When you want to yell at your husband or kids, but don’t you have gained a victory over the enemies plans to destroy your family.
Satan wants to see you angry, frustrated and out of control. He loves to see you take the reins off of your words and say whatever comes to mind. In fact, he snickers when you don’t use wisdom over your words and allow your emotions boil over and erupt onto your loved ones.
I know first hand what it is to loose the battle over words and emotions. I was an argumentative wife and mother who yelled until God led me to the solution in His word.
I was tired off yelling out of frustration and anger. It was hurting me mentally, emotionally, spiritually and physically. Not only was it hurting me, but it was destroying my marriage and my children.
I didn’t want to be a yeller and I’m sure neither do you. If you’re reading this, you’re probably at a point where you realize you have to change, but you don’t know how. That’s where I was when I decided to something had to give.
There were ten things I knew could happen if I didn’t take control in this area of my life.
My marriage would end in divorce.
My husband and I would grow farther and farther apart.
My marriage would be miserable.
My children would suffer from anxiety.
My children would probably duplicate my habits with my grandkids.
My children would possibly reject my faith.
My husband and children would think I was a hypocrite.
My children wouldn’t have a healthy outlook on marriage and parenting.
I’d be teaching my kids distain for their father in my tone and words.
My kids could grow up feeling unloved.
I refused to allow any of these scenarios to take place in my life and I want to make sure they don’t happen in yours.
There are several things you can do right away to begin the process of breaking the hold that this communication style has on your life. I talk about them in depth in my book Remove From Me This Venomous Tongue, but I’m going to give you four actions you can begin doing right away.
Action #1: Repent
Tell your husband and/or children how sorry you are for the way you’ve used your words with them in the past. Let them know that you have thrown yourself on Gods mercy and are expecting Him to help you become and better wife and mom when it comes to controlling your anger and communicating.
Action #2: Enlist Help
Get your husband and/or children on board with you as you work through the book. The best way they can help is by praying for you, with you and by having grace. You will not change overnight so you’ll need their support and forgiveness when you resort to your old habits.
Action #3: Dig In
Prayer and scripture study specific to the topic of communication are going to play a huge part in your spiritual transformation. We are spirit first and then flesh and this issue isn’t going to just be a matter of changing habits. It’s going to be a heart and soul change that will take place in your life and that can only come from time spent in the word. I search the Bible cover to cover and laid out the scriptures and what they say about how we communicate and provided practical ways to implement the Biblical principles in everyday life.
Action #4: Be Patient
It took me nearly three years to finally have a grasp on my emotions, because at the end of the day, it was my emotions that were out of control. Those emotions were fueled by untrue or distorted thoughts. I had to be patient as God transformed and renewed my mind. As He changed the way I thought, the way I acted began to change. Be willing to be patient with the process.
Why do I share the fact that I struggled in this area?
I share it because I want you to know about Father Gods redemptive power. Where the devil tells you, you’ll never be any better, God comes in and proves that’s a lie.
I want you to know that it’s not just you. Many women struggle in this area while others don’t. There are so many reasons why we communicate they way we do, stemming from our upbringing to what we’ve allowed ourselves to believe is a healthy way to communicate.
None of that is important. The only thing that matters is are you willing to do what needs to be done to change the future for your family.
When you’re ready, I want you to download a copy of the Remove From Me This Venomous Tongue devotional, then grab your Bible and a pencil. That’s all you’ll need to put you on the path to breaking this curse in your life.
You’ve got this!!
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