It’s so easy to become cynical, condescending and critical in marriage but that’s not the way God intends for His sons and daughters to live.
He gave a perfect example of oneness in Him, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. Instead of being at odds with your husband why don’t you make a choice.
Choose to build him up.
Choose to be Godly in what you say and do for him. It’s hard, especially if your heart is growing colder toward him, but I can testify that God can take a broken and bitter heart and make it love again.
What was it that stood out or attracted you to your husband when you were dating?
9 thoughts on “How to Mend Your Marriage with Words”
Weekend giveaway!? After I first met my husband, I told my friend (his sister in law) that he was handsome, nice, but he walked like a duck. Honestly, lol!! He was different from all the other guys I had met. A bit on the ban boy side, but the biggest heart. We will be having our 10 year anniversary in July. It hasn’t been easy. Like every marriage, we have had our ups and downs. I continue to thank God for keeping His hand over our marriage and family.
I pray daily to see my husband as God sees him. Also it helps to always remember that I too am not perfect and if I want to see change in my husband then I need to start with me.
Weekend giveaway? 🙂 my husbands true “southern gentleman” personality drew me to him over 8 years ago. He still opens doors for me and holds my hand when we are out. We were/are best friends, and have been married for 4 years now!
To be honest I can’t remember what drew me to him. We’ve been married for 12 yrs. In these 12 yrs we’ve faced so many obstecles and we have learned to coexist. He doesn’t have a problem letting me know all that is wrong with me. And I have guarded myself and have gotten really good at lashing out. I remember being happy “before” him. No one to tell me how to act, what to say and pointing out my faults. I don’t think I measure up to what or how I should be as a wife or human being. I remember early on him telling be I became someone when he married me. I heard a sermon by John Piper the other day that marriage is not about love but about a covenant. So I will hold onto our covenant
By the way I appreciate what you post
I totally agree and would add one small, well maybe not so small, thing. In addition to the words is the tone of voice.
Something that really helped my husband and me was to begin to understand the concept of contempt. My bent was toward self-contempt; his was toward other-centered contempt. If he spoke to me in a tone that felt contemptuous (which often he did not realize he was doing), I felt pushed back and belittled.
As we have become aware of how important tone of voice is in our communication, our marriage has flourished.
Thank you for the good article.
The Proverbs Wife Reply:
April 14th, 2014 at
Thanks so much for including this comment @Sharon. This is something I’ve had to work on in regard to me own tone and how I perceived my husbands. 🙂
Great! Thank you, can you give some more practical ways of implementing this? I am really struggling in this area, and have been praying for God to show me and then you wrote this! Thank you!
The Proverbs Wife Reply:
April 26th, 2014 at
Hi @kellie. I have a lot of previous articles on taming the tongue as well as those realted to ways to build the marriage. You should start by checking out the articles in the “marriage” section of the blog. You can always access it by placing your cursor over the “Homemkaing” tab at the top of the blog and then scrolling down to “marriage” or “Biblical Living”. Here is the link too: http://k3e.618.mywebsitetransfer.com/tag/marriage
I hope this helps and I will keep you lifted up in prayer.