

Now that we have taken a look at what a Prodigal child at home looks like, in part two of the series I’ll talk to about what to do as parents or a Prodigal child.