I’m going to get right to the point of this topic because it’s too important for me to waste time coming up with some catchy opening paragraph to get you reeled in.
You read the title of this post and apparently it sparked your interest. Since you’ve already clicked on the link leading to my site, I suppose you’d like to see the #1 thing to look for in a Christian husband right away.
Well here it is.
The number one thing Christian women should look for in a husband is that he’s a Christian. (Tweet This)
Here’s the kicker though. In order to know what to look for, we must know what a Christian looks like and the simplest way to know what a Christian looks like is to read the Bible.
The simplest way to know what a Christian looks like is to read the Bible. (Tweet This)
The Bible has pages upon pages full of Godly men.
Here are some of the more basic ones that you should be able to identify during the time you spend getting to know a guy before marriage.
1. He must be Faithful.
Is he a man who seeks God’s direction and follows it? He should be consistently consulting God on his present and future decisions. This will determine whether or not you’ll be able to trust his decisions concerning your marriage and children.
Hebrews 11:8-10 “By faith Abraham, when he was called to go out into a place which he should after receive for an inheritance, obeyed; and he went out, not knowing whither he went. By faith he sojourned in the land of promise, as in a strange country, dwelling in tabernacles with Isaac and Jacob, the heirs with him of the same promise: For he looked for a city which hath foundations, whose builder and maker is God.”
2. He must be Courageous.
He should be a man who is not willing to compromise his faith in God. How does he act when people mock God or dismiss the deity of God? Does he shirk back in fear of offending others by his faith in God? A Godly man is willing to walk and speak boldly regarding what he believes.
Joshua 24:15 “And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.”
3. He must be Honest.
Does he ask you to cover (lie) for him? Does he lie to you or others?
Lying is a character trait that never leads to anything good. We see in the life of faithful Abraham that his lie brought a curse on King Abimilech (Genesis 12) and in the case of Ananias and his wife Sapphira, they both experienced an untimely death when they realized they’d been caught in a lie (Acts 5).
4. He must be Prayerful.
Is he a man who prays? Not just at meals but about all things? A mans prayer life is a direct reflection of their relationship with God. It demonstrates that he realizes the limitations of his humanness and the deity of God. This is going to be very important because in marriage when things get tough your husband will not be able to fix everything but God can. You must know that when neither of you can fix whats broken that your husband will turn to one who can fix all things.
Daniel 6:10 “Now when Daniel knew that the writing was signed, he went into his house; and his windows being open in his chamber toward Jerusalem, he kneeled upon his knees three times a day, and prayed, and gave thanks before his God, as he did aforetime”.
5. He must be Committed.
Does he stick with the things he committed to until they are finished? If he is not able to stick with the little things how then will he remain committed to a life long marriage commitment. Does he change friends, churches or jobs often? You want a man who will finish what he’s started and honor his commitments.
II Timothy 4:7 “I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith:”
6. He must be Compassionate.
How does he treat those who are weaker than him? Does he take advantage of them or show compassion? How he treats those who are weaker than him while you are dating is a peek into how he will treat you, his future wife.
Ephesians 5:7-8 “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honour unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.Finally, be ye all of one mind, having compassion one of another, love as brethren, be pitiful, be courteous”.
Unmarried Christian women, I admonish you to use this list a guide to help give you an idea of the eternal characteristics to look for in a husband rather than just superficial things like financial status, looks and possessions.
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