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What words come to mind when you hear the word, submit.
Is it doormat, servant or slave?
How about weak or passive?
Well what comes to mind for me is love and strength but this hasn’t always been the case.
For many years I looked at submission as something that weak women did but through growing in my relationship with Christ I have been given a different perspective, one that has changed my life and my marriage.
From the day that I gave my life to Christ I have desired to do what was pleasing to Him, but when I discovered that pleasing Him included submitting to my husband, I struggled.
I had to examine my self in the light of Gods word. What I learned is I refused to submit not because I feared my husband would abuse his power, nor was it genuinely because I thought that my husband was incapable of leading.
What it boiled down to at the core was that I was full of pride and selfishness.
I wanted to be in control.
I wanted to wear the proverbial pants in the relationship.
I believed the worlds lie that control means exerting my authority, rights and opinions. This was so far from the truth.
God has ordained my husband to be the leader of our family, and with that he has a great responsibility. He is responsible if our family succeeds or fails. I’m speaking regarding eternal success or failure. When I began to see the magnitude of the responsibility my husband held, coveting his role no longer looked so appealing.
In response, I began focusing on my role and what I’ve learned is that I am his helper.
In Genesis 2, when God provides a helper for Adam, He used a glorious Hebrew word for helper: azer. “Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not a beneficial thing for the man to be alone. I will make for him an azer who is his complement or equal.”
“In Hebrew, azer is used 19 times; mostly it is used to denote humanity’s great helper (The Holy Spirit). The word means a “helper like unto God.”
God paid a compliment to women with this word. The same word is used in Psalms, where it says, “O Israel, trust in the Lord, for He is their Helper and shield” (Psalm 115:9).
The term is always used to describe someone who brings significant help... When the ancient Hebrew speaking Israelite heard the term used to describe Eve, he would have been impressed.
He would have thought of women, therefore, as a God-like gift from God.