If there’s anything I’m good at besides being a wife it’s speaking my mind.
If I’m asked for my thoughts I’m going to give them. Shoot, I’ll even give my $0.02 sometimes when I’m not asked.
But the beauty of having this blog is that I get to freely dish out healthy doses of unsolicited advice about marriage.
As you may know, I’ve been married to my sweet and wonderful husband going on 13 years and if I had it to do all over again I’d do it in a heart beat. Our marriage is just that amazing to me.
We look forward to being with one another and part of that has to do with trust.
He trusts me completely with everything that truly matters to him. His faith, his heart, his children (yes I gave birth to them but they’re his babies), his finances and his future.
He knows beyond a shadow of a doubt that he can trust me.
He knows this because I have a track record of trustworthiness with him. When your man can trust you, I MEAN REALLY TRUST YOU…there’s nothing and no one that can come between that.
That’s part of what it means to be ONE with your husband. It’s when both of you are so close that there’s no room for division.
Sometimes when someone doesn’t know us well they’ll jokingly say something to me like, “Germaine said you like be the boss“.
When I dig a little deeper into the context of the conversation I find that what he really said was, “I’ll talk to my wife about it” or “nah man, the wife won’t like that”.
A comment like that could easily plant a seed of division if I allow it too. Division can easily creep into a marriage externally or internally. While we can’t control the external sources of division we can control the internal ones.
As a wife we must determine each day if we are standing with or against our husbands and that begins with our actions.
Are your actions strengthening or weakening your marriage?
….Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation; and every city or house divided against itself shall not stand: Matthew 12:25
If we are doing any of the following 6 things a wife should never do, we are putting cracks in our marriage that may ultimately cause it to crumble.
1. Talk trash behind her husbands back publicly or privately.
2. Demean her husband publicly or privately.
3. Use the children as pawns for revenge.
4. Disrespect her in-laws.
5. Lie or be deceptive. Not even those little mythical lies some like to call “white lies”. There’s no such thing. A lie is a lie in the eyes of God.
6. Cheat emotionally or physically.
These are the deal breakers. If you want to destroy your marriage, do these six things.
There’s no gray area when it comes to building up or tearing down your marriage, your either doing one or the other.
Hopefully you made a choice to be a builder. If so I want to pray with you.
Please give us the strength to be wives that bring you glory. Help us to honor you despite how perfect or imperfect our husbands may be. Help us realize that our choice to honor or dishonor you is not dependent upon our husband.
Help us be marriage builders who seek after the Titus 2 command and who are desirous to have and demonstrate a God centered, joy filled marriage.
In the mighty name of Jesus we pray.
If we were to rename this post “10 Things a Wife Should Never Do” what would you add?
Here are the 3 things every Christian wife should be doing.