- Cook meals that he likes.
- Make sure that his clothes are clean.
- Turn on the exterior porch light if he’s working late.
- Put some of his favorite snacks in his car’s glove compartment.
- Put a fresh towel and wash cloth in the bathroom before he arrives home from work.
- Make arrangements for the children to be out for a couple of hours or days so you guys can reconnect.
- Wear his favorite scents or perfumes.
- Wear his favorite outfit.
- Where something feminine and attractive to bed.
- Save energy for him so that you are not always pooped when he gets home.
- Give him and unexpected kiss or hug.
- Send him a sweet text message.
- Do something with him that he enjoys.
What suggestions would you add to this list?
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It’s hard for me to understand my husband. .. I tried many ways but nothing seams to make him happy, it’s always something wrong. I hope one day I can find that little things that make him happy.
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My husband is not a very affectionate man. He really don’t like all the huggy, gushy, romantic love that I thought marriage was supposed to be. 12 years down the marriage road and I started trying something new… I began to shave his face for him every so often. Its the closest connection we have togeather. It creates a floor for communication, laughter, flirting, and closeness. I hope that this helps someone out there… God bless your marriage. . Love the site. 🙂
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A Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 22nd, 2014 at
@J, Thanks so much for sharing. Intimacy is so different for each couple. Our pasts and how we were raised have a great impact on how we show and receive affection. It’s so inspiring to hear how you are not trying to fit your husband into a mold, but learning what he considers intimacy/affection and meeting him there. I’m praying you both grow even closer together in intimacy.
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This is my second marriage and for the first time I understand what It means to serve my husband. It brings me great delight to be a true Proverbs 31 woman for him. I love to cook, clean, take care of him and make sure all of his needs are met because he is loving me as Christ loved the church and protects me and cherishes me. My first marriage was horrible and I was never valued as a woman and it was difficult to serve my husband. Now it’s easy! I praise Godforsaken second chances! I love your suggestions and your website and tips! Thank you for all the great advice!!!
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When I notice that his toenails are growing, I tell him I will give a mani/pedi after he showers that evening. This act reinforces when I say, “I’ll take care of you from your head to your feet”!
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This is a great list. I would add,leave a little love note where he can find it and be inspired.
I really like how you always encourage us to keep it going good with our spouses!
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
December 27th, 2012 at
@Janeane Davis,
The great thing about this list is that it can be customized for each husband. My husband doesn’t like notes but yours does. I like when people read what I share and make it work for their individual marriages.
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Thanks for this, I wear my husbands favorite things to bed and I cook his favorite meals. Plus, I prepare and pack his breakfast and lunch everyday.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
December 11th, 2012 at
@April Colone,
That’s sweet. 🙂
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I read in one of Dr. Dobsons books how his wife will hide a note with SHMILY (See How Much I Love You)written on it for him to find. Then it was her turn to find it. We now do that! Its so much fun looking for it and then finding it in the most creative places. He loves finding my SHMILY notes! And so do I!!
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
September 27th, 2012 at
Aww…that is so sweet. I’ll have to remember that one.
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My husbands father is difficult (very, very much so) to deal with b/c he is very negative & the complaining & see’s the worst in everything type person…I always have respect for his father (for one I respect all my elders) but mainly to keep their crippled relationship smoother & better. I try to give them both advice on how to treat one another as well. His father used to be pretty mentally abusive to him but now as he is getting older (in his 70’s) he tries to make it up to my husband somewhat but it’s still rocky. Most people can not handle being around his dad (his real mom died of cancer when he was 10) but we have a good relationship considering b/c I always respect him & keep my tongue under control, when I feel like a pot full of steam with a lid on me very tight…lol!
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 29th, 2012 at
@mindy,
Sounds like you have one of those situations that really test your faith and moral character. It’s great that you try to be a example of kindness to your FIL. People may not reward us for our efforts but God always does. I hope your chaste and humble behavior goes a long way to help your FIL see who Christ is through you.
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Your website and these tips are absolutely amazing! My husband and I were baptized in March together at our Sunday service. God is so amazing! Keep up the excellent work! You have been a blessing to me while learning how to behave accordingly to God’s Word!
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 27th, 2012 at
@Amy,
Praise God!! My husband and I were baptized together. What a great experience for a husband and wife to share. Thanks for supporting this site.
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I agree with all of you… my husband even likes me to prepare the clothes he is going to wear… he said he wants to look just as I would like him to… also, he said he loves when I hug him from behind when we are in the supermarket… and when I rub his neck while he is driving during a long road drive…
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
July 17th, 2012 at
That is so sweet. Thanks for sharing.
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Taking off my husbands shoes and socks seemed silly to me when my mother-in-law suggested it to me. But I started doing it when he would work long hours and come home so exhausted he didn’t have the energy to take them off. Now I do regardless of his state of exhaustion because I see it as an act of loving service, like when Jesus washed the feet of his disciples.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
February 21st, 2012 at
@Tiffany,
That’s an amazing act of love Tiffany. I’m so glad to hear that your heart was open to your Mother-in-Laws advice.
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One of the last things I’ve done like this was to “edit” a photo of the two of us he hadn’t seen (he’s rarely interested in taking photos, but likes to have them around) by adding “beloved” which relates back to Song of Solomon and put it in a magnetic frame for him to hang on his cabinet at work. I slipped it into his briefcase.
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My husband usually packs his own lunch for work. Sometimes I’ll surprise him and pack it for him with a little love note hidden in his lunch box 🙂
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Thanks for the reminder. These are great. My husband leaves in the middle of the night for work. I always try to have a snack and drink for him to take with him 🙂
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Wonderful post. I don’t understand the washcloth in the bathroom one though. Maybe it is just my husband, but he would feel like i was babying him, lol. But I do try to do all of the other things and it really does make a difference.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 3rd, 2010 at
@Jessie,
We keep the washcloths in the hallway closet outside of our bedroom, so he often forgets to grab one and doesn’t realize it until he’s already in the shower. I like to anticipate his needs especially after a long day of work. But I understand how a husband could feel babied. I do some things that make him feel babied just to joke with him. Like I’ll try to take off his shoes and socks for him and we just both end up laughing so hard because it wireds him out.
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Jessie Reply:
August 3rd, 2010 at
@The Proverbs Wife,
Ok well that makes more sense now. I told my husband about it and he was like why can’t he get his own towel. But he often forgets one too and I have to go running in there with one. Don’t ya just love them? 🙂
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 3rd, 2010 at
@Jessie,
Exactly. When he forgets it, he’ll call me and ask me to get it for him. I guess I’m just saving myself time by making sure that one is in there before he get’s home 🙂
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I like to put little notes in his lunchbox when I know he has a big meeting or will be having a hard day. Just a little note on a post-it can give him a lift when he needs it.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
July 30th, 2010 at
@Amanda L,
That so true Amanda. Keeping the lines of communication open throughout the day is a great way to let hubby’s know how much we love them.
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Great tips!
-Ashley
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
July 30th, 2010 at
@Ashley,
Thanks Ashley! Have a relaxing Friday.
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Thanks for the reminder. I just sent an email to hubby to let him know I am thinking of him!
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
July 30th, 2010 at
I like to do something similar throughout the week. I text him sweet messages. It’s like a unexpected love letter.
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