I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not to write a post on the subject of what husbands can do to tell their wives they love her without saying a word.
After reading 13 Things a Wife Can Do To Tell Your Husband You Love Him Without Saying a Word, many women and some men have repeatedly requested that I write a similar post for husbands.
My struggle with writing a post for husbands was that;
1. Biblically speaking, it is not a woman’s place to teach or usurp authority over a man concerning God’s commands. God desires that another man stands in that role.
2. I did not want wives to use this post as a tool to manipulate their husbands into being the man they want him to be.
So after prayerful consideration and counsel from my husband, he came up with this list to be used by husbands as a way to encourage them to walk in their role as leaders of their families and lovers of their wives.
Wives are free to use the list and email it to their husbands, but it is by no designed to be a tool to manipulate or guilt husbands into submitting to your will. 😀
The best way for wives to help her husband become a great man of God is to:
1. Be obedient to God in your calling as a Biblical wife.
2. Pray for and with your husband as much as possible (everyday).
3. Encourage him in the Lord and love him gracefully, mercifully and with long-suffering as he grows in maturity with God.
13 Ways To Tell Your Wife You Love Her Without Saying A Word
1 – Buy her something she likes.
2 – Help her with household chores from time to time.
3 – Take on one of her roles concerning the kids. (Give the kids a bath, etc.)
4 – Give her time to be alone. Take the kids out for a few hours or send her somewhere for a few hours.)
5 – When you get home from work, do your best to acknowledge her in some way. For example: a kiss or hug.
6 – Be a good provider. Do what you can make her feel financially secure. This is especially true for women who have given up careers to be a full-time wife and mother.
7 – Make time to listen to her talk. This is especially true if she is a stay at home mom, Homeschool mom or mom to young kids. It can become isolating and lonely at times because so much of our time is devoted to caring for the family that we often allow our fellowship with friends to fall by the wayside.
8 – Be sensitive to her emotions. Women can get emotional at times, which often shows up as anxiety, stress, depression, etc. Whenever this is the case simply refer back to tips 1 through 7.
9 – Keep her car washed and filled with gas.
10 – Pray for her asking God to help her be the wife and mother He desires her to be.
11 – Be patient with her as she learns how to be the wife in Proverbs 31. Acknowledge when you see that she is living up to the verses she is studying.
12 – Step in and make sure that she has a healthy relationship with your mother. This can be one of the hardest areas for us as wives when we feel dishonored by your mom. Do what you can to help them love one another.
13 – Encourage her to do things she likes by giving her time, even if it makes no sense to you. If she likes blogging, spending time on Pinterest or knitting. Listen when she shares something that excites her.
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