Why is there such a lack of Titus 2 women in the church? I see many women who jump at the opportunity to jump in the pulpit or join this and that church board yet they do not find it as important to embrace the calling in Titus 2:4-5.
I am at a point where I believe that there is such a need for Titus 2 women in the community who are willing to step up and stand in the gap as marriage“>representatives of wives and moms.
Being a wife and mom are two of the most important roles a Christian woman can operate in yet we are seeing so many young women entering in to marriage and motherhood completely unprepared.
Wives are disrespectful, snarky, condescending and downright rebellious toward their own husbands. They boast about how they cannot wait to get away from their children and want to spend more time away from the home than at home.
Today’s mom wants her independence from the family and does not desire that her family depend on her. She boasts about how she does not cook regularly and brags about how her husband and children are able to fend for themselves at dinnertime.
Is this the Titus 2 women of today? We have more luxuries than any point in history yet we are so far from understanding what it means to love our husband and our children while being keepers at home. A generation of Titus 2 women have abandoned their post and in that single act that rewrote the course of history.
As a result, many little girls found themselves left in limbo. There was no one there to teach them to prepare delicious meals on a budget. Nor was there anyone there to demonstrate the joy in caring for your families clothes. Young girls did not see that folding and mending clothing was the perfect time to pray for each family member. They never experienced the joy of reading to mom while she did the dishes or kneaded bread.
Where are the Titus 2 women that are willing to teach the younger women to care for their homes, love their husbands and their children?
What do young women see when they look at you? Do they see a wife who honors her husband and overlooks his faults? Or on the other hand, do they see someone who is patronizing. Do you demonstrate that your children are at the top of your list of priorities or are they an afterthought?
It does not matter if you did not grow up in the home of a Titus 2 woman. It does not matter if your where raised Christian or not. What does matter is are you willing to accept the Titus 2 calling or will you continue to read Titus 2 repeatedly and it still not have an effect on your life?
I am not pointing the finger at anyone really. In all actuality, I am taking an inventory of my self. I am looking in the mirror of God’s word and determining if I see His reflection or my own. When I read His holy word, I am asking myself, “am I living what His word says?” I do not want to be like the world.
I do not want to be like the moms on television. I am not striving to live the fab life like Kimora or become popular like the Real Housewives of D.C., ATL, New Jersey or anywhere else.
I want to be more like Jesus. I want to walk in His footsteps and have Him say, “This is my child in whom I am well pleased”. Some may say that Titus 2 was for that time and is no longer relevant, but I implore you that all of God’s word is relevant.
Where are all of the Titus 2 women? What are you doing to be more like the women in Titus 2? I would love to know how you are applying Titus 2 to your daily life.
I love your blog, I am Christian so it sets well with me. I challenge you in asking the question where are the younger women who want to learn? We think our lives should be so busy that we don’t have time to learn. Society now puts the stigma of being an mature woman (which I am) you are put out to pasture as no longer having any usefulness.
Kids now days think they should entertained at church, and OH! MY! to talk to or sit by a mature person. I go to a large church, and the older people just visit the older people, and there is nothing to combine the wisdom of the mature, so the young can be exposed, or even want to.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at
@Linda,
I do agree that in churches (at least in mine), ages seem to stick together. Even our Sunday school classes are set up that way. I think my church in particular meant we’ll but it isolates groups and makes it hard for them to intermingle with other groups.
I go out of my way to find older women who can be mentors and inspiration to me. One of the greatest examples of a godly women/marriage lives next door to me. She has three adult children who are younger than me who have married and begun starting families.
There are MANY women who email me asking me to mentor them which I have tried to do as much as possible via emails but there are more request then I can handle.
I am considering taking you up on the challenge. I wonder how many women/readers of my blog would be willing to be sort of a surrogate Titus 2 mentor to women who were in need of it? Would they accept the responsibility of emailing and encouraging young women, new wives and new mothers?
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This summer I actually hosted at my house a couple meetings for mom’s of boys (such as myself) to have a chance to ask one or two “older” moms (who have raised godly sons through high school) questions/get advice regarding raising their sons to live for God. It was something I wanted and I there were other mom’s who wanted it to. It was really nice to have that opportunity.
We need more of that. I know my Pastor’s wife that came over and spoke to us open’s her schedule to mom’s who want to meet one on one with her for this as well 😉
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at
@Tracy @ Hall of Fame Moms,
Tracy it’s so important for us to have fellowship but it’s even more beneficial when that fellowship focuses on godliness. We definitely need more of that.
Did you initially received resistance and I’d love for you to share how presented the subject to your friends?
The biggest drawback I hear from women is that they don’t know how to get something like mentoring/focused fellowships together.
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Tracy @ Hall of Fame Moms Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at
@The Proverbs Wife,
I asked the Pastor’s wife (we have 3 at our church now) if she’d be open to talk to a small group of us and then I sent out invitations to a bunch of ladies from my church who have sons. I even included ladies outside of my church.
The first meeting in June (did it on a Tues morning between breakfast and lunch so we only had snacks) there were about 11 women total and 15 kids here. The 2nd meeting and last I intended was for mom’s who didn’t get to come to the first and that was last week…we had about 6 total (including speaker) and several kids.
Of course not everyone who was invited came or showed interest but I knew I wanted the advice and figured so did other mom’s.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at
@Tracy @ Hall of Fame Moms,
Thanks for the feedback. Sometimes it’s hard to take that first step, but hopefully each comment here along with the post will encourage women to start relationships like these in their areas.
Thanks Tracy 🙂
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This post really echoed something that’s been on my mind a lot lately: Mentoring. There is such a lack of role models for young women today and that is really having a negative effect in our society.
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The Proverbs Wife Reply:
August 24th, 2010 at
@Melinda,
It so true Melinda.
I love your new site and template. Aspen is huge and Abbey is getting so big. I hope you’ve been well. I enjoyed reading through your recent posts. I’m just taking a quick break between homeschooling to reply to emails. Have a great day!!
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