A Proverbs Wife

How I Balance Marriage, Home Schooling, Blogging & Home Making

Being a wife, homemaker, blogger and home school mom can be challenging. If I want to become proficient in each of these areas I will need to dedicate time to making them work together as a cohesive unit. This is why I sit down each year and decide ‘how much time is necessary in order for these areas to operate successfully?’

The first thing I try to decide is what is my main priority and list them as such.


Home School


Home making

Listing my priorities will help me to determine how to divide my time effectively. Now that I have a clear picture of what needs to be accomplished, I can begin jotting down an overall picture of how they can all work together. The worst thing that can happen is that I begin giving to much time to any particular area at the expense of neglecting another — doing that can turn into an ugly situation. I have people depending on me to fulfill a particular duty in each of these areas and the best way for me to stay on track is with a plan.

My plan starts with the categories I’ve decided to give my attention too. In each of these categories I’ll jot down some basic guidelines. These guidelines may be altered a bit over time as conditions change but for the most part they usually remain the same from year to year.

Marriage – My husband is my priority which is why when he’s home my rule is to make myself as available as possible in case he needs me. This rule will help with home school planning as well. Knowing that I need a light schedule when my man is home prompts me to plan easier school subject during this time. I also forego any time consuming or detailed blogging tasks.

Home School – I am an avid supporter of the Charlotte Mason teaching style and it is what I use to educate my children. The CM philosophy enables my children take an active role in their education. Because I am a home school mom of four children, it can be challenging to teach multiple grade levels. With the CM lesson plans each grade level is closely strung together which makes it easy to overlap lessons with my three younger children. It’s also great because only 20% of it has to actually be taught versus learned. As we do our daily lessons the children learn without me having to force feed them information which works well for my family. My guideline for this area is to be available to guide, assist and answer questions. I could home school all day but I am careful to adhere to our daily school schedule keeping in mind that there is a point in the day when school is over. I am mindful to dismiss the children and close the schoolroom when appropriate.

Blogging – This area used to be a hard one to manage. After I got the hang of it I loved it and would spend time writing, tweaking and learning more about bloggers. At one point I felt guilty about the amount of time I was comfortable dedicating to it. My blog is a hobby that has turned into a stream of income. It’s that first paid job I’ve ever done that I loved and I could work on my site and other behind the scenes stuff for hours without reservation. This is why it’s all the more important to set guidelines. My blog is still a hobby… I just earn a little bit of income from it now. I don’t desire for it to take up my time like a full time job would. Just as I love blogging, I love being a wife and mom. I am not willing to jeopardize my offline relationships for the sake of a “successful” blog. When school resumes I will be ahead of the game because I’ve already begun implementing a schedule for my blog. I have specific topics that I post about consistently on certain days of the week, many of which can and are pre-scheduled. I also keep and editorial calendar which has allowed me to write and pre-schedule posts up to sixty days in advance. I don’t blog while my husband is home and I schedule my actual blogging time when I’m done with teaching. I do implement these three techniques throughout the day to prevent losing ideas for good material. I am very careful not to allow online time to intrude upon the time when my family needs me.

Homemaking – For this area I can confidently say that I have come full circle. I spent the last five years training and teaching my children about community responsibility. They are so good when it comes to doing their part around the house and this makes setting guidelines this category so mush easier on me. We share the cooking and cleaning which makes everything seem to get done seamlessly. My guideline for this area is to make sure that I write and share the general ‘to-do’ list for the day – which is simply writing down the jobs from my master chore list – and discussing them with my children. This list includes our daily menu and is used side by side with our school schedule which includes breaks for chores and meal preps.

Just sitting here writing out this entire list helped me to feel at ease at the coming of the new school year. Although having guidelines won’t guarantee everyday will run smoothly, it will definitely work as a catalyst to help us get back on track when we are derailed.

Being a wife, a mom to multiple children, a home school mom and blogger involves time and patience but if you give each area the time necessary to make it operate successfully you will reap the rewards of a well managed home. If you have been encouraged or inspired, please use the resources below to share this post with others on the net.

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12 thoughts on “How I Balance Marriage, Home Schooling, Blogging & Home Making

  1. found your blog via wahmtalkradio’s blog. You make it seem so easy. I guess really sticking to training your children in Community Responsibilities has helped. I started doing that when they were little but now I just find it easier -scratch that- not easier just less confrontational to do it myself.

    I really like how you clearly set your priorities and then work on each one to pin point what needs to be done with each one. Thanks for sharing.


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Sara, Hey Sara…I’m sorry sorry to have overlooked your comment and not responded.

    Training children is not easy but it’s worth it. 🙂 If my children are unruly and disobedient it would be hard for me to get much accomplished. My husband has been the one who has stayed on me about letting them do things around here versus me doing them myself and his persistence paid off. 😀


  2. Isn’t it amazing what you can get done with a well-trained work force (children) at your beck and call?! The wisest words I was given as a new mom was to train my children to work with me.


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:


    It is amazing. It took a lot of patience training them but the rewards are beginning to may off as they are getting older. i instill in them a sense of pride when it comes to their work and remind them that the help they bring to the family is so important.


  3. Hearing that the training you provided your children in their younger years is actually beginning to pay off encourages me!

    My oldest is four and I see a little of that training taking hold, but only glimpses here and there. things like setting the table, dusting, and the like are becoming routine…but laundry still litters the floor of her room because putting in into the hamper is, is, is…well, I don’t know what it is, but it ISN’T getting done. So, I press on…teaching homemaking skills and hoping for more of it to “stick!”

    Good Post!


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Georgia Peach,

    Keep it up Georgia. My baby is 6 and still does a terrible job at wiping the tables most days. My oldest on the other hand practically manage the home keeping portion of the home. I believe that it’s important to raise our children to be adults but not hold them responsible as if they were adults. God forbid, if anything were to happen to me I do believe that my two oldest would be a great help to their father (my husband) in managing the home.

    Continue to teach, nurture and encourage good homemaking habits in your daughter. Be sure to look for opportunities to introduce new age appropriate chores/jobs. She will get better with age and practice and become a great help to you as she gets older.


  4. I was just talking to my husband about this yesterday. I need to set a schedule for myself so that I can balance all of this in my life. thanks for sharing how you’ve prioritized.


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:


    Your welcome Tiffany. I enjoyed your recent post with the back to school menu plan for teachers and home school moms. If I was a smart home school mom I would have had some freezer meals stocked in the freezer. So much to do, so little time. Thank you for visiting.


  5. Hey! I stumbled upon your blog from a twitter post from @apichea. Even though I don’t homeschool(my baby is only 8 months!) the rest of it sounds like me! I have a hard time balancing and always feel like something is not getting enough attention. Especially the homemaking area. But again, I loved the post, and I will be back!


    The Proverbs Wife Reply:

    @Rose’s Daughter,

    Hi Rose…another thing that often distracts me from keeping balance is social networking. I’ve had to greatly reduce the amount of time I spend on Twitter, because it was becoming such a huge time suck for me. I don’t know if anyone else has that problem but I can really get caught up in Twitter and waste a whole day (SERIOUSLY!)


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