Are you overly concerned with what people think and say about you?
I know that it can be extremely hard to overlook the opinions of our peers, competitors and naysayers especially when such a strong desire to fit in resides in our hearts.
But today I want to help you move beyond placing so much value on what people think about you and put more focus on what GOD says about you.
One thing I’ve learned is that you can never please everyone nor will you ever get everyone to like you. My husband tells me to be mindful in the use of the words ever, always and never because they are so absolute in their description. Without proper evidence, the use of any of these words could be an exaggeration
For example, when one says to their spouse, “You never put your clothes away when you take them off” what they are implying is that every single time the spouse takes off their clothes, they leave them out. Many of us use the words never, ever and always when referring to something that someone does or doesn’t do very often. And if we are really honest, we really don’t mean always or never as in ever. We will often use these words to exaggerate our point.
However, today I am using the word never and it will not be an exaggeration.
When it comes to pleasing people you will NEVER….and I do mean NEVER…be able to please everyone.
This is one bitter pill that you’ll just have to swallow.
There will ALWAYS be someone who doesn’t like you, or the way you do things, or what you do.
But how do we deliver ourselves from wanting to be accepted by people? Well for one we need to stop being so self centered and begin to be Jesus centered. Colossians 3:2
When we are Jesus centered we are not concerned with how we will appear to man, but more-so how we will appear in the eyes of Jesus.
When we are Jesus centered, we are not caught up in trying to do what will make our friends happy. We are completely focused on what will make God happy.
Not only is this self-centeredness becoming the case in real life, but it’s also becoming and issue amongst bloggers. Bloggers are admitting that they are not writing their hearts desire for fear of what someone will say about what they’ve written. Now let’s be clear….I am not referring to back lash from a controversial post. Nor am I referring to a post where someone is attacking a gender, religion, race, demographic or otherwise. That’s not what I’m referring too. Most people who right such posts are expecting to get judged and criticized by their peers.
What I am talking about is bloggers who will write, delete, re-write, edit, delete, re-write and then trash a post out of fear of how people will respond to it. They don’t trash the posts because they fear that it won’t please God. NO….They trash the post because of what people will think of them. They trash the post because of what people will say about them.
The same is true of real life. How many time have your reconsidered how to style your hair or what to decided to wear all because of what people would say or think?
It’s a new year and it’s time to be Delivered From People.
Yes I know, it’s easier said than done. But the fact of the matter is that until you are delivered, you won’t be able to live at your full potential. Fear of acceptance will cause you to hide your gifts and talents out of fear of what people will think and say.
God has given you the unique ability to offer a specific gift or talent to the body of Christ. It is when we cover that gift out of earthly fear, that we make the power of God null and void in our lives.
Don’t think for a minute that I don’t struggle with the same issues of acceptance, because I do. But what I do in response to those feelings is what is making me a stronger believer. When the fear of being criticized by my peers fills my heart and mind, I ask good for HIS direction. I ask him to tell me if the thing I am planning to write, do, wear or say will bring HIM glory. It is then that I am filled with the faith of God in spite of my fears. So what are some tips for overcoming people? I’m so glad you asked.
- PRAY– Ask God what he thinks about anything you are planning to do is the best way to be delivered from the opinions of people.
- READ THE BIBLE – Search for scriptures that will give you courage to face the opinions of people. One of my favorite verses is Jeremiah 1:8 which says, “Be not afraid of their faces: for I am with thee to deliver thee, saith the LORD.”
- EXERCISE YOUR FAITH – Act on what God has revealed to you in His word and through prayer. Walk in confidence by having the faith and courage to do what He has encouraged you to do.
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Saidah @ A Proverbs Wife