Desiring our husbands physically is GODLY and pleasing one another is encouraged in scripture. Withholding physically intimacy is detrimental to your marriage and it’s exactly what Satan wants us to do.
You do what you want in your marriage but don’t say I didn’t tell you.
4 – Cleave to your husband.
Listen up because this one is really important. Cleaving to your husband will strengthen the marital bond. My husband and I spend a lot of time together.
We’ve structured our lives so that we spend more waking hours together than apart.
When we are together we are constantly learning more about one another and growing together in our knowledge of God.
Cleaving forces you to sharpen each other and become one. Some ways my husband and I cultivate oneness are:
We go to bed together. We don’t stay awake pursuing hobbies and we’ve structured our life so that neither of us have to work beyond our bedtime.
We eat most of our meals together when we are home together.
We share in each others hobbies. Neither of us could care any less about the others hobbies. What we are concerned with is how good it makes the other feel and how it’s helping them pursue their interest.
5 – Let him lead.
This is the one that usually drives women nuts and that’s okay. In my home, my husband is the boss and he’s great at it. He’s the boss because
Respect for me is showing honor to my husband. I honor him in my words, thoughts and actions. On serious issues or in the midst of a disagreement I try my best to speak to him as though I am speaking to GOD Himself.
7 – Speak well of your husband to others.
I find myself apologizing to friends because when ever we talk about husbands I constantly talking about my husbands good qualities.
I speak well about my husband intentionally. It’s not as if he never does a single thing to get on my nerves, the truth is that I’m to busy following my passion to build up marriages to focus on any negative aspects of my husbands.
I’m to busy teaching the younger women to love their husbands and their children to even place a spotlight on any of mu husbands shortcomings. I don’t have time to put my husband down when I could be building up the great blessings that the Lord is doing through my husband.
8 – Pray for your husband.
I mean REAL PRAYER. Not prayers to GOD to change your husband into who you want him to be, but prayers for GOD to change him into who HE wants your husband to be.
No husband will ever do everything perfectly and neither will we. However we must trust that GOD is able to work in our husbands to make them better in HIS time.
As wives we should focus on doing everything we can from this list and the Bible to help make the change easier. Swallowing this final step is made so much easier when we remember who many of our faults were overlooked by God.